Petty things you still can't forgive people for

[Milkbath]

I have two

First one is my SIL (husband's sister)
She means well, but we're very different people, and she can be brash and overbearing. We're constantly working on maintaining boundaries for her, as otherwise she'd stamp all over them.

When I had my baby, she arrived unannounced a few days after we came home. This coincided with the community midwife visiting, and instead of making her excuses and leaving, SIL sat there and listened as the midwife asked me all the usual questions, some of which were extremely personal. Meanwhile SIL's toddler DC was trashing the house. In hindsight I wish I'd said something, but I was so weak and exhausted. The midwife should have as well, she kept glancing over at sil with that sort of expectant "time to fuck off now" look but sil has the hide of a rhino. Midwife was younger than I was at the time and I think she was a bit intimidated too. Even sometimes now I think back to it and it infuriates me!

You're right webuiltthisbuffetonsausage, definite typo. Thanks for picking up on that and not the bones of the comment!

Apologies, Doofletch - it was indeed a nasty thing for her to have done to you.

Graphista

London is the capital of England, yes, but it is ALSO the Capital of the UK.

40 years ago I proudly wore my T rex badge to nursery and some light fingered bastard stole it. Still hurts to this day.

And my dear Dad, who, whilst sat having dinner one night when I was about 4, pointed out of the window and said "oh what's that!?" I turned to look. He then STOLE MY SAUSAGE FROM MY PLATE!
It was one of those Heinz sausage and beans sausages. I howled and sobbed that much my Mum opened another tin whilst berating my Dad who found the whole thing hilarious.
He's been gone ten years now bless him but I still chuckle when I see a tin of sausage and beans.

Blueoasis, really? Go and look around the internet, you'll see it's normal for spoilers to be clearly marked and hidden for films and programmes that are years old, let alone a mere three months, because most people don't want to ruin the enjoyment of others.

This is my first post after having lurked for a while. Sorry for the endless list, but here's my rant:

• The nursery school teacher who slapped me in the face because I glued the wrong image or something. As I cried, she told me "to stop this drama". That's one of my first memories.

• Same nursery school teacher who, after glancing at the flower I was coloring for Mother's day, said "It's ugly".

• Same nursery school teacher who made fun of me because I had a lisp.

• The lunch lady who forced fed me grated carrots mixed with baked beans because we had to finish our plate before leaving the canteen.

• The headmaster who slapped me in the face because I dared respond to one of my bullies (I told him something really nasty, he and 90 % of the school had been bullying me for 3 years). Everyone laughed at me, and the bully never got punished.

• My controlling and manipulative ex who got married on my birthday this year.

• Same ex who called me fat, ugly, boring and stupid every single day for 3 years. I hope his new wife will cheat of him. Many times.

• The "doctor" who refused to give me Naproxen for my migraines and told me to take 4 aspirins at once instead every time I had a migraine. Utterly irresponsible and unprofessional.

• The people who criticize me for being bitter because I can't let go of the past.

Aaaah, that felt good :)

PS: sorry for the potential mistakes, English is not my first language.

@Blueoasis can you really not comprehend that there are people with a myriad of reasons meaning they haven’t been able to see that’s film yet?! How sheltered are you?!

I still refer to our neighbour three doors down as "him that beeped at me when I was taking too long to turn out of our road."

I also hold a grudge against a kid I was in school with. My walk to school was a mile and a half, mostly uphill, so I'd be gasping for a drink of water by the time I arrived. It also often pissed down with rain, being Glasgow, so rather than having a drink of water in the playground I would go straight to my register class and drink there. Till my big-mouthed colleague, who probably never gave it a moment's subsequent thought, and whose mum used to drop him off, asked our register teacher whether I was actually allowed to drink water in the classroom. My teacher, who had till then turned a blind eye, was forced to say no and so from then on I had to have my drink out in the playground. Fucker.

A girl from school still owes me 42p I lent her for the bus home. I stalk her on FB sometimes. Her life looks shit and I'm glad.

@Dirtydennis - my favourite so far

The woman in Brixton who shoved my 12 year old daughter in the back and hissed 'Digusting!' to her as she passed; my daughter was pushing her baby brother in a buggy ......

@Ohmygoodnessreally can you not comprehend that the world doesn't revolve around those people? It came out 3 months ago. Hell, they even said he was gone in the spiderman trailer and that thing was getting shown everywhere. After a couple of weeks, spoilers are fair game on the Internet. If it had been 3 days, you would have a point. 3 months? Not even a slight point. You don't want to know? You don't go online, you don't watch anything. You hide under a rock basically until you've seen it, if avoiding spoilers are that damn important to you. That's the problem with the Internet, people can say what they like. You don't like that? Then you're the sheltered one.

You want to continue whining about me? Send me a private message, rather than continuing to go off topic on this thread. Although you are being petty so guess it isn't.

Friend I met through DH as she married his best friend. She moved from another country. We both found out we were pregnant and due within weeks of each other.
I went on holiday and took unwell and ended up in hospital. I lost the baby and in the panic we hadn’t brought our EHIC card to the hospital, but we gave our name and home address.
We returned home and a few months later received a bill from the hospital for my treatment.
It was in the days of cheque books and she banked in the country I had been in hospital in. My DH contacted his friend and asked if we gave them cash, could friend write us a cheque to pay the bill.
Two weeks later on meeting her she said if I hadn’t got sorted to give her a shout. DH ended up asking a work colleague who had a brother who was able to help and we managed to pay the bill.

