To think I met some of the nastiest people ever today?

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I was at a shopping centre today with my mum and DP. As the escalator wasn’t working, the alternative was a large flight of steep stairs or the lift. As my mum suffers with a heart condition that leaves her breathless easily, we went in the lift.

As the doors of the lift began to close, a young couple with a pushchair hastily tried to get on. As DP put him arm up to stop the doors closing, the woman of the two angrily said “Why are you letting ‘t doors close on me! Fucking idiot,”. DP actually APOLOGISED (despite the fact he had tried to stop the doors from shutting). The woman went on, aggressively, “You shouldn’t even be in the lift, there’s stairs over there!”. My mum calmly said “I have a heart condition, I can’t manage the stairs,”. But the woman and her partner just kept on, insisting that we shouldn’t be in the lift, that we were idiots, blah blah. My mum turned to me and said that stress isn’t good for her either (she was getting really worked up by this abuse). The man overheard her and said “Yeah, stress doesn’t do me good, either!”. As if the absolute buffoon was the one who should be stressed.

On and on they went, the entire time we were in the lift (which felt like an eternity). They just wouldn’t stop. I just wanted them pack it in; it was upsetting me, it was upsetting my mum. I said “shut up,” exasperated, as we were about to get out the lift. They didn’t respond to that.

Ahh, just writing that all out again has me shaking and feeling upset. I just can’t understand how and why people like that exist. Just nastiness and aggression for no reason at all.

Feel free to share any similar stories! I know MNetters have a few.

They are twats. which is their problem,not yours.

Hate people like that, me and my 6 year old DS had a family of 3 with pushchair do something similar. Mum and dad bitched on constantly because my 6 year old wasnt sat on my knee and they felt cramped in the lift. I mean I did feel like asking them both to sit on their screaming toddlers knee. But instead I "accidently" brushed against the alarm button stoping the lift between floors. I figured seen as they loved my company so much and were getting exited by it, we could spend more time together. Staff congregated at lift enterance as they waited for the lift alarm to be cancelled and one security guard who had my number due to help the shopping centre give me due to wheelchair etc. Had messaged me to check all was well and I told him my son had hit it in a panic because the family was been so verbally agressive. Roll on lift been brought down and family been escorted out the building after another torrent of verbal from the dad this time directed at the aecurity guard. Karma is a bigger b*h then I am

AmeriAnn

. Yes, there is something in the water here. Hope you havent drunk it.

I was in a pub , that allowed children, having lunch.
In walked a woman , with her partner and a child of about 9 years old.
She had a T shirt on that read “ Want to watch me masturbate ? “.
They were loud and bolshy. No one confronted her ( me included, out of fear , I was with my children).
But I felt so sorry for her son - what hope has he with her as an example ?

Sadly 2016 is the year when people were given the right to be anxious when and if they felt like it. We only have to look at the leader of the free world as a perfect example of this.

I think the worst one was when I was driving on the motorway at night, in my very old little car, with DSs in the back. Luckily DS2 was asleep in the baby seat, but DS1 wasn't.
We were in the fast lane, overtaking a car in the middle lane, doing 72mph as a) the car is old and small and b) y'know, speed limits.
A white van came zooming up behind me, trying to get me to move over - fuck knows where to, there was a car in the way! - flashed his lights at me, I was still overtaking. Once past, I pulled into the middle lane and made the subtle mistake of shaking my hand at his van in the universally recognised hand signal that told them what I thought of them.
Guess he must have seen it as he then proceeded to completely live down to that - got in front of me, slammed on his brakes. I overtook, he sped up on my tail, weaving, overtook me again and went to side-swipe my SMALL and VERY OLD car with 2 children in it. I braked so he didn't hit me but this pattern continued for the next 5 minutes. It was utterly terrifying. DS1 was very scared - he was only about 8 :( but could work out how dangerous it was.

Eventually our turning came up and thank GOD there was bus making for the same one, so I pulled in behind the bus at the last minute, so the van dick couldn't change lanes and chase me further.

I reported him to the police but nothing much came of it, sadly, because there was no video footage to prove it. No cameras on that stretch of the motorway and no witnesses. Shame.

I work as a support worker with special needs adults and I get so pissed off with people who seem to think they shouldn’t be allowed out 😡😡

YANBU and they are scum.

Hope your mum's ok.

I work as a support worker with special needs adults and I get so pissed off with people who seem to think they shouldn’t be allowed out

It's one of the hardest parts of my job, not biting back at these arseholes.

Especially when as a Mum of kids with ASN it's become second nature over the years!!!

Theres idiots everywhere, the best strategy I have found is to completely ignore anyone who is rude. It just makes them look stupid ranting and raving in public. You cant reason with lunatics and its not worth getting worked up or losing your temper.

You could have hit the alarm, that would have shut them up.

