Aibu to ask DH to come swimming with us, when he hates his body

[Indecisivelurcher]

Aibu to ask DH to come swimming with me and the kids, age 2 and 4, when he hates his body? Just had a blazing row about this. I feel he should essentially suck it up, because it's difficult for me to take 2 non-swimmers on my own. Not impossible, because Dd can just about touch the floor, but difficult. And because I feel strongly that the kids should go swimming regularly to develop water confidence. He feels that I should take them on my own because he hates it, and feels like people are looking at him because very skinny and has some vitiligo around his torso. I genuinely don't know which of us is being unreasonable here.

YABU. My friend's DH can't swim for medical reasons and so she just has to work around it. I'm someone who considers swimming an important skill for children to learn but it's not fair to pressure your partner into something that is going to cause them significant distress, whatever that thing is.

I think if it really genuinely bothers him yabu . Take one at a time and leave him to take the other to a park , or go with a friend . Or can he sit at the side