AIBU to be furious DH is paying for wedding?

[4dogs]

I had another thread on here about DSD’s wedding plans. She got engaged 3 yrs ago and booked quite a fancy wedding. With 6 weeks to go it transpired she still has £3,200 left to pay (original bill was £4,200). We gave them £1k earlier this year (which was my money not DH’s). DSD and fiancee have child. DSD works a few part time cleaning jobs, fiancee does not work, he did have a job but stopped turning up for reasons unknown.

DH and I agreed not to pay as we don’t really have the money but now it transpires he is taking a loan and paying.

In the meantime fiancee puts posts on FB about don’t let a job wear you out, it’s not worth it and DSD posts pictures of them out for a pub meal.

I honestly think my brain is going to explode. DH just says his daughter was sobbing over not being able to pay and I would do the same for mine (I bloody wouldn’t).

I am on the verge of kicking him out over this. Do I just need to calm down and get over it?

[Motoko]

Gah, *uneXpected. Blooming typos!

[Foslady]

So he has a go at you about things you said when in a manic phase and was sectioned.
You remind him you were in a manic phase, sectioned and not even classed as legally responsible as you were ill at the time and his response is 😂?
Wow - didn’t think he could get any lower! And if he came back what on earth other than maintaining your car could he bring positive to the relationship???!!!

[TurtleCavalryIsSeriousShit]

The laughing face is to show you 'he is not angry anymore'. Now he will start being nice and try to reel you back in.

I'm late to this but I've followed from the beginning.

Like a pp said, you are a lot stronger than you realise. Honestly, don't let him reel you back in please? You are doing so well.

[EileenAlanna]

Are there any market research places near you? I started doing this a few years ago & it's been a life saver for me financially. I'm looking at dog biscuits next week for £15 (it'll probably take all of 20 minutes to complete the session) gave my "expert" opinion on delicious iced caramel coffee last week for £10 & have helped decide the fate of Thornton's/Cadbury's etc chocolates, sausages, perfumes & a host of other things from between £10 - £20 a time.
It's not regular money but I get the call often enough for it to make all the difference to me financially.

[4dogs]

EileenAlanna that sounds like fun, I will look into it.

Feeling a bit flat the past few days but that’s ok, it will pass.

[finished31]

Hope your ok op

[EileenAlanna]

It is fun OP. Got into it purely by accident, was walking past the building where they hold the sessions one day when they were outside on an occasional recruitment drive. I didn't get many at first but I live within walking distance (live-in church caretaker in the city centre) & can do just about any day & time they need so I became one of their favourite testers lol. I did one last Christmas over a 3 day period, about 20 -30 mins each day & got £60. That's way more than I normally have to live on for a week.
You get to know the other testers on a nodding & exchanging a few pleasant words basis so it's a bit of interaction, which suits me. I'm pretty much a loner & like it that way tbh.

[Ohmygoodnessreally]

Hope you’re ok op x

[Jux]

Thinking of you, 4dogs. I lurked on your old thread, and have just come across this one. You have come a looooong way!

I suspect your ex has been emotionally abusing you for a long time, and so wouldn't be too quick to take the whole responsibility for your isolation on yourself. I mean, it's possible that your two friends faded away because of your ex, as much as your MH.

The bookkeeping course sounds like a great idea. I love the way you describe it, the logic and neatness. I totally agree!

[Nearlyshitmypantsthere]

Hi 4dogs 🙋‍♀️ , how have you been? Hope you're well . A bookkeeping course is a great idea 👌 It'll also keep your mind busy and give you a focus. Take care x

[PonderingPanda]

@4dogs - how are things?

[JingsMahBucket]

Oh dear, the wedding would be right about now @4dogs ? I hope you’re okay and out of this situation.

[IAmTheMumWhoKnocks]

You're doing great OP. Hope you are feeling better and things are ok

[EL8888]

I remember your last thread. I would be raging if l was you, l completely see your perspective. Can't they pay for their own wedding. That's what I did 🙄. Good news about the opticians

[OkayGo]

Hope you’re ok op

[strawberry2017]

How are things OP? X