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DH has disappeared and left son at a festival

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dogletsrock · 27/07/2019 00:04

My DH is a recovering alcoholic and has seemed to be doing really well. He took my 15 year old son to a festival today at the other end of the country. At about 7pm he told my son he was going to the toilet and has not been heard of since. My son has Aspergers and is in the tent really scared. I cannot get there until 11 o’clock tomorrow as they have the car and I will have to get a train. On one hand I am beyond angry but also terrified as he has tried to kill himself when drunk before. I am beside myself with worry. What can I do?

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Branleuse · 27/07/2019 09:27

Jesus, what an arsehole your husband is. You just do not do this. You cannot trust him at all, clearly :( Unforgiveable.

your son will be ok, you calmed him, you spoke to the right people, and youre on your way first chance you got.

Newmumma83 · 27/07/2019 09:27

Hey just been reading this , so sorry you and your son have gone through this!
Hoping you got a little sleep on the train only an hour and a half and you will have your son

NoLeopard · 27/07/2019 09:28

Gosh, so glad you are on your way. Do you know if your dh returned during the night? Hopefully he did and there is a forgiveable explanation. 🤞

wigglybluelines · 27/07/2019 09:30

Are you going to try to get on site? If you explain at the gate they may let you on-site and if they don't demand to speak to welfare.

rainbowstardrops · 27/07/2019 09:30

Bloody hell, what a worry for you! And for your son! I do hope he's ok.
As for your husband, if he got drunk and abandoned your DS then I'd never ever forgive him.

marvellousnightforamooncup · 27/07/2019 09:30

Bertrand, OP can't stay and let him see bands, she has no ticket and the dh is unreliable if he turns up again. She can take him home with minimal fuss, but not much more than that unless there are unsold tickets.

Heaviestdirtyestsoul · 27/07/2019 09:31

Wishing you all the best OP, must seem like an incredibly long journey Flowers

imaflutteringkite · 27/07/2019 09:32

OP you're doing amazing. I have a son with ASD and he has a father with some difficulties of his own. They're going to be 300 miles away from me for a week soon and I'm terrified. I think you've handled this perfectly.

Wildorchidz · 27/07/2019 09:32

This is just so awful op
Hope your son is ok and that your dh has turned up.

Stompythedinosaur · 27/07/2019 09:33

I cannot imagine how angry you must be! What tour dh has done is quite unforgivable.

KUGA · 27/07/2019 09:33

Agree with advice from others.
Contact the police then dump the DH.
Hope all ends well for you and your son.

TSSDNCOP · 27/07/2019 09:34

I think your boy has been terrific and you’ve been a tower OP. Safe travels x

wigglybluelines · 27/07/2019 09:35

OP can't stay and let him see bands, she has no ticket and the dh is unreliable if he turns up again. She can take him home with minimal fuss, but not much more than that unless there are unsold tickets.

She might be able to stay for a bit if she can get on-site.

My friends and I blagged our way into festivals with all sorts of stories when we were younger. With most festivals, once you're in you're in.

bellabasset · 27/07/2019 09:35

Sorry you have had such a worrying time, I hope all is well when you arrive.

oatmilk4breakfast · 27/07/2019 09:38

Or if OP is genuinely reassured that son ok she could maybe chill in cafe nearby while son watches fav band or whatever. But I think she has already said he wants to come home. Good luck! 💐

Marmozet · 27/07/2019 09:39

I hope all is okay when you get there.

LauraMipsum · 27/07/2019 09:41

Hope you were able to get some sleep on the train OP. Good luck.

agapanthus1979 · 27/07/2019 09:41

Sending best wishes.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 27/07/2019 09:43

I hope you’re nearly at the station now, and then get your taxi quickly. I can’t imagine how drained and devastated you must feel. You have done everything you could, and shown yourself to be a brilliant and strong woman. It won’t be long before you’re with your ds.

For today just focus on what needs to happen for ds. You don’t need to make any decisions whilst you’re exhausted and stressed. This is a day for getting through, not a day for anything more than that.

We are all here cheering you on Flowers

sparkles07 · 27/07/2019 09:43

Your poor son must have been terrified.

Hope you are there now giving him the biggest hug in the world.

DuckWillow · 27/07/2019 09:45

What a nightmare. Hope you are almost there now and that your son is okay. I’ve a 16yr old autistic son and I know he’d be frantic in this situation.

Branleuse · 27/07/2019 09:45

you might be able to get a day ticket if he wants to stay

Moondancer73 · 27/07/2019 09:46

Oh op what a nightmare for you, you must be exhausted and so worried.
At least now you aren't far off the end of your train journey and hopefully can get to your son soon.

surreysnapper · 27/07/2019 09:47

good luck op.. hope your son is safe.
take your time to decide what to do about your dh

GibbonLover · 27/07/2019 09:47

What tour dh has done is quite unforgivable

Sorry, I'm still lost. What has the DH actually done? Does OP know for certain? Has he turned up yet?

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