I think I probably am, but I feel let down a little bit

[Pinespow]

I'm a student at the minute, and have had to live with my sister because of poor mental health and lack of money in the area I live in.

This worked well for my sister because she has recently divorced and doesn't want to be on her own. For months on end I have listened and supported her throughout this, much to the detriment of my own mental health really, and my studies have suffered. I have many times had to come back from nights out/days out/dates because she told me she was "in crises" (I have been suicidal before, so this is not a begrudging task for me). My mental health however is never discussed.

I have the small room in her house. She doesn't charge me rent because she has a good job and I am a student - but I do contribute to bills and buy household items regularly.

She is now over the worst of it and has started socializing again. She has recently started saying that her friends are staying after nights out and will need to stay in my room (with me on the couch). This has made me feel a bit shit (a bit like a sofa surfer loser) because I feel like I can't say anything because it is her house and she's doing me a favour.

Today she has text me saying that she has friends staying after a night out and this will mean I can't stay on the couch or the bedroom she gave me.

I will probably have to travel back to my mum's house (over 2 hours on the train) now, at a massive cost to myself.

I know it's her house, but I just think it's quite shitty.

Prepared to be told to grow up and that i am BU.

What the hell does she want? she kicked you out of your room so her mates could sleep in it so you've left, obviously needing a safe permanent place to sleep not somewhere where you can be thrown out on a whim and now think she has the right to shout at you.

What's your mu saying?

Don’t engage op - she’s mad because she’s losing her emotional punching bag. Once she’s out of your life you will grow so much stronger!

Shes travelled 2 hours to continue an argument that she started and wont let you finish?

If you ever wonder if youre being unreasonable, just look at what shes done today and be assured it is her that is batshit crazy.

Leave the nasty bitch simmer in her flat with all her bitter vitriol to herself. Focus on your placement and ignore her.

OP, it's not you, it's her. To come along all this way to shout at you isn't reasonable behaviour.

Well she has travelled to my mum's to continue shouting at me in person

Wow.

Well, don’t engage with the accusations and name-calling. Just say, calmly, as a PP suggested: I need to have a room of my own whilst I’m studying and it obviously isn’t working for you to have me there full-time, so it’s best I move out now.

And repeat.
And repeat.

Don’t be dragged into an argument.

Poor you! She is being totally u, gaslighting and bullying.

You are well rid of her!

Thank her for letting you stay and tell her you need a full time room so need to find one now that she needs to use her spare room again.

Good grief she has come to your mums? How bloody old is she? 'Muuuuuuuuum she is being so unfair, I only asked her to sleep on the landing'

Please do not give in and go back. She sounds horrific and you are better without her.

Ugh! She’s bloody awful! Please please please don’t go back with her! She’s sabotaging your degree and your mental health, she only wants you to stay so she can bully you and make herself feel important.

I hope your mother realises that it's you in need of help this time and doesn't put any pressure on you. Hope you're ok.

I wonder too, whether your sister has a chip on her shoulder about you doing your Masters! Maybe there's an element of sabotage in her machinations... (reference her accusing you of using 'technical' language and disrupting you at a fairly critical time).

And like I said, 6 going on 7, re travelling to your Mum's to continue the argument. You know you haven't been unreasonable in any way. She, however, is unhinged

Bloody hell OP she sounds batshit! I hope your mum has your back. You are NOT overreacting so please try not to let her batshittery convince you otherwise!

And how are you being unreasonable? By not being at her beck and call?

Op your well rid, let her on at this stage. I bet your own mental health will vastly improve when away from her. Also it seems like her ex might have had a lucky escape too!!

Agree with others definitely look into house sharing with older people, you come across as a lovely caring person.

She sounds horrible and a user! Hope you find something soon, OP. You’ll be well rid of her.

In what way does she think you are abusive? I mean, I can see how she might try and say you are overreacting (not that I think you are) but abusive? How?

Hope you’re okay @Pinespow

Just because she’s your sister doesn’t give her a free pass with such terrible behaviour, I hope your mum stands up for you if you feel you can’t.

I would NEVER treat my sister like this. She is bang out or order. Good luck OP.

I’m sorry op your sisters a grade A cunt and I can see why she’s divorced

What happened last night op? Hope you ok

You can't live like that. I think you need to tell her that and start looking for something else.

I hope your mum was able to stick up for you.

Urgh damn moving house! I realise it's been a few days but I need an update.

What happened OP??