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DH has disappeared and left son at a festival

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dogletsrock · 27/07/2019 00:04

My DH is a recovering alcoholic and has seemed to be doing really well. He took my 15 year old son to a festival today at the other end of the country. At about 7pm he told my son he was going to the toilet and has not been heard of since. My son has Aspergers and is in the tent really scared. I cannot get there until 11 o’clock tomorrow as they have the car and I will have to get a train. On one hand I am beyond angry but also terrified as he has tried to kill himself when drunk before. I am beside myself with worry. What can I do?

OP posts:
Loopy3585 · 27/07/2019 08:19

Hope all is ok when you get there op

PerkyPomPoms · 27/07/2019 08:19

Fingers crossed for you op

jpclarke · 27/07/2019 08:20

My heart goes out to you and your son, I hope you have no hassles getting into the festival when you get there. You are a great Mum who will obviously go to the end of the earth for your son. Concentrate on him today and worry about your husbands situation when you are feeling strong enough Thanks

ShetlandWife · 27/07/2019 08:21

Oh op I feel for you! I know what it's like to have to drop everything in the middle of the night to get a child back did to an irresponsible father, but thankfully it was just 10 miles down the road.

It sounds like everything will be OK, and I'm very glad for your son that you are on your way to get him.

Its unfortunate, but I don't think you can trust your husband with things like that after what he's done this time. But you'll need his side of the story first I guess.

Louisa111 · 27/07/2019 08:21

Hope you are ok op.. it must've been very frightening for your son when your dh disappeared off. Hope your sons ok when you get to him

Weenurse · 27/07/2019 08:22

💐

twattymctwatterson · 27/07/2019 08:24

I realise your husband has an illness op but I could never forgive this.

IamtheOA · 27/07/2019 08:24

Good luck OP......
Brew
( coffee because you probably could do with some caffeine)

DtPeabodysLoosePants · 27/07/2019 08:24

God speed to the festival OP and being reunited with your son quickly. I live not too far from Buxton and know the train journey well. If you can look out at the beautiful scenery it may help give you a little calm. Although it is probably moody and misty today with the rain. Thinking of youThanks

heidbuttsupper · 27/07/2019 08:25

Sending strength op. My husband was an alcoholic. I know how difficult things can be. Get to the festival safely and decide what is best to do for you and your son. You are doing amazing Thanks

tomtom1999xx · 27/07/2019 08:27

Oh how distressing for you op.
I really hope everything turns out ok.
Flowers

SaraNade · 27/07/2019 08:27

OP I keep coming on here to check for updates, my heart is actually racing. My father was an alcoholic and it caused my mother and I such pain, stress and worry. I went grey in my late 20's. I can feel the panic and nervousness from then even now. My heart and thoughts go out to you and your son. I don't know what else to say. Except I am thinking of you from Australia.

Frazzled2207 · 27/07/2019 08:27

Safe travels and I hope you're reunited with your son very soon

SaraNade · 27/07/2019 08:29

I never understand why anyone would think that any post like this is a troll post. We KNOW these things happen - ALL the time! Unfortunately. Why do people always try to think the worst of others, instead of accepting their posts on face value? It makes me angry, especially when people like the OP are ones who least deserve the abuse and doubt.

twirlypoo · 27/07/2019 08:29

I am so glad you are on your way. Totally agree with others, take this one step at a time - see what DS wants to do, you don’t need to make any decisions now about DH. Just get to your DS and take it from there. My heart goes out to you Flowers

Corkingbig · 27/07/2019 08:29

Omg you poor woman!!! How terrifying!

twoheaped · 27/07/2019 08:30

I had to "rescue" a 16 year old from Leeds Festival, the staff couldn't have been more helpful when I got there at 3am,as were the police.
I am sure the festival staff will be as helpful and you will soon be with your son.
As for your dh, what a shame he has fallen off the wagon whilst in sole care of your son. I hope he can turn himself around.

Pineapplefish · 27/07/2019 08:30

Well done OP. Hope your son is ok.

gingeristhenewblack43 · 27/07/2019 08:30

Thinking of you OP, I hope your DS has had a decent sleep and that your H is ok.

Howlovely · 27/07/2019 08:31

What a range of emotions you must have been through, OP. You must feel like you've been battered. Your son was very mature and responsible last night, you have obviously taught him very well! You will be with him very soon, we are all behind you and although it won't be the first thing on your mind, let us know how you are later. Sending you all lots of love and support! Take care x

Chimchar · 27/07/2019 08:31

Sorry you are having to go through this. I hope your DS is ok and that your husband is too.
Thinking of you. X

LuluBellaBlue · 27/07/2019 08:32

Hope everything is ok when you arrive OP Flowers

666onmyhead · 27/07/2019 08:32

Glad you are en route. Smile

raffle · 27/07/2019 08:33

Good, calming perspective from bertrand, I’ve my fingers crossed DS is managing

Apolloanddaphne · 27/07/2019 08:35

I hope you manage to sort things out for your DS. It sounds like a difficult situation.