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Petty things you still can't forgive people for

503 replies

Milkbath · 26/07/2019 13:22

I have two

First one is my SIL (husband's sister)
She means well, but we're very different people, and she can be brash and overbearing. We're constantly working on maintaining boundaries for her, as otherwise she'd stamp all over them.

When I had my baby, she arrived unannounced a few days after we came home. This coincided with the community midwife visiting, and instead of making her excuses and leaving, SIL sat there and listened as the midwife asked me all the usual questions, some of which were extremely personal. Meanwhile SIL's toddler DC was trashing the house. In hindsight I wish I'd said something, but I was so weak and exhausted. The midwife should have as well, she kept glancing over at sil with that sort of expectant "time to fuck off now" look but sil has the hide of a rhino. Midwife was younger than I was at the time and I think she was a bit intimidated too. Even sometimes now I think back to it and it infuriates me!

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Popfan · 27/07/2019 20:39

My brother was (and still is) a keen golfer. When he was a teenager (about 25 years ago) he carried for a day for Nicky Cambell at a pro / celebrity event. At the end of the (long) day he asked my brother if he'd like some money or a load of CDs to say thanks , my brother said the CDs and gave him our address to send them to. They were never sent. What an utter twat - I've never forgiven him and can't stand watching him in anything - particularly Watchdog, what a hypocrite!!!

Almostnovelist · 27/07/2019 20:42

A nightmare colleague I worked with once ended up having a brief relationship with a friend of mine, so I begrudgingly had to invite her to my wedding. She sent me a text at 5am on the morning of the wedding to 'wish me luck' (wake me up more like it). Then turned up in a white lacy dress with purple stockings and caught the bouquet.

Then turned up the next day with her sister, who hadn't been invited, and just kind of hung around needlessly. The put photos on FB of the event, including one of me with my shoes off towards the end of the night looking a bit un-bridal. Still seethe about her, they barely lasted after that either.

quizqueen · 27/07/2019 20:44

I'll never forgive the writers of the tv series LOST for the crap ending. I thought it would be some alien/sci fi explanation but it ended up being about the afterlife. I was so disappointed. I gave 6 years of my life following that show, chatting on forums etc. and it's put me off getting so involved with any other long series!

jane251 · 27/07/2019 20:50

My friend who boasted about her new job, and waved her gold amex card in my face, and then expected me to go Dutch on a pot of tea.And I don't mean a trip to Holland, ha, ha..

LouH1981 · 27/07/2019 20:57

I was a young trainee solicitor and had just finished a conference with a respected family barrister and a Local Authority Guardian who was a little extrovert. After the Guardian had left, the barrister said to me ‘I do wonder how much she understands, what is it they say about people with dementia? They smile away even though they have no clue what is going on’ and laughed away.
My Dad, at 59, had just been diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s. I said nothing. This was in 2006. Dad died in 2014 and I still imagine the things I should have said to wipe that horrible smile off her face.
Don’t get me started on the ‘Last Adventure before Dementia’ bumper stickers. No one would make those kind of jokes about cancer...😡😡

Scoobydoobywho · 27/07/2019 21:01

I went to my dh Christmas party one year
I was about 4 1/2 months pregnant at the time. When we walked in, one of my dh female colleagues thought it would be a good idea to to say to me "God your big aren't you". Still annoys me now when I see her and it was over 8 years ago.Hmm

paris100 · 27/07/2019 21:06
  1. A colleague and I were both pregnant at the same time and due a couple of months apart. She was very friendly with the boss. At the time of her starting maternity leave, the boss had got all members of staff to contribute baby items that were made into a large baby hamper, lovingly wrapped up.
I got...a bottle of wine. I didn’t go back.
  1. Lying in hospital, a day after giving birth, my parents came to visit. My mother said...I see you’ve still got your belly then.
  1. When my sister got engaged, my mum paid for her and her fiancé, who had been married before, to go on holiday to the Far East as a present. When I got engaged, we got nothing as I had been married before.
  1. My mother has just given my sister ‘spending money’ for her holiday this year. My young children and I are staying home as we can’t afford a holiday this year.
Bugbabe1970 · 27/07/2019 21:13

You need to get out more 🙈

paris100 · 27/07/2019 21:13

Another from me..
When I was 16, I had a Saturday job in a supermarket and earned £8 for the day. My mother was then offered a job and wanted me to give up my Saturday job to look after my sister. I loved my job and didn’t want to.
So she had to get a neighbour to look after my sister and made me pay her £5 fee out of my wage 😳

shellistar · 27/07/2019 21:14

When about 8 years old my Nana bought me and my friend a chocolate bar each. I was so excited, a whole bar of Cadbury chocolate. A fruit and nut and a whole nut. The selfish bitch KNEW I didn't like fruit and nut (and she did) and refused to even share and have half the bars each, let alone let me have the whole nut one.

My ex had five sisters, they all booked tickets to a concert and didn't tell me. The day after they went they told me they had a spare ticket and had really struggled to find someone to use it so had given it to one of the kids rather than waste it. Utter cow bags.

