To think I met some of the nastiest people ever today?

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I was at a shopping centre today with my mum and DP. As the escalator wasn’t working, the alternative was a large flight of steep stairs or the lift. As my mum suffers with a heart condition that leaves her breathless easily, we went in the lift.

As the doors of the lift began to close, a young couple with a pushchair hastily tried to get on. As DP put him arm up to stop the doors closing, the woman of the two angrily said “Why are you letting ‘t doors close on me! Fucking idiot,”. DP actually APOLOGISED (despite the fact he had tried to stop the doors from shutting). The woman went on, aggressively, “You shouldn’t even be in the lift, there’s stairs over there!”. My mum calmly said “I have a heart condition, I can’t manage the stairs,”. But the woman and her partner just kept on, insisting that we shouldn’t be in the lift, that we were idiots, blah blah. My mum turned to me and said that stress isn’t good for her either (she was getting really worked up by this abuse). The man overheard her and said “Yeah, stress doesn’t do me good, either!”. As if the absolute buffoon was the one who should be stressed.

On and on they went, the entire time we were in the lift (which felt like an eternity). They just wouldn’t stop. I just wanted them pack it in; it was upsetting me, it was upsetting my mum. I said “shut up,” exasperated, as we were about to get out the lift. They didn’t respond to that.

Ahh, just writing that all out again has me shaking and feeling upset. I just can’t understand how and why people like that exist. Just nastiness and aggression for no reason at all.

Feel free to share any similar stories! I know MNetters have a few.

Also after watching a selfish entitled driver once cause a pinch point blocking a biker because us car was merging from two lanes to one, but the biker had no reason to merge. The driver repeatedly blocked the biker just because he didn’t like the fact he had to wait and merge but the biker didn’t. As we hadn’t merged the biker drove past and kicked the arseholes wing mirror off his posh car.

If your a angry aggressive arsehole, you attract bad responses so reinforcing your miserable existence. So they are self inflicting misery. What a way to live eh?

Many years ago I was leaving work and I stepped into the elevator on the 12th floor. There were a man and a woman in there already. The man was older (to me at the time, who was in my ‘20s), probably in his ‘50s, and more than six feet tall.

The elevator went down and stopped at the 11th floor. It didn’t look like anyone was getting in, and the doors were about to close when a woman called, “Please wait!” I held the “open door” button. Suddenly the man in the elevator went nuts. He screamed at me, “Dammit, don’t hold the door open for her! I’m in a hurry, dammit!”

As the poor woman who’d asked the doors to be held stepped in, I turned to the man and yelled back, “Hold your horses, buddy! You can wait!” The doors closed and the elevator headed down. The man looked like he was going to hit me, and I said, “Go ahead, do it.” He backed himself into a corner, stuck his hand in his mouth, and bit down. His face was beat red.

By now the other two women in the elevator had backed against the walls while I stared at this dude the whole way down. He wouldn't look at any of us; he just kept biting his hand.

When the doors opened on the ground floor, he pushed past all of us and ran out. One of the women turned to me and said, “Good for you,” and the other thanked me for holding the door. I said, “Looks like someone needs Anger Management.”

Last night OP ,my dh my dd aged 8 and me were nipping in our local Aldi..after shopping we loaded the car and I took the trolley back.DH was helping dd but her seat belt on and outside the store there was an almighty fight.From what I can gather a young couple and their 2 kids on in arms one in a pram were waiting for their taxi with their shopping..they were having words nothing severe just a bit of a barmy between themselves when a grown woman and her mother launched a tirade of abuse at them.The language used was scandalous.Apparently this woman had heard the other guy swear at his kid and she took offence.She then went on to attack him in front of her 4 kids.She was like a fishwife only worse.The security guard ran to help he got a whack,my dh ran (quite impressive he was for 55!) to help the security guard,,the women were screaming the air was bluer than blue and all the kids were terrified.The young couple were cowering in the corner trying to defend themselves the checkout staff ran to help I ran to make sure my dh was ok it was horriffic. To the lady in the 4x4 and her mother you should be ashamed of yourself,You started it and terrified your own kids who were begging mummy to calm down and come away and stop causing trouble..you were worse than any scummy shit I have ever had the unfortunate pleasure to meet.You obscene,foul mouthed bullying cow I am glad your mother got clumped in the process ,its a pity it wasnt you .All those shoppers with kids subjected to seeing your violent ways and foul mouth were gobsmacked at how vile you were.And to WYP ...too little too late again. To the poor couple who got it all ok its wrong to swear at kids please dont do it but my god you didnt deserve that hope you are ok.Possibly the most vilest people I have have ever ever encounted this woman and her mother...You want banging up and your kids taken from you you absolute waste of skin.....
Sorry OP but I hope the cow is on here and sees this cos as vile goes she was lower than a slugs belly...disgusting. I never want my child or anyone elses child to witness that or anything like it again,And as for your poor kids who were hysterical they were hysterical at you ...you did this by not minding your own business and by thinking you are someone ..well let me tell you you are nothing except scum I think you heard me last night tell you but if you missed it in your violent rage then you have heard it again... theres my sorry tale of woe from last night.Some people just do not know how to be civillised,god help her children growing up..beggars belief how bad it was.