Just tell them "We can't use the stairs - not every disability is visible" …..

It amazes me that people can behave like this! As someone has posted, they are definitely from an “under class”. I think that particular classification really is a valid category in this day and age. Lowest of low. I sometimes meet unpleasant people, certainly some women in the area I live, and I wonder how they have any friends when I’m a nice, civilised, fun person who finds it hard to make close friends round here! Slightly off point, but just saying ..!

I run into that type every now and then and my default reaction to strangers is to be polite, and/or apologetic. When the encounter is done, I'm left angry at myself for being nice about things. I then vow that I'm just going to be the type of person whose ready to have a snarky comment and assume the worst in people, so they don't get the "best" of me, lol. Then I calm down and realize that people like that should really be pitied for their life must be awful to be so miserable, and they probably have no friends either. I guess it takes all types, I guess. And trying to match their misery makes them the winner and you worse off.....but I KNOW EXACTLY what you mean. I can think of 3 incidents this month while out walking the neighborhood where I've run into that type.

It doesn't even matter your reason for being in the lift. If you want to use the lift you can. Bloody idiots, that's what they are.

There lives must be so miserable. Imagine walking around being that angry with total strangers all the time. How exhausting. Smile & nod OP. The bigger the smile the stupider they look.

I am in a wheelchair and one morning, after parking and getting into the chair I realised that a young girl had parked on the entrance to the car park, right over the dropped pavement for wheelchair access. She was still in the car so I wheeled over to ask her to pull forward so I could get off the pavement, which was too high to bump down. To cut a long story short, I got a faceful of abuse from this young female (couldn’t call her a lady) including some vile language and alluding to me as a moaning bloody cripple !!

As she was laying into me, she didn’t notice that a police car had pulled up outside a shop behind her and an officer was now walking towards us because she was literally screaming at me. She ended up with a ticket - fined for obstructing a wheelchair access point - and the policeman asked me if I would like to make a complaint regarding her comments about my disability. He said her behaviour amounted to abuse. I declined and chuckled all the way home at the thought of how quickly Karma comes around these days !!

Since I have been confined to the chair, I am mostly blown away by how kind and considerate people are and I always try to show my appreciation whenever I am offered help. But I agree with a lot of the comments on here - there are a still a lot of complete arseholes around.

There are a lot of hidden disabilities, and more and more, I think people feel entitled to comment if they can’t see something obvious. I understand it from a certain point of view because these spaces do get abused. Having said that (or should I say ‘nevertheless’!!), I don’t look disabled sitting behind the wheel of my car and I’ve had my fair share of people challenging me in disabled spaces (despite displaying a blue badge) even before I start to unload the chair, and my standard answer is that my medical history is between me and my doctor and I’m not about to explain myself to a complete stranger. The looks on their faces when they eventually see the chair is priceless. So sorry your mum has been treated like this OP. There really are some twats about aren’t there ?

So many incidents of this! Like a pp we were driving over a very long narrow bridge, with no passing places, we were more than half way across when an aggressive bloke came on from the other end. As we were furthest on the bridge my DH refused to back up. It was absolutely hysterical, as this guy got out of his car and came banging on DH's window demanding to know what the .... he thought he was doing. DH pointed out that we were further across the bridge than he was, and he'd obviously seen us before driving on, but he wasn't having it, so after sitting now gridlocked from behind for over 1 1/2 hours, the guy all hot and red in the face, finally had to concede and reverse off the bridge! Chalk one up for the reasonable people, lol.

We also experienced a bus driver speeding up because he saw us about to step onto a crossing, we literally had to grab our daughter who was tiny at the time, and jump out of his way. We then went to the police station and reported it. It went to court and he got points on his licence and a pretty stiff fine!

That's just two of my experiences, but the long and the short of it is DON'T MESS WITH ME!! lol.

I was parking in a regular carpark, spaces normal size, but I was having a rare bad flare up of my arthritis at the time. I needed to swing my car door quite wide to get out comfortably so when another (quite large) car drew in beside mine, I decided to move to the space facing with no car space beside the driver’s side. The owner of the car I drove off from marched over and gave me dog’s abuse about how his parking was perfect, he was between the lines, how I was being rude, etc. I just stared him down until he started to feel uncomfortable and I proceeded to hobble from my car with the door wide open. If he couldn’t understand why I moved after watching me climb out of my car, he was too much of an idiot to bother with. An apology would have been nice but not jumping to conclusions seems to be a skill many people don’t have these days!

I am sorry you had to suffer that. Your poor Mum.
A few nasty things have happened to me and my Mum over the years but just remember not everyone is like that.
If I had been there I would have given them what bloody for.
Also they must have been really really miserable inside, whereas you and your family are clearly LOVELY.

PS. I am disabled and am slow sometimes ... I don't LOOK disabled or even my age, so I get a lot of that.

