DH has disappeared and left son at a festival

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My DH is a recovering alcoholic and has seemed to be doing really well. He took my 15 year old son to a festival today at the other end of the country. At about 7pm he told my son he was going to the toilet and has not been heard of since. My son has Aspergers and is in the tent really scared. I cannot get there until 11 o’clock tomorrow as they have the car and I will have to get a train. On one hand I am beyond angry but also terrified as he has tried to kill himself when drunk before. I am beside myself with worry. What can I do?

Wow what a night. I hope everyone is safe and well.

Oh how horrible. Hope everything works out and you find your ds quickly

Any one else wondering how the OP is going to be able to get into the festival site without a ticket?

Approach security on the gate, explain the situation, explain local police are aware. Maybe wait around a bit while people radio around. Get let in. Or, offer to buy a day ticket. It's a music festival, not the Vatican's secret archives.

Your poor son OP. Hope he is ok and not too upset by it all (and having to leave early because of his dad :( ) .

Good luck OP and I hope it all goes well (as can be)

Any one else wondering how the OP is going to be able to get into the festival site without a ticket?

No. Because we RTFT.

Have you gotten through to either of them yet? Hopefully you're nearly there now. Miserable blooming weather for a festival and a massive fuck up too. Your DH should have known that a festival would have been a high risk place for him to be. What's done is done, once your son has means to contact police, that's all that matters.

I hope you and your son are ok OP, you have been brilliant and your son is lucky to have you

Good luck op

Good luck OP

Just got up & found this thread. Apart form a few exceptions, really feel the power of MN support.

Good luck OP, you are being amazing. My DS is a little older & loves festivals but I am always terrified when he goes & tell him I would pick him up any time day or night if needed. It's good you're able to go there for your DS.

OP you are an amazing Mum. I have a ds with ASD & he would have been beside himself. No matter what your husbands issues I would find this unforgivable.

Oh Op, how scary for you. I hope you get to home safely

Hope ds is ok

I’m so stressed for you! Your poor son.

Hopefully you’re on site now and about to find your son.

Hope all goes ok OP

Hope it goes ok OP x

Thinking of you

I hope you are with your son by now and he's ok. He's been incredibly brave in a rough situation.

Thinking of you still

Hope you are with your family now OP

Give that boy of yours a huge hug! It sounds like he is very sensible and incredibly brave!
As for your DP although hard, say nothing now! In my experience having a go whilst they are still drunk somehow aids their 'poor me' feelings. When hung over they just want peace because of their head/sickness.
You need to figure out what you want and need to say to him and wait until later or tomorrow!
I know this is hard! Op, I would be livid!

I would take my DS home. How worrying.

Hope all ok now xxx