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DH has disappeared and left son at a festival

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dogletsrock · 27/07/2019 00:04

My DH is a recovering alcoholic and has seemed to be doing really well. He took my 15 year old son to a festival today at the other end of the country. At about 7pm he told my son he was going to the toilet and has not been heard of since. My son has Aspergers and is in the tent really scared. I cannot get there until 11 o’clock tomorrow as they have the car and I will have to get a train. On one hand I am beyond angry but also terrified as he has tried to kill himself when drunk before. I am beside myself with worry. What can I do?

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Georgepigthedragon · 27/07/2019 07:07

Hope you and your son are OK OP Flowers

Morgan12 · 27/07/2019 07:09

I couldn't forgive this. I know alcoholism is a disease but he needs a major reality check here. Anything could have happened to your DS last night and it would have been his fault.

Hope you get there soon and that DS is ok.

PurpleFlower1983 · 27/07/2019 07:10

Wow, what an awful night for you OP. I hope your son is ok and that you get to him soon Flowers

whiteroseredrose · 27/07/2019 07:10

Good luck. Stay strong.

Yellowcar2 · 27/07/2019 07:10

Hope it all works out Flowers

Needcoffeecoffeecoffee · 27/07/2019 07:11

Hope your son has slept well op and you are on the way quickly.
If he's in rhe family camping he will be fine. Lots of families or groups of adults that just want to enjoy the festival.
Phone signal can be a bit dodgy up there but I'm sure rhe police can reunite you and your son.
Op won't need a ticket if she is just picking up her son. With other children at home I don't think this is a wild ploy to sneak in for free!
Besides there are lots of tickets for sale on Facebook cheap and it's not sold out.
I have family there (responsible adults) so if you need anything op you can pm me.

FilledSoda · 27/07/2019 07:13

Your on your way , that's the important thing

ColdToesHere · 27/07/2019 07:16

Good luck OP. I hope your son is still fast asleep and not worried xx

jaseyraex · 27/07/2019 07:17

Bloody hell OP, I hope everything goes okay! I don't think I could forgive my DH for something like this. Hope your DS isn't too upset by the whole thing Flowers

iMatter · 27/07/2019 07:17

Good luck OP Thanks

billybagpuss · 27/07/2019 07:17

Hope all goes well today op I’m sure DS is fine and I hope when the dust has settled you can find a way to work through this with DH 💐

dudsville · 27/07/2019 07:19

I'm place marking for an update OP. What a shocking worrying event. I hope your son is ok. I suspect I too would feel that icy anger towards you're in. I'm glad for you that you are on your way now.

MrsMozartMkII · 27/07/2019 07:21

I hope your son is ok and you get through this.

DressingGown · 27/07/2019 07:22

Good luck OP Flowers

BertrandRussell · 27/07/2019 07:22

“Anything could have happened to your DS last night and it would have been his fault.”

No. The worst that could have happened is what did. He was very frightened and had a very horrible time until he talked to his mum and the police and then he went to sleep. Don’t over dramatise this with “anything could have happened” He’s 15- not far off the age that kids go to Festivals on their own. I realise that his ASD makes a difference, but still.

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MichaelMumsnet · 27/07/2019 07:22

Morning all, and thanks for the reports.
We don't have any concerns about the OP - she's been around for a while and previous posts are consistent.

We've removed a couple of posts for trollhunting, which we don't allow on the boards . If you're worried about any person or post, then please just hit the report button and we'll be happy to take a look.

Hope it all works out OP Flowers

Skittlesss · 27/07/2019 07:23

Hope all is well. I think I would be taking DS home regardless of your Husband’s excuses.

WizardOfAus · 27/07/2019 07:25

Good luck OP Flowers

wineandcheeseplease · 27/07/2019 07:25

I hope everything is OK

Blueoasis · 27/07/2019 07:26

Hope your son is OK. I would be leaving the husband there.

ohcanada · 27/07/2019 07:26

Hope it all works out OP!

Ivegotthree · 27/07/2019 07:26

Good luck OP

BikeRunSki · 27/07/2019 07:26

Good luck OP. I hope you find your son and husband safe and sound. My step father is a recovering alcoholic, and he is just coming out of a very rough few years, after 15 years of sobriety. I kind of hope that he just sprained his ankle and couldn’t get back to the tent!! On the other hand, if he did start drinking, maybe this will be his “rock bottom”, from which the only way is up.

divafever99 · 27/07/2019 07:27

What a terrible night you have had. Hope you get them both home safely.

Wonkydonkey44 · 27/07/2019 07:28

Good luck and safe journey Flowers

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