I've not had a chance to RTFT and I'm in a PMT brain fog so apologies for the rambling length. Here are some of my views on it all.
Voted Leave, would do again.
I do get cross when people refer to it as us leaving Europe. We're not. We're still European, as are the Swiss, Norwegians, Icelanders, and other European non-EU members.
I want a (good) deal but it's far preferable to leave without one - and then negotiate once out, than leave with a bad deal. And you certainly can't get a decent deal if you tell the other person/organisation that you're desperate for one and won't leave without. Imagine haggling in a market. You have to show them you're prepared to walk away. You have something they want. Your custom. EU businesses want/need our custom.
There's a lot I don't like about the EU, the exploitation of poorer member states being one concern. Freedom of movement when someone wants to travel for adventure and to experience new culture is quite different from people being forced to move abroad out of desperation because their own country has few jobs and/or non-survival wages, and then they get exploited by minimum wage, zero hours contracts employers and slum landlords in the UK (and other wealthier EU countries). It certainly doesn't benefit the countries left behind. I know that Poland, for example, is currently trying to entice younger people back home with incentives because so many areas have only the elderly and young children. I wish the EU had spread economic good fortune more equally across the member states.
Related to the above, I find it strange that people who want an Australian style points system based on in-demand occupations are condemned as racist. Surely opening up to the world rather than mainly white European is more inclusive? I don't deny that some racists voted Leave but that's irrelevant to the reality of what will happen under an Australian type immigration system.
Re. The Irish backstop. I'm nervous if sounding controversial and that's absolutely not my intention, but my initial thoughts are that surely we shouldn't give in to threats of terrorism and violence? If theres a will for peace, and the people I personally know from NI certainly want peace, then there's a will to make things work. The European Parliament commissioned a report, I believe, on this issue and recommend smart borders using technology similar to the Sweden/Norway and US/Canada border.