To think I met some of the nastiest people ever today?

[FloralTeacup]

I was at a shopping centre today with my mum and DP. As the escalator wasn’t working, the alternative was a large flight of steep stairs or the lift. As my mum suffers with a heart condition that leaves her breathless easily, we went in the lift.

As the doors of the lift began to close, a young couple with a pushchair hastily tried to get on. As DP put him arm up to stop the doors closing, the woman of the two angrily said “Why are you letting ‘t doors close on me! Fucking idiot,”. DP actually APOLOGISED (despite the fact he had tried to stop the doors from shutting). The woman went on, aggressively, “You shouldn’t even be in the lift, there’s stairs over there!”. My mum calmly said “I have a heart condition, I can’t manage the stairs,”. But the woman and her partner just kept on, insisting that we shouldn’t be in the lift, that we were idiots, blah blah. My mum turned to me and said that stress isn’t good for her either (she was getting really worked up by this abuse). The man overheard her and said “Yeah, stress doesn’t do me good, either!”. As if the absolute buffoon was the one who should be stressed.

On and on they went, the entire time we were in the lift (which felt like an eternity). They just wouldn’t stop. I just wanted them pack it in; it was upsetting me, it was upsetting my mum. I said “shut up,” exasperated, as we were about to get out the lift. They didn’t respond to that.

Ahh, just writing that all out again has me shaking and feeling upset. I just can’t understand how and why people like that exist. Just nastiness and aggression for no reason at all.

Feel free to share any similar stories! I know MNetters have a few.

[Ladyofletters]

People like that will inevitably mouth off to someone rougher and tougher than them and end up getting a broken nose. I wouldn’t worry OP karma will come round eventually.

[OneOfTheGrundys]

Awful, awful people. Their lives must be full of spite and bitterness. Good.

I hope your mum was ok. My mum has a friend with an imaginary tip. When he meets people like that he just rubs his hands together - ‘Another candidate for my landfill site...’.

[ReapersHowler]

Sound like my neighbours. The last thing they got aggressive over was the council installing a fence in our garden. Apparently we got it because of them despite it having been in the works since before they moved in and the council just informing us it was being installed.
They are genuinely horrible people very aggressive to each other and their kids, their children are horrible too I'm sorry to say. They have no limits just don't give a shit and will come into my house uninvited and take food or just destroy my daughters bedroom while she wasn't home.

[hereforasillygoosetime]

What nutjobs!

Two white van drivers took my right of way yesterday in a village - they were racing through speeding, cars parked on their side of the road, they just swerved onto my road and forced me to stop...didn't say thank you...third van driver tries to do the same but I drove forward to force him to pull in, the twunt swore maniacally at me as I drove past, my 8 yo dd was in the front seat. Unbelievable some people!

[Alsohuman]

Sounds like the time we landed at an airport where people who’d been perfectly capable of walking to the gate appeared to have lost the use of their legs during the flight, so my mum’s (bought and paid for) wheelchair was occupied. I stood in front of a line of cheeky fuckers and asked “Which of you bastards has got our wheelchair?”

Eventually one of them reluctantly got up, muttering passive aggressively about old women wanting special treatment! My mum was 93! In the end we reclaimed the right wheelchair. I wanted to rip their fucking heads off.

[MrsAJ27]

Absolute scum.

I hope you and your mum are feeling a bit better now

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

I wouldn't have gave them any explanation.
You didn't owe them one. Fuckin arse holes.
I agree their poor little one with those idiots for parents.

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

So they actually still got in the lift but. They were still pissing and moaning.

[Weepatchesoflove]

Jeez, that must have been quite scary being stuck in a confined space with them. I hope your mum is ok and it’s not caused any medical issues and it’s not stressed her (and you) too much.

I think people are becoming meaner. Even on here threads can end up with some really bad name calling when there is disagreements. Politicians shout over each other, make snarky nasty comments at each other. Comments that are left online can be wicked. There was a thread earlier by a mum who said her daughter was working in a food place (I think) and she was saying how horrible people were to her daughter.

Maybe it’s becoming habit to be nasty?

[bumblenbean]

There are some batshit people around. Can’t understand the aggression of some people.

The other week a guy barged into my brother - one of the most placid and chilled out people you could meet- on a street in London. DB said ‘careful mate’ and carried on walking and the bloke completely lost it, started shouting and swearing, calling him a cunt and even picked up a handful of stones and threw them at him before following him down the street still hurling abuse. Bizarre.

[Tellmetruth4]

On the extremely rare occasions I look at the Mail Online I think the same but I realise they’re actually a minority of humanity and I relax. I agree its scary when you see how nasty some humans can be though. There are some very insecure, bitter and angry people out there for sure.

[PumpkinP]

There are so many nasty people around. I was crossing a road with my children (the crossing where you wait in the middle) as I was waiting in the middle, a man stopped his car and started screaming abuse at me saying that I walked out in front of his car. I hadn’t he was nowhere near when I crossed, he was just screaming abuse at me all infront of my children, the worst part was no cars were stopping on the other side meaning I was trapped having to listen to him for ages!

