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DH has disappeared and left son at a festival

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dogletsrock · 27/07/2019 00:04

My DH is a recovering alcoholic and has seemed to be doing really well. He took my 15 year old son to a festival today at the other end of the country. At about 7pm he told my son he was going to the toilet and has not been heard of since. My son has Aspergers and is in the tent really scared. I cannot get there until 11 o’clock tomorrow as they have the car and I will have to get a train. On one hand I am beyond angry but also terrified as he has tried to kill himself when drunk before. I am beside myself with worry. What can I do?

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IStillMissBlockbuster · 27/07/2019 06:39

Your DH might well be scared too...of you! What a mess. Thinking of you op, hope you are all ok

HarryElephante · 27/07/2019 06:42

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LadyFarnborough · 27/07/2019 06:42

Glad you are on your way OP. I can't imagine the worry you are going through.

ColdAndSad · 27/07/2019 06:43

I hope you find your son and your DH safe and well, OP. This must have been so stressful for you and your son. Let us know how you get on.

Llioed · 27/07/2019 06:45

Safe travels OP, I hope your son is ok.

Blondiemama · 27/07/2019 06:46

Wishing you a safe journey op. I can only imagine how worried and upset you are. Hope you get there quickly and get DS sorted.

Illberidingshotgun · 27/07/2019 06:46

Safe trip OP. I hope your H is ok, and sleeping things off now. What you choose to do going forward is something to consider once you and your DS are back home and rested, and once H is recovered from a probable hangover.

HettySunshine · 27/07/2019 06:46

I've reported your post HarryElephant.

Chartreuser · 27/07/2019 06:48

OP I hope you're well in your way, this is such services and my heart goes out to you and your DS. V impressed with the Police though rather than going in all guns blazing

HarryElephante · 27/07/2019 06:48

I've reported your post HarryElephant

Thanks for the update.

tensmum1964 · 27/07/2019 06:50

Good luck. Your son will feel so much safer once he is with you. Xx

Lovingthesunshine88 · 27/07/2019 06:52

Awful situation for you OP i really hope everything is ok Flowers

lawnmowingsucks · 27/07/2019 06:52

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hammeringinmyhead · 27/07/2019 06:54

No, you're supposed to report threads you feel are not genuine, rather than start a discussion on why you think it's a troll.

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 27/07/2019 06:54

No it’s troll hunting which isn’t allowed

SomebodysPerson · 27/07/2019 06:54

OP I hope your son has managed a half decent sleep at least, and that your DH has returned.

SolitudeAtAltitude · 27/07/2019 06:55

Hope they are both ok

Gruzinkerbell1 · 27/07/2019 06:57

Hope your son managed to sleep. I’d kill my H if he ever did that to our kids.

Cheby · 27/07/2019 06:59

Are you on your train now OP? I’d be so angry with DH for this. I’m not sure there would be any coming back from it.

nzeire · 27/07/2019 07:00

You poor thing, what a massive shock and worry. So glad you are on the move to get to your son. All the best x

MiaFarrowsWheelbarrow · 27/07/2019 07:01

Any one else wondering how the OP is going to be able to get into the festival site without a ticket?

crosspelican · 27/07/2019 07:02

They'll escort her in.

Good luck OP!

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FrancesFryer · 27/07/2019 07:04

I would imagine as the op phoned the police to do a welfare check last night and the son has been given information on what to do if he feels unsafe the festival people will know about him.

AnotherEmma · 27/07/2019 07:04

Safe journey, hope it goes smoothly and you get to DS as quickly as possible.

I don't think I would want to look at my husband if he did that, let alone bring him home and let him stay! I would be telling him to find somewhere else to stay.

Completely understand that you don't want to make a scene when DS is already upset, though.