MrsLinManuelMiranda · 27/07/2019 21:30

@Shellistar I don't get it, did your friend keep both bars for herself, or did you just get 1/2 the whole nut? I hate fruit and nut!

Binglebong · 27/07/2019 21:59

I hope you DH is now an ex Tomboy.Flowers

loveyou3000 · 27/07/2019 22:00

Ooh also DD's aunt, cousin and grandmother not turning up to DD's first birthday, and subsequently uninviting (as in invited her, then retracted the invite!) to her cousins party. Never forgiven them and the favouritism they've shown towards DD's older half sister (not my child). We have a very strained relationship as a result and haven't spoken in 2 years.

Thistimetomorrow · 27/07/2019 22:14

In the days of CSEs and GCSEs our school gave a prize to the 2 people with the best results, being given out at the end of year prize giving school assembly.
I got the best CSE results in my year and having parents who weren’t in the least interested in my education I was excited about my achievement.
They gave out the various prizes. I was very shy and as it got closer to my prize, my heart was beating like a drum. They announced the GCSE prize winner and left me out. When I asked why I didn’t get a prize I was told Oh we’re not bothering with the CSE prize this year.

Shuggas · 27/07/2019 22:17

I was about 6, sat on the curb in the playground, teacher berated me for sitting there as I was 'deliberately showing my knickers to the boys' I absolutely wasn't I had no idea what she was on about... it has bugged me my whole life. Bloody twat

Never will forget that

pippop1317 · 27/07/2019 22:18

When me and colleague reported male colleague for sexual harassment (with witnesses) and said we didn't want to make it official, we just wanted it to stop. He declared we were lying. We saved him his job by not making it official. And having to go home and tell his wife!

I will never forgive my df for saying the reason my dd had alopecia was my fault because I shouted.
I didn't shout, my daughter was 2 at the time.

I will never forgive my sil for listing all the reasons why she hated me to my dh because I didn't take a birthday card to her dd. My dh worked away and I had a full time job and a 1yr old at the time.

Fairyhill · 27/07/2019 22:19

A friend once said I spoiled my son with too much attention.

  1. hes autistic with sensory issues.
  2. her f**king kids walked all over her and she did everything for them including not having a life because they did nt want her too. It’s 19 years since and I still remember it.. and chew over it..
shellistar · 27/07/2019 22:22

A stupid bloody quiz master. You had to guess the artists of five songs and say what linked them. The artists were Scissor Sisters, Aqua, Jedward, The Carpenters and Ant & Dec. No idea what link I thought it was but the quiz master said the answer was that they were all duos. Oh I majorly got the rage. Scissor Sisters are a five piece and Aqua were a four piece band. But doesn't matter if you're actually correct because the stupid fucking quiz masters answer is final. Tool.

CheshireChat · 27/07/2019 22:33

I'm not going to forgive quizqueen for spoiling Lost for me Wink.

Funnily enough, what she didn't like makes me want to watch it mote!

Banj0girl · 27/07/2019 22:37

Next door neighbour's child stole my child's cars and buried them. Then he swore at my husband. His mother said - well what do you expect of children these days ! Later she said he was accepted for Oxford ! (polytechnic)
He is now married with twins, we do get on quite well but she never talks to me. My memory is too long.

Masketti · 27/07/2019 23:00

A group of us agree to split a joint present for a friend. I bought the present and others were to give me the money. Except Ben. Ben decided not to, but by this point everyone else had paid so I could hardly ask them for another 50p or whatever. Annoyed me as Ben had introduced the friend to us in the first place! He used to whisper the amount he owed me in my ear for years afterwards. Can you tell we were teenagers??

OMGafourth · 27/07/2019 23:21

My bil and sil still haven't bothered coming over to meet our baby. She's 13 months.

'Friend' who practically lived with me for a year, I cooked dinner for Atleast 5 nights a week etc disappeared off the face of the earth after getting with her new fella. Ghosted me/blocked me in social media. She's tried to reconsile but its not the same.

AnguaUberwaldIronfoundersson · 27/07/2019 23:23

@Thistimetomorrow I feel your pain. In primary there was an award for the too house team, top girl and top boy on sorts day. It was always the same people who won and it was done on points based on races you won. My final sports day I won every single race and knew I'd scored more points than anyone. I was almost giddy with excitement because I KNEW I'd won the little trophy for the top overall girl. I'd never won anything in my life and I was so happy. Guess what year they stopped doing the single trophies and did the house trophy only? Yup you guess it!!!

shellistar · 27/07/2019 23:27

@MrsLinManuelMiranda

She kept all the whole nut for herself and I was left with the fruit and nut. I tried a piece but it was rank so she gobbled that up too.

I wanted the whole nut but would have been happy each sharing the bars and having half of each flavour each. She was just selfish and wanted what I wanted because I wanted it.

Another time my aunt took us away overnight and I shared a double bed with my friend. She kicked me all night and pushed me right to the edge of the bed because she was just that kind of nasty.

I was glad when we went to big school and made different friends.

GreigLaidlawsbarofsoap · 27/07/2019 23:33

@Tillygetsit I'm sorry but Longeared Owl had me howling, that's brilliant 😂😂😂