My dbros ex gf decided to put a pic of my newborn dd on fb because my parents had even had chance to met her, they had only been together about 7 months at that time, the only reason she had seen her first was dbro had looked after ds and they brought him to met her. Still pisses me off.

My dress maker for my BM was a real piece of work went for fittings as they were being hand made and she wasnt there after she arranged the appointment. She continued to ignore us and decided to shit and cause trouble between me and my BM. We finally got the dresses wrong colour and poorly sized and made. MOH got her dress at 8 o'clock chopped to bits the underneath had been cut a good 10 inches and looked silly, her poor mam tried to sort it as it was badly thrown together.

We moved from Northern Ireland to London when I was eight my class teacher was a horrible old witch. The class were going to The horse of the year show, this was in the 70s when the IRA had a bombing campaign in London, on the night before the horse of the year show the IRA planted bombs in London which exploded. Next day at school the teacher said everybody is going to the horse of the year show apart from IRA girl pixie. I hated that teacher so much.

We get medical supplies for my son delivered regularly. Sometimes they go to the local health center and the nurse drops them to our home.
I heard the doorbell one day and by the time I got down the nurse had called into a neighbor with my delivery.
The neighbor was saying to the nurse that the youth of today are always ordering stuff online that we don’t need and never home to collect it.
It was medical supplies not a bikini from fucking boohoo! The nurse was agreeing with the old bad knowing what was in the box!!
They both looked sheepish when they finally saw me and noticed I’d heard their bitching.

I’m still fuming

@Blueoasis

TheHandsOfNeilBuchanan ooh cruel 😂 you'll get told off by Eliza and the other one though. 

Actually, my first comment was a bit tongue in cheek, but there's no need for the nasty, sarcastic comments. I've actually spent the last year really unwell, I'd have loved to 'be normal' again and get to the cinema (I have now lost my job due to illness and am as risk of losing my home) so maybe stop being such a cow eh?

I've never forgiven the seagulls who nicked both my halves of a sardine right out of my hands on a Cornish beach when I was 9 leaving me dumbfounded wondering where my sardines had gone just as I was about to bite into them..since then I've (jokingly) referred to most seagulls as body builders and given them a wide berth.
Bloody seagull sarnie snatches. Keep your beak off my chips.

Sarnie* not sardines

Snatchers*

blueoasis: "does something thoughtless and unkind"
Several people: that was not very nice.
blueoasis: "long rant defending self with personal attacks".
Also blueoasis: sToP dErAiLiNg ThIs ThReAd

The lengths people will go to to avoid admitting they might have been wrong

My pil came to Dds (mine and their DS first child) first birthday without a present because "the novelty had worn off after x grandchildren"
I didnt care that they didnt bring a present and DD was none the wiser, obviously, but the excuse still hurts 12 years later!

MIL announcing births of both myDC on fb as soon as ex phoned her with the news.

We were still deciding on DD2s name, it was between two....and she just used one of the names in her announcement.

That woman was horrific, I could write a book on all the insensitive interfering things she did when my DDs were babies.

This is so completely outing but here goes.

The midwife who completely ruined my birth experience with ds. A doctor came in and said ‘oh there appears to be a lot of water’ and she just casually said ‘I think that’s mostly mum’ then looked down at me, put the biggest fake smile on her face and said ‘no offence’. Well joke was on you bitch because I had polyhydramnios and you got soaked with what was described by another midwife as ‘the most water she had ever seen come out of a person’ the moment I gave birth to ds.

She was cold, uncaring and made a lot of snide comments to me. There were many other things she did/said that I won’t go into. I don’t know if she was having a crappy day or what but she totally ruined that (my last) birthing experience and I am still upset about it many years on. I will never forgive her. She looked at me with such disgust and I so wish I’d have complained at the time.

Lent a very good friend of mine a favourite video film of mine and when asked for it back, she said she already had given it back. (bull)
Lent one of my uni manuals to a class mate who went on to lend it without permission to some asshole girl who then informed me she had lost it and no, she had no intention of buying a new one or finding someone she could copy it off from. (twats)
My mum's maternal family were really close knit. My gran was one of 6 sisters. When she died in England, my mum had life saving cancer op and was left disabled and spent 8 weeks in hospital. My bro and I looked after her (we were 26 and 23) no other relatives in town. Unfortunately it meant we couldn't go to my gran's funeral, who was a super important person in my life, and internally, it was hard for me. But my mum came first. Bitch of my gran's sisters stopped speaking to us and my aunt. I tried to bridge things and she looked suitably surprised when she saw my mum as disabled. Did she think we were laying in the sun whilst our gran died or what. I decided if that is what she thought of me, I was surplus to requirements in her life. That was in 2000. Haven't spoken to her since.

Brand new neighbour put an insurance claim in on our insurance a few weeks after we had got the keys saying that we had caused damp in their house (damp that it was ridden with so obviously long term)
The neighbours weren’t attached and were 2 doors away so not even right next door.

I don’t think il ever forgive them for that as I was so stressed after house move and was 38 weeks pregnant at the time.

Luckily our insurance company dealt with the whole thing and told them where to go