If you think I am making it up justaboy then I suggest you report me rather then troll hunting. I have been on mumsnet for years and am currently sat in a hospital bed trying to make the time pass. I don’t need to be accused of being a troll Thankyou

Of course, we both ended up getting into the lift at the same time. He huffed and said 'how can someone like you afford to stay somewhere like this?. I just rolled my eyes at him, and he pressed the button for his floor (right at the top), and I pressed mine (much lower down). As I got out of the lift, I pressed every single button on the lift between my floor and his, and said 'enjoy your trip'. There was a lot of yelling as the doors closed.

Bloody brilliant!!!

That's awful op, I hope your mum is feeing better now.
Just the other day I was in the hospital with ds and we were heading for the lift. Pressed the button and waited 5 mins (big hospital, slow lifts). When it arrived the man who was in it took one look at us and quickly pressed the close button. I was so shocked I didn't press the button again. My only thought is that he must not want to be anywhere near young mothers and toddlers so maybe he did us a favour, the selfish twat.

Years ago I was coming home from work through Clapham Junction. It was part of my regular commute, and I was in my wheelchair in a crowd of people heading for the exit as I did every day.

Suddenly I felt a man shove me sideways and he shouted “Now see how you like it!”

To this day I have no idea what he was talking about.

He did get his comeuppance though. I heard someone shout, “Oi mate, what the hell do you think you are doing, pick on someone your own size!”

Man who shoved me legged it up to a platform with two young men in hot pursuit.

I suffer with a neurological condition that can make me unsteady on my feet, otherwise I look perfectly healthy.

I also work at a hospital, and felt an attack coming on, so 2 colleagues helped me out to the lift so I could be picked up.

As we got into the lift, a nurse came after is with a trolley. She said 'Why are you getting the lift? Is there something wrong with your legs?'

I had great pleasure in telling her that I needed assistance to get downstairs due to my condition and that, as a nurse, she should be more mindful toward those with 'invisible disabilities'.

That felt fucking great as I wobbled out to the car park

It's what happens when everyone knows their rights, entitlements and that they are treated as special little snowflakes.

It's what happens when people get encouraged by social media through hunnage based on their version of events.

Best one I've seen. Little old lady gets on my train. Says to man in her seat I've reserved this seat. Man goes 'so, I'm not moving'. Absolutely huge guy standing next to this says in a perfectly calm voice 'you're either moving or you get moved'. Idiot moves. The carriage applauds. Quality

Lots on this thread have mentioned the underclass but I've seen this from the so called middle class too.

Some of the most in your face and sweary have been the ones classed as the underclass but some of the most patronising, rude and entitled are those who are classed as middle class.

The well dressed ones whose words and sneers are far worse than swear words. Coming close and saying something offensive in a low tone, making it clear that they think you are beneath them.

The underclass twats may seem more aggressive but the middle class twats are rude, dismissive and upsetting in a different way and these ones have upset me more.

I'm mentioning class as too many on this thread are attributing it to a certain group when thats not the only story.

@Blueberrydreams that is bloody brilliant, it’s made my day

I’ve rtft and all these stories make me absolutely livid. I’ve experienced just about all the scenarios in one way or another. There really is an underclass of feral people whose lives must’ve gone to shit so badly somewhere along the way so their default mode is to explode at any opportunity to completely innocent strangers. They make me sick.

@flirtygirl please don’t misunderstand me, I use “underclass” to describe people who lack basic social skills, dignity and manners. I dgaf how they’re dressed / what they earn. They are a separate breed to normal folk just trying to peacefully get on with their lives.

a separate breed

What a weird statement.

