To think I met some of the nastiest people ever today?

[FloralTeacup]

I was at a shopping centre today with my mum and DP. As the escalator wasn’t working, the alternative was a large flight of steep stairs or the lift. As my mum suffers with a heart condition that leaves her breathless easily, we went in the lift.

As the doors of the lift began to close, a young couple with a pushchair hastily tried to get on. As DP put him arm up to stop the doors closing, the woman of the two angrily said “Why are you letting ‘t doors close on me! Fucking idiot,”. DP actually APOLOGISED (despite the fact he had tried to stop the doors from shutting). The woman went on, aggressively, “You shouldn’t even be in the lift, there’s stairs over there!”. My mum calmly said “I have a heart condition, I can’t manage the stairs,”. But the woman and her partner just kept on, insisting that we shouldn’t be in the lift, that we were idiots, blah blah. My mum turned to me and said that stress isn’t good for her either (she was getting really worked up by this abuse). The man overheard her and said “Yeah, stress doesn’t do me good, either!”. As if the absolute buffoon was the one who should be stressed.

On and on they went, the entire time we were in the lift (which felt like an eternity). They just wouldn’t stop. I just wanted them pack it in; it was upsetting me, it was upsetting my mum. I said “shut up,” exasperated, as we were about to get out the lift. They didn’t respond to that.

Ahh, just writing that all out again has me shaking and feeling upset. I just can’t understand how and why people like that exist. Just nastiness and aggression for no reason at all.

Feel free to share any similar stories! I know MNetters have a few.

I was leaving a supermarket car park at about 9pm at a time of year when it had gone dark about 15 minutes earlier. I started to pull out but noticed an unlit car on the road hurtling towards me so braked to let them pass. They obviously had forgotten to put their lights in so I flashed them as do to remind someone to put their lights on. The girl in the passenger seat clearly misunderstood me and started going crazy, obviously shouting and gesticulating at me. I just looked at her bewildered. About 5 seconds later, the driver obviously realised he / she didn’t have lights on and so put them on, I happened to pull up next to them, just looked over at them totally calm, girl slunk down in her seat and tried to avoid eye contact.
It is worrying that a lot of people do have an instant almost maniacal angry response these days. I blame social media. But I blame social media for everything

@WatchingThyme So you're telling the poster they are not welcome here and to 'go back where they came from' then?

tumbling - not sure how you're getting that from Watching's post - but since the poster she was talking to has had her comment deleted for breaking Talk Guidelines, it's hard to be sure.

I have a large car but consider myself a good driver. I came face to face with a driver hurtling round a corner on my estate. It was obvious as I was committed( parked cars on both sides) that it was up to them to reverse. I couldn’t see driver cos of sun and they remained firmly rooted to their spot so I thought I’ll be calm. It’s not worth the agro and proceeded to reverse to give them room to pass which was awkward to say the least.As car approached me I looked to see who was driving and expecting a wave of thanks it was a mother with a kid in the car shaking her head slowly at me as if I was a moron and it had all been my fault. After I’d got over shock I was raging and it took me hours to calm down.
I still get angry when I think of it.

Love the "nevertheless" riposte.

Someone mentioned a good one to me on Tuesday evening. He was saying that you just find something completely unrelated and weird to say back to them and they are so nonplussed about what you are on about that it diffuses the situation.

For example: why the f did you keep the lift door open?

Do you know that my mum's fence is this high?

I find that most situations arise on the roads though, where it's not so easy to actually speak to someone - which is probably exactly why the situations arise.

DH is police officer. Got out warrant card, got out of car and went to give girls words of advice on safety whilst driving

Brilliant. I often wish I could do this :)

I remember watching a taxi driver giving a cyclist a hard time on the road (unnecessarily).

At the traffic lights the cyclist pulled up the the window and tapped on it - ‘I’m a police officer - pull over - I need to have a word with you’.

I got on a train, sat down on a seat in the more spacious area some trains have near a toilet onboard. A man gets on and parks his bike opposite. No problem. He sits down next to me momentarily, then gets up to use the loo, and says to me - ‘can you watch my bike?’ I say yes, although think to myself what in the hell am I supposed to do if someone tries to take it?! And then carry on reading my book.

Man is in the loo a while , and while he is, the train stops and a Dad with two small kids gets on. The Dad stands, and the two tiddlers sit next to me, sharing the seat. Very cute, not causing a problem.

Man comes back, looking angry, and says to me ‘You were saving my seat!’
I looked at the two small children, back at him, at the parents, and thought My God, does he seriously begrudge two small children a seat, when he is clearly able bodied as he has a bike?! I got up and said - have my seat.
Then the father of the two kids half laughed, incredulous, and said no no - and made his kids get up. The man then refuses to sit down on either seat, and glares at me.

Nowt so queer as folk

A recent thread asked what makes someone 'common'.
Well, this.
Among other things.

