MIL and FIL walking into our house

[FatAndFurious7]

My MIL and FIL live just around the corner from us. They're wonderful and we have a good relationship.. but they have a habit of just wandering into our house unannounced, without a meet up planned and come to find us wherever we are.. they don't even call / shout as they come in to announce they're here.

Luckily every time this has happened so far weve just been sat around or in the garden or something so not a problem. But were TTC at the mo so dtd a lot and randomly though the day and I'm so worried about them wandering in I've started locking the door all day!

AIBU or is this normal MIL / FIL behaviour. Should me or DH just flat out tell them to stop it?

Ask them why they like scaring you by appearing unannounced. It has to be stopped. People are allowed to defend themselves from intruders now..

They shouldn’t be brushing it off. That’s treating you like children and them adults, who know best. And creeping upstairs is a terrible lack of boundaries. Door locking will be a good boundary.

Your husband needs to speak to them again and make it VERY clear that this nonsense needs to stop. It's a total invasion of your privacy and just creepy.

I would never knock on the door when going to my parents house and would never expect them to knock on my door. Would find it really weird. Then again we rarely show up unannounced.
Just lock the door and problem solved.

I lock every door when we are in the house and my parents and parents in law live round the corner. Much easier to ignore them this way 🤣

Weird! DH and I have been married 31 years and he always gets home at approximately the same time, but still shouts to me as he comes through the door.
Just lock it .

Thanks all - feeling more confident that I'm not being unreasonable for finding it wrong and weird now.
I'll talk to them myself I think as perhaps its because DH said it that they don't take it seriously.

I think you hit the nail on the head with treating his like children, they do have a terrible habit of doing that. Theres a few other things they do that make us feel a little patronised so this is prob just part of that

How rude, neither my parents nor PIL would dream of doing this.

On the other hand, my DH tends to go into his parents’ house without warning, and once walked in on FIL er pleasuring himself

They should call out when entering or knock.

Lavender.. OMG!!

I can't believe that anyone leaves their doors unlocked. You're lucky it's only nice people that invade, & not serial killers, burglars, rapists etc.!

Lock your door and tell them why.

Just say, 'Look, we do love to see you but it needs to be pre-agreed, not just walking in. DH and I are having lots of sex all over the house so it could be awkward. Call or text in advance from now on. Thanks.'

It might kill the mood but if you're dtd make sure you lock the doors at least then they would have to knock. It sounds like it's just their normal family behaviour. I would turn up at DM unannounced and don't mind if she does the same to me but I'll always shout Hi mum as I walk in. I agree it's a bit odd that they don't announce themselves and even more strange that they quietly try and find you. It's as though they're trying to catch you in the act which is bizarre and a bit creepy!!

Lock the doors. And tell DH to tell his parents you’re TTC so stop bloody just walking in

Added advantage of locking it is that you will be assumed to be out all the time...

Stop it now, before the babies arrive.

When you've just had a baby and are lying upstairs, trying to catch up on some sleep while the baby naps, and they come silently into the bedroom and pick up the baby from your sleeping arms and you wake to find the baby gone and MIL leaning over your body....

yes, best stop it now.

I wasnt expecting so many funny responses. Sitting here chuckling to myself

Just keep the door locked. They'll have to knock and you can answer if it suits or ignore the fact they are there if it doesn't. If they question why it's locked tell them the truth or tell them you thought you heard the door open the other day but when you checked there was nobody there, so it's a security measure.

Where I grew up and still in my family, if your door is open, then you're open to guests. We all just walk into each others homes all the time, if we want privacy, we lock the door

Zaphod, I'm going to have nightmares about that now haha

Do people lock their doors when they are at home? I only lock ours at night and when we are out (and often forget). It wouldn’t occur to me to lock it when I was inside during the day

@Zaphodsotherhead that's exactly what might happen 😲

In all seriousness though, we don't want to tell anyone we're TTC - its #1 and we're both only children. Since we got together both our parents have been overly excitable about the prospect of grandchildren and they would all just be absolute nightmares if they even got a whiff of the idea

God I cant bear unannounced visitors

If I were you I'd nip this is the bud now. I'm speaking from experience. When your baby arrives this will drive you INSANE. Lock your doors. And if they say anything - let your husband deal with it.