Have i been ghosted or is something wrong?

[Louluh]

I have a breakfast date planned tomorrow with a guy I've been talking to online and over the phone for a few months, it was going to be the first time we met. He seemed very interested, he's very chatty and usually likes to exchange texts every day.

Usually he would send a "good morning I hope you have a good day today" text, but I haven't heard from him in three days. No big deal, he could easily have lost interest and changed his mind about meeting at the last minute so the obvious explanation would be that I'm being ghosted but his phone has been completely turned off for the past three days, I sent a breezy "looking forward to meeting you finally" message on WhatsApp but it's not been delivered, yet I haven't been blocked. I can see when he was last active.

I have him on Facebook and Instagram too and he hasn't been active there since three days ago either, which is unusual because he runs an online business and posts associated things once or twice a day, daily, yet there is radio silence across all social media.

If you were me would you be concerned something may have happened or chalk it up to a big elaborate ghosting?

Aw thank you all for being kind! I half came on expecting to be told I'm ridiculous for investing anything into this man in the first place

I've decided to give OLD a break until I'm in a better place myself, I'm not that lonely or desperate that I'm prepared to put up with a load more hassle.

I wish him well on his endeavours and hope he gets the support he needs, though.

Good luck, OP. You're being really sensible, it's hard to be objective when you're even a little emotionally invested (understandably so) but I think if you were my friend and you'd asked my opinion, I'd gently be advising some space.

Every relationship I had that had me wondering where I stood in the early days never worked out.

Then when I did meet DH, it just flowed so easily and there were no games/insecurities/red flags/second guessing/understanding/compromising.

For me at least, that's when you know it's right.

Well done, Louluh! I think you've got the right attitude. Good luck with it all!

@floribunda18 very useful, aren't you great

I was all.for the benefit of the doubt as well OP, up until the casino thing. So that's the PTSD episode theory out the window.
You sound lovely and I think you've done the right thing.

Has he replied?

I haven't heard a peep from him at all no, he's probably glad I've cancelled because it saves him having to come up with another excuse

I think you've made a really wise choice there. Even if he was on the level about his PTSD - the fact yours is very bad right now and you are struggling added to his is a recipe for a lot of turbulence.

You're doing the right thing to focus on yourself and managing your PTSD, Good luck

Good call

Have a good weekend.

I've known this guy over 3 years now. One minute he's texting me asking why i'm quiet then when i do text him he doesn't reply.

@kitty613 the same guy?!

How do you mean?

@kitty613 start your own thread please

Name change fail? @Kitty613

Mind your own buisness

How’s things OP? Hope you’re feeling better x