[SignOnTheWindow]

@OneOfTheGrundys An imaginary tip - that's genius! I'm nicking that.

OP, poor you - it's really upsetting and unsettling when you're confronted with evidence that some people really are completely and irredeemably foul. I find it helps to think about how thoroughly miserable their journey through life will be with that shit attitude.

[FloralTeacup]

Just finished a lovely roast dinner to come back to all these responses!

Thank you - my mum and I are ok. In fact, it was me who started crying about 15 mins later when we sat down in a cafe! I just felt so angry and upset that they spoke to my mum like that.

I liked the comment about replying with “nevertheless...”. Brilliant! Some absolutely ridiculous people out there by the sounds of it. It really does take all sorts! I really can’t fathom how people can behave and react in such extreme, aggressive ways.

[YouJustDoYou]

Oh, gosh - absolute nutjob fuckwits. I once did similar - didn't hear at all that someone had come up behind me, was probably distracted because my dad had just died and was off in my own world. The lift doors opened (I always stand to the side in case anyone in needs to come out), I then stepped forward and went to turn around to see if the doors needing holding for anyone when a woman in a mobility scooter just verbally tore into me, fucking this, fucking bitch, fucking move, etc. All in the literal second it took for me to step in, step to the side and turn and start to reach out to the buttons to see if the door needed holding. The doors shut and she was cunting under her breath, "rude bitch" (about me) etc. I was younger then and nowhere near as thick skinned as I am now but I burst into tears after she left.

[FloralTeacup]

@PumpkinP Oh, that’s awful! Were you on your own with the children? It’s awful feeling powerless and having to listen to that sort of abuse. It leaves you utterly gobsmacked. Then you think of all the things you could have said, days later.

[YouJustDoYou]

Every single other moment of frighteningly utter aggression has been from (male) road rage drivers.

[LadyRannaldini]

I definitely would have said “sorry, have you read through my medical history, how on earth do you know I can take the stairs?!!!” Vile

I might have said 'learn to keep your legs together then you wouldn't need to be such a nuisance'.

[Cherrysherbet]

Horrible behaviour. What absolute idiots. I wonder how people like that get through life. It must be exhausting to be so angry. Hope you are all ok op.

[bobsyourauntie]

Last year, stayed in a budget hotel, went down for breakfast. I had to squeeze through a gap to get to our table. Woman in the way had her arm draped back over the chair, so I said excuse me, but she didn’t move so I had to just squeeze through.

She then proceeded to glare at me throughout breakfast for an hour giving me the evil eye. I had no idea why. We tried to outwait her but she sat there and wouldn’t leave.

As we got up to go, she deliberately pulled out every single chair around her table so we had to move them. I just laughed at her which didn’t go down well. She stomped off, came back and glared again then stomped off again.

We got to the door to upstairs and they were stood there as her card wouldn’t work. Her husband (who was thoroughly embarrassed) said to her, let them open the door. She said, no, she might hurt my arm again! And stomped off.

I had absolutely no idea if I had hurt her arm when I squeezed through, I’d said excuse me and she had refused to move her arm.

Totally batshit. We avoided breakfast the next day. I really hope they’re not there again this year when we are.....

[PonderingPanda]

They have no limits just don't give a shit and will come into my house uninvited and take food or just destroy my daughters bedroom while she wasn't home.

How do they get in your home?

[longtimelurkerhelen]

@FloralTeacup It is a normal reaction, hope you both feel better now.

When anyone attacks your family verbal or otherwise, it gets the blood up.

I remember when I was 18 (looong ago) and walking back to the car after being in the cinema with my parents and boyfriend, some drunken idiot barged into my mum and knocked her flying. I just saw red and flew at him my Dad and Boyfriend had to drag me away.

I have never before or since done anything like that. It was just primal. Dont mess with family

[justasking111]

We lived in the country narrow passing places, the number of times we reversed for numpties who would not pull in but speed past. One day OH cracked at a man who used to visit relatives regularly. He stopped the car and stared at them, they would not reverse two yards. They stared back, he phoned home and said to DS bring me a newspaper and a mug of coffee with the lid on. DS did. He then sat in car reading the paper, the idiot gave up reversed and never tried it again.

I do wonder sometimes if in built up areas people just get tired of the sheer bulk of human beings crammed close together and snap.

[IamPickleRick]

I grew up surrounded by people like this. Just walking to school was enough to get a threat of battering by the local scum (who weren’t going to school anyway, they used to just hang around in the car park by the flags all day).

I know it’s not the right thing to do but in these situations, I come back larger. Not shouting or swearing, but I seem to have an ingrained button marked “explode”.

People get very shocked by it because I look like a very middle class little lady who wouldn’t give anyone any bother. That’s why they do it, they know you’ll not cause a fuss.

[IamPickleRick]

By the flags? Haha! I don’t event know what I meant to type there