Violence begets violence and otherism is certainly not the route to a kinder society. Be the change you want to see.

Far too much wishing for violence, weird karma fantasising and bragging about crazy scary stare em down type responses.

The best response is always cool calm collected.

Remember

You should try living in Surrey, and working in low paid customer service roles with the wealthy - have never been treated so horribly and like such a piece of shit under their expensive shoes in all my life 😂

I am visually impaired and own a guide dog.

One day I was coming up an escalator at Oxford Circus in the middle of rush hour. Now the rule of thumb is that if you’re on an escalator with a dog then you need to keep plenty of space between you and the person in front so the dog has the space to run off the escalator because being prevented from doing so could lead to their paws being trapped. As such as a rule you don’t let people past.

So, I got on the escalator with the dog and people got on behind me. So far so good. The person behind the person behind me then started trying to push forward and the person behind me said that they couldn’t as there was a guide dog in the way. He shouted loudly, “I don’t care if it’s a fucking guide dog, get out of my fucking way.”

Tbh these types just make me roll my eyes incredulously, and I certainly didn’t engage with him. But I was very tempted to suggest that the alternative to getting on the moving escalator and asking people to wait that extra 30 seconds before getting off, is to ask a member of rail staff to stop the escalator so that you can walk up/down it. Something which does have to happen if your dog isn’t escalator trained, and is a process which takes around ten minutes by the time the member of staff has radioed through to the control room, put a barrier across the escalator so no-one can actually get on, and then walk up the escalator at which point the escalator will be re-started, a process which can take between ten/fifteen minutes.

Another escalator story was when a friend was brutally shoved out of the way on one so they could get past, but then that person scrabbling frantically as they lost their footing and were about to tumble down it. They weren’t hurt so I laughed.

Probably on drugs

PP above has a point. I'm sure there's a link between increased use of cocaine and the kind of behaviour described here.

@PickledGulag

Weird statement, weird karma...

No it’s not weird. It’s perfectly reasonable to hold people to a basic standard of decent, societal behaviour and challenge them when it’s so flagrantly disregarded.

I honestly think it’s fine tonwish a untimely death on rude arseholess and let you’re look let them know it.

What should we do? Be super nice and reinforce their shit behaviour? Nope sorry. Not for me thanks. If every bling person who was barged apologlogised the it slowly becomes the socail norm.

Fuck that

I mean blind, not bling

Also re class, it’s all classes. Anyone can be a rude twat totally unaware or care they are obnoxious

Next time, say "You know what, Mum, I'm so glad you didn't bring me up to be such a rude and entitled twat!"

A couple that spring to mind- first one, was only 19. Needed to cross a road- there was a car parked on double yellows outside a shop. Crossed the road in front of it, only to jump out of my skin when owner leant on their horn, then PULLED UP BESIDE ME as I walked off and screamed that “next time, I’ll run you over!!” I have no idea what that was about- they were parked with the engine off when I crossed.

Second one- had been signed off work with anxiety for a couple of weeks, was really in quite a bad way. Ventured out to a card shop to get a birthday card for a family member- quite a big deal for me at the time. There was a big queue, and I kind of joined the end of it at the same time as 2 women. I ended up in front. They then proceeded to have a loud conversation about how rude I was (I wasn’t). I ended up letting them go in front of me. Still makes me cross- I’d give them a piece of my mind now.

Can confirm, some of the nastiest people I've met have been poshos.

On the subject of invisible disabilities, my colleagues in my last job seemed to find it really funny that someone in their mid-thirties had chronic pain. Because I'm 'too young' to be so tired or be in pain, and they whinged about their illnesses all the time but just belittled me when I did the same. I have fibromyalgia and early onset osteoarthritis in my hand and knee, and I manage, but sometimes it hurts like hell. A friend of mine has EDS and she's had people giving her shit for taking a lift from one floor to another, because she's about my age and doesn't 'look' disabled.

God, some people are just vile.

My (very well-spoken, well-dressed, middle class) friend has a good response. She just gives them a glassy stare and asks "Do you ever take a day off, or are you a cunt 24/7?"

Swearing is so much more effective when done in a posh voice.

"Do you ever take a day off, or are you a cunt 24/7?"

LOL! nice one!!