I know this was last posted on in august but I wanted to share somewhere good karma story
My friend who walks sometimes very a stick as she MS that flares up was on her way to work and was on her way to the lift. Women barges past her into the lift and let’s the door close just before my friend gets in and cackles with laugher.

My friend waits for the lift and goes up, steps out for the lift past a shop to be nearly knocked over by this women again barging out of the shop. The women shouts “out of my way fucking useless retard” and cackles again.

An hour later my friend is at work about to start interviews as chief executive of the company- guess who walks in for the first interview????
My friends puts her hand out to shake the women’s hand and says “hello I am the useless retard otherwise know as Mrs ......... the chief executive of this company”

The women went bright red, looked like she was going to be sick, turned and ran out
My friend then took great delight in reporting her to the police for a hate incident

The job by the way was for a post at a disability charity

Awesome

What a great story @Blueberrydreams.

Wow! I bet your friend loved seeing the woman enter the room for the interview!! :) Haha!!! She got her comeupance!!

When I was in my twenties, I went to a hotel and was asked to leave because I didn't look the part/not up to their standards. I always wished I could say something like 'did you know I own this place' or 'actually, I've booked and paid for the penthouse sweet'

I was in a supermarket car park a few years ago unloading shopping into my boot. A car came and was attempting to reverse into the space next to mine so I waited to open my door and get in my car. It took the driver a few attempts and a waiting car started beeping their horn. The driver of the car reversing into the spot started shouting at me! Got our of their car and continued shouting aggressively. I then pointed out that I wasn’t in my car how could it have been me beeping at her. She just walked off. Didn’t say sorry for her misunderstanding just waked off.

My & my DP we’re out today with our baby eating in a restaurant & DS started crying as he was bored as they do! Everyone started staring giving us dirty looks, one man said to his partner, “just shut that baby up” as my DP was stood behind him my partner is 6ft2 the man turned around looked & out his head down I only knew when we left. If I heard I’d of embarrassed him.

Also sat next to us were a couple who kept looking over giving us both & DS dirty looks before baby was crying, speaking in their own Language DP said they were being racist as we are a multicultural family but I don’t know if that was true

Also - I’m sorry to hear this story. It’s so sad, if it was me I’d of stood in the lift & refused to move! But I can be confrontational

Gelpens that is awful. I would get in touch with the police who could look at the cctv footage. If the had even tapped you the baby could have been dropped no wonder you feel shaky still.

There are some awful people about. I would be still upset too. Just remember there are lots of lovely people too.

They sound awful and really rough :( Sorry you had the misfortune to cross paths with them. xxx

They sound like right nasty pieces of work...I think with hind sight your husband should have let the lift door shut and let them wait...

I think these days too many think the have and know their "rights"

Sadely they know nothing of their responsiblities:(

Blueberrydreams

Great one that you err, couldn't make it up;!

Many years ago when I was much younger and travelling, I was checking into a hotel and was waiting patiently for my turn. This older man in a suit pushed past me just as I was about to be called forward. The lady behind the counter said 'excuse me sir, but she was waiting next'. He looked at me, and said 'she's probably just delivering something, she can wait'. Admittedly I didn't look my best as I'd just got off an international flight, but I was pretty obviously standing there with my suitcase. Another check-in counter was about to come free, so I just said 'it's ok, let Mr Important go ahead.'

Of course, we both ended up getting into the lift at the same time. He huffed and said 'how can someone like you afford to stay somewhere like this?. I just rolled my eyes at him, and he pressed the button for his floor (right at the top), and I pressed mine (much lower down). As I got out of the lift, I pressed every single button on the lift between my floor and his, and said 'enjoy your trip'. There was a lot of yelling as the doors closed.

10% of people are complete twats, 20% are arseholes, 40% are ok in small doses, and 30% are lovely. The OP is in the top 30% and the twats in the lift are the bottom 10%. I find a lot of bus drivers come in the arsehole 20%, including one today.

My most recent one was me stopping in my car to let a bus pull out. Youngish woman behind me (20-35) beeped started swinging her arms like a baboon with rabies so much her car was bouncing about. I gave her the death stare in the wing mirror.

Having a meltdown because I stopped for ten seconds for a BUS! It was at 2pm so where was she rushing too. Stupid cow then had to sit behind me 15 metres up the road at a red light. I just stared her for that minute in my wing mirror like I was expressionless psychopath 😂

Then she turned off at the lights and I thought “go off and have a stress related heart attack you unhinged selfish muppet”

Imagine the sad life that you cant cope with traffic stopping. In my mind I wanted to wave her past for a head on crash so I could beep at her while her head was crushed in on her steering wheel. I don’t rise to road rage ever. I just wish for a nasty stress related death for them 🤣

I have people beep at me at red lights too. Even more then do I want to wave them past so they can crash. I honestly don’t know where these people came from. They deserve our pity

Probably on drugs, you did the right thing not to escalate the situation, I doubt they will be investigated, but it might be an idea to tell management, just in case they have a history of unsociable and aggresive behaviour at the shopping centre.