To think I met some of the nastiest people ever today?

[FloralTeacup]

I was at a shopping centre today with my mum and DP. As the escalator wasn’t working, the alternative was a large flight of steep stairs or the lift. As my mum suffers with a heart condition that leaves her breathless easily, we went in the lift.

As the doors of the lift began to close, a young couple with a pushchair hastily tried to get on. As DP put him arm up to stop the doors closing, the woman of the two angrily said “Why are you letting ‘t doors close on me! Fucking idiot,”. DP actually APOLOGISED (despite the fact he had tried to stop the doors from shutting). The woman went on, aggressively, “You shouldn’t even be in the lift, there’s stairs over there!”. My mum calmly said “I have a heart condition, I can’t manage the stairs,”. But the woman and her partner just kept on, insisting that we shouldn’t be in the lift, that we were idiots, blah blah. My mum turned to me and said that stress isn’t good for her either (she was getting really worked up by this abuse). The man overheard her and said “Yeah, stress doesn’t do me good, either!”. As if the absolute buffoon was the one who should be stressed.

On and on they went, the entire time we were in the lift (which felt like an eternity). They just wouldn’t stop. I just wanted them pack it in; it was upsetting me, it was upsetting my mum. I said “shut up,” exasperated, as we were about to get out the lift. They didn’t respond to that.

Ahh, just writing that all out again has me shaking and feeling upset. I just can’t understand how and why people like that exist. Just nastiness and aggression for no reason at all.

Feel free to share any similar stories! I know MNetters have a few.

[FloralTeacup]

@TheInvestigator I don’t blame you! If only I’d had a glass of wine beforehand, I would’ve been cackling at their stupidity!

[Labrodite]

some twat driving towards us who must have thought it would be funny to speed up.

This seems to happen to me all the time when I’m on my own! And I’m not a slow walker (which wouldn’t justify it anyway). Most recently someone did it to me because I was walking over a zebra crossing

[Orangecake123]

I would have told them to fuck off and I'm normally a calm person.

[InTheHeatofLisbon]

Just as an aside OP, if anyone is ever such a cock in a lift again and going to a different floor, on your way out, press every fucking button there is in a sliding motion to really fuck up their day

Some people are dicks, I'm sorry you and your mum copped it from them. Twats.

[Jellybeansincognito]

Wow, what a massively entitled piece of shit she was.

I worked in retail for 5 years and some of the stuff I dealt with was absolutely unbelievable. People are arseholes.

[cstaff]

@CigarsofthePharoahs
Now that made me laugh properly haha 🤣🤣

[Chinnychinnychinnychib]

So I was driving down a single lane road the other day. I have a 4x4 (very rural) and there was an old man driving towards me. He wasn’t stopping for anyone. Bless him, I thought, and reversed so he could get past easily.
He wound down his window as he drew level with me.
‘That car’s too big for you, int it love?’
What. A. Cunt.
I’m still aggrieved!!!

[gonewiththepotter]

Honestly I’d have said ‘where’s your wheel chair? Pushchairs don’t require a lift...there’s two of you could easily have used the stairs 🤔😬’

[supersop60]

I love to use the word "Nevertheless..." nothing else.
It's so useful.
eg in OP's situation
"You don't need to use the lift"
"Nevertheless...!"
"That car's too big for you"
"Nevertheless....!"
It helps to keep a sense of proportion, and nobody can get upset.
So sorry you met those nasty people OP.

[Cheeseoncrumpets]

Urggh I know the kind people you mean OP. Entitled, rude, lacking in brain cells and always looking for a fight, or to put it plainer 'common as muck' as my late Grandmother used to say.

[InspirationWontCome]

So sorry you had to deal with that, you must have needed a stiff drink when you got home 🙈

Some people are just awful. You can't even begin to relate with how they act. Their poor child will just grow up to think that's normal, acceptable behaviour 😢

[aufaitaccompli]

supersop i love that tip!!
am totally going to steal use it for similar situations

i am pretty frightened of conflict and tend towards passivity. That should help to build my assertiveness.

[NoNewsisGood]

Sometimes though, I think back to when I had a child of pushchair age and how little sleep I got and while I would never ever behave like that, I was lucky to have few other worries in life other than the constant lack of sleep (which was above normal levels for a child that age admittedly, but...) so perhaps a lack of sleep, overdue bills, medical diagnosis, recent death in the family, never know what others are suffering to make them so unreasonable in an otherwise reasonable situation.

[user1486131602]

Entitled and no self respect. On the other hand....you can’t educate pork🐷🐽🐷😉

[ThatCurlyGirl]

In my teen years I once picked up a woman's purse she'd dropped and said "ooh scuse me i think you dropped this" and she shouted at me:

"DON'T TOUCH MY FUCKING STUFF"

I was so shocked I burst into tears and actually apologised as she snatched it out of my hand.

Obviously now I would react VERY differently to such an utter cunt!

[Lou573]

OP, just remember you had to spend a few minutes in their company, they have an entire lifetime of it - I pity people like that, it can’t be much of a fun way to live.

[supersop60]

aufait I can't claim it as my own, unfortunately. It's a story I heard about a famous actor, who was taking a curtain call, and stopped to tell the audience that he and his wife would be appearing in another play at such-and-such a town.
An audience member heckled "Your wife is rubbish"
He replied "Nevertheless...!"

[Ilovemuesli]

OP they sound like arseholes. However their actions pale in comparison to that of my partner's ex-wife and her boyfriend. Not enough words in the English language to describe how disgraceful they are.

I realised I had led a sheltered life filled with nice people before I met them. Now my faith in humanity and human decency has been damaged! Hope you and your family didn't let them ruin your day for too long.

[DissenterWhereICan]

I can't say I'd be saying anything that might enrage strangers if I were about to be trapped in an enclosed space with them for any length of time. The angry couple with the pram were lucky they didn't by chance get in a lift with someone with shorter fuses and violent temperaments.

[policeandthieves]

I was in lift only going up 2 floors when a woman called me a fucking cunt for the getting the lift and not walking - i was so shocked I was sort of meekly explaining that I was on crutches and wasn't good on the stairs when another bloke in the lift laid into her and it all became a massive slanging match.
The best bit was I was called to deal with her about an hour later ( in my professional role at work) I just said no she thinks I'm a cunt so she have to wait and see someone else.

[TSSDNCOP]

For people like this there is only one mantra: you cannot reason with or educate shit.

Keep that in mind and you will feel more ducks back like in the presence of these people.

[Basketofkittens]

I try and avoid contact with people when I’m out and about. Sorry about your experience OP! At least you aren’t those people!

[oabiti]

You're right to feel upset, I'd have been beyond pissed off if someone had spoken to my mum like that!

Didn't your partner correct them, and tell them that he was, in fact, opening the door for them?

[shellysheridan]

I was once driving in the countryside over a bridge that was long, narrow and only enough space for one direction at a time. Neither direction had a priority, it was first come, first served.

No one was coming in the opposite direction so I drove along the bridge until almost at the end when a woman in a convertible drove up from the opposite direction and started onto the bridge blocking my way.

I was clearly with right of way but she started screaming and shouting at me.
I was heavily pregnant and had two toddlers in the back of the car.

I was shaking and scared she was going to get out of the car and attack us or something so reversed all the way along the bridge to let her past.

I knew I had to keep us all safe. A man watching from the footpath shook his fist at her. It still upsets me 3 years later.