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DH has disappeared and left son at a festival

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dogletsrock · 27/07/2019 00:04

My DH is a recovering alcoholic and has seemed to be doing really well. He took my 15 year old son to a festival today at the other end of the country. At about 7pm he told my son he was going to the toilet and has not been heard of since. My son has Aspergers and is in the tent really scared. I cannot get there until 11 o’clock tomorrow as they have the car and I will have to get a train. On one hand I am beyond angry but also terrified as he has tried to kill himself when drunk before. I am beside myself with worry. What can I do?

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Idontno · 27/07/2019 09:10

Can you buy a ticket on the door and join DS for the day?

Jurassiclover · 27/07/2019 09:10

So sorry to hear what's been happening but I'm so glad that you're on your way. Hopefully you find them both safe and getting home isn't too bad. I can understand wanting to leave DH behind, I think I'd be furious too, my dad is a recovered (sort of) alcoholic and I know the anger all too well. Sending hugs and hoping for a positive update soon!

RogueV · 27/07/2019 09:11

Hope you manage to reach your son safely Brew

MyFlabberIsAghast · 27/07/2019 09:13

I hope your son had an alright night and managed to get some sleep. Good luck OP

AfterSchoolWorry · 27/07/2019 09:13

Good luck OP 🍀

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Soubriquet · 27/07/2019 09:15

Hope your son is ok and that dh turns up safe and well

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Turquoisesea · 27/07/2019 09:15

Hope all is OK when you get there x

PG2018 · 27/07/2019 09:16

Hope today goes well op and your son and DH are ok Thanks

Orangeballon · 27/07/2019 09:16

Contact the police, they will help in this situation.

BertrandRussell · 27/07/2019 09:16

“Imo you'd have to be a parent with a heart of stone not to have been panicked in the op's positiin”

Of course! But our job is to remind her that nothing too dreadful happened- and the chances of anything dreadful having happened are close to zero. And her job is to make sure her ds is as unscathed by this experience as possible. So letting him stay on if he wants to, not missing any bands he came to see. Not scooping him off home at once. Unless that is genuinely what he wants.

BertrandRussell · 27/07/2019 09:18

Particularly considering her son has ASD- and this would have been particularly difficult for him.

marvellousnightforamooncup · 27/07/2019 09:19

If it's hard to find the tent, try What3words app. It can give position to 3 metres and navigate you there on Google maps. I've used it at festivals to find friends.

VivienneHolt · 27/07/2019 09:19

I just want to say OP I think you are handling this brilliantly, you've been so calm and done exactly the right thing for your son. Regardless of what happens now, you were there for him when he needed it most Thanks

Neverender · 27/07/2019 09:20

Hope your son is ok. I wouldn't be able to forgive this.

NonTraditionalFeelings · 27/07/2019 09:21

So sorry you and your son are going through this. Hopefully you are now on your way and your son is ok x

MediocreOmens · 27/07/2019 09:21

Oh OP, how terrifying. Hope that your son and DH is ok. I think you are handling this brilliantly given the circumstances Thanks

TheSerenDipitY · 27/07/2019 09:22

i should imagine the police, would have paid more attention to him and kept an eye out over night, where they could, and as he spoke with them he knew he could get help if he needed... hopefully he felt secure knowing they knew where he was and that they were not far if he needed them... all he needs now is his mum...

Namechange169376 · 27/07/2019 09:22

Hope you get to your son as quick as possible. I couldn't forgive this op, it's so irresponsible of your DH.

winepls · 27/07/2019 09:23

I first read this at 4am and the first thing I did when I woke was check this thread. I really hope you are both ok OP, I can't imagine how you must be feeling. A hundred things I don't doubt. You are amazing xxx

OhFuckingLisaMorgan · 27/07/2019 09:24

Oh love! Thanks

That's awful but you are a superhero! Good luck x

Thehop · 27/07/2019 09:24

Nearly there OP, safe journey home with your boy x

eternalopt · 27/07/2019 09:25

I would hope if you spoke to the organisers and explained the situation they would let have temporary access and let you in. If you contact the same police team that you spoke to last night on site, could they not verify for the organisers that you only need to go in to get to the camping field and rescue your DS

GibbonLover · 27/07/2019 09:25

Have I missed something? People seem to be talking as if the DH has turned up and they know what has happened to him. Did he get back to the tent then?

SummerInTheVillage · 27/07/2019 09:25

Thanks to HQ for deleting the troll hunters. I wish they'd ban them, they ruin this site. And make unhappy people feel even worse. Who would want to do that? A special sort of cunt, that's who.

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