You're not alone OP. I met a nasty person very similar once.

A young woman in her 20s with a little one in a pushchair. I was just about to exit a long arched ginnel between two shops that is so narrow it can only accommodate the width of one person. So if someone is walking through you have to wait for them to exit before using the ginnel yourself.

I only had about 3 or 4 steps before I was out of the ginnel when i saw this woman with her pushchair a good few metres away gunning at speed towards me. I assumed she'd just stop to let me me out. But no, she angrily rammed the pushchair at me into my shins. I toppled over and had to consciously hurl myself to the right to avoid landing on the poor baby sat innocently in the pushchair.

As I landed on my knees she had the nerve to shout "for fucks sake you stupid fucking cow, you could've hurt my fucking kid!! I should fucking knock you out you cunt!!"

By the time she reached me she would have had to wait no more than literally 2 seconds for me to exit until she could enter.

The nastiness in her eyes and her tone was appalling and despite being a fairly nice and quiet person she got a tirade of verbal back.

I understand your upset OP. It's hard to understand why someone can have such venom towards someone they've never even met for such trivial things that don't even warrant that kind of reaction.

That sounds upsetting, glad your mum and you are feeling better now.

I have two incidents that stick out. Once I was about to set off an a long journey and stopped at the local petrol station to fill the car with petrol. It was really busy and there was a queue. I filled the tank went into the shop, queued and then paid before returning to my car. There was no pay at pump option but even so, all I did was put in my petrol, queue and pay - didn’t even pick up a pack of gum at the counter or anything. The queue was long and there was someone having an issue with a payment card that held things up. It was quite possible to see the long queue through the windows from the pumps. Got back to the car and the man who was in the car behind mine waiting for the pump immediately jumped out, got right in my face and started yelling about how he’d been waiting thirteen minutes and when I said ‘well there was a queue’ he laughed and started repeating ‘there was a queue’ in a weird high pitched voice that I assume was meant to be an impersonation of me. Then he called me a stupid girl and I should learn to hurry the fuck up. His wife (I presume) was sat in the car smirking at me. He was in between me and my car door so I couldn’t get in, then he eventually went back to his car and it took me a while to get in mine as I was shaking and fumbling a bit with the key. So that gave him time to rev his engine aggressively at me at which point I snapped, got back out of my car and went to ask him if he felt like the big man shouting and intimidating women because he was too thick to understand the concept of queuing and asked his wife if she was proud to be with such a prince of a man, whilst they both just smirked and shook their heads at me. I got back in my car and drove away but I took my sweet time about it (before bursting into tears and crying for the first half hour of the journey )

The second was when I’d taken my terminally ill mum for a day at the seaside with her dog. I’d parked, got mum and the dog out of the car and then was busy trying to get the wheelchair out of the boot. Mum was stood with the dog at the edge of the kerb near the car and a man came strutting down the pavement with sunglasses on and a cap pulled low (it was not sunny) and staring down at his phone so not looking where he was going, nearly smacked into my mum just missed her then started shouting at her to ‘look where she was fucking going you daft cow’ (she wasn’t going anywhere - he was the one nearly barrelled into her) and then randomly to ‘control your fucking animal’ about the dog - the tiny dog who had been stood by her heel and never murmured or moved once - it was laughable in retrospect - like screaming ‘control that fucking animal’ about a teddy bear. Again I saw red, I was livid that someone would speak to my mum like that anyway, but then the particular circumstances of her illness and just trying to give her a nice day meant I flipped. I just told him that maybe saying ‘excuse me’ would be a start, and maybe he should try looking where he was bloody going instead of being so rude to an elderly lady. My mum was fine but she definitely took exception to the ‘elderly’

A few years ago I was driving on the single lane toad that leads to my estate. It's very narrow with passing places every 50m or so.

I came face to face with another car in between passing places, all young lads with a teenage girl in the front. It was maybe 10m from their last passing place but 40m from the last one I passed.

They refused to reverse back, were shouting abuse at me. He turned the engine off and she put her feet up on the dashboard indicating they weren't going anywhere.

I had to reverse 40m back uphill on the narrowest point of the road, pulled into the passing place and they then blocked me in and started shouting abuse again, fucking fat cunt, fat slag etc with both my kids who were then under 10 in the car.

I was still shaking when I got home.

Well you only have to read some of the threads on here to see how rude and aggressive some people are. They can't just have a difference of opinion and state their case, they get personal and insulting. I'm old enough to remember when people were generally respectful of each other and public rudeness was a rarity. In your case OP I would have laughed at them, they are not worth getting upset over.

@Fluffycloudland77i totally agree and it’s not in a snobby middle class way - there are a certain breed of people who are feral like rats breeding disdain and ill manners into their feral rat kids - I meet them in our local town on a daily basis smoking whilst pregnant outside mothercare, shouting swear words at their multiple feral kids