Petty things you still can't forgive people for

[Milkbath]

I have two

First one is my SIL (husband's sister)
She means well, but we're very different people, and she can be brash and overbearing. We're constantly working on maintaining boundaries for her, as otherwise she'd stamp all over them.

When I had my baby, she arrived unannounced a few days after we came home. This coincided with the community midwife visiting, and instead of making her excuses and leaving, SIL sat there and listened as the midwife asked me all the usual questions, some of which were extremely personal. Meanwhile SIL's toddler DC was trashing the house. In hindsight I wish I'd said something, but I was so weak and exhausted. The midwife should have as well, she kept glancing over at sil with that sort of expectant "time to fuck off now" look but sil has the hide of a rhino. Midwife was younger than I was at the time and I think she was a bit intimidated too. Even sometimes now I think back to it and it infuriates me!

My best friend of 25 years got married, we spent our whole lives planning to be each other’s bridesmaids etc so I was very excited until we went for dinner and she casually dropped into conversation that she’d been bridesmaid dress shopping with her bridesmaids. All his family. Went to the wedding and I was put on a table with his work colleagues. Damn near broke my heart especially when we hadn’t fallen out or anything leading up to this. He just wanted his family in all the key parts 🤷🏻‍♀️ We haven’t spoken since, it hurts too much (pathetic I know and I need to get over it but it was a lifetime of excitement over being there for each other on our special days)

I'm still holding a grudge against a fella at work who offended me at dinner 18 months ago. I can't remember what he said but I'm still fucking furious about it 😂

I made a delicious pasta bake for me and dh.

Got it out of oven and had to do something so told him to serve himself half of it and I'd have the other half later.

Came back and he'd taken off the top half for himself so basically all of the crispy, cheesy topping, leaving the bottom half for me. Who does that?!

God, so many; I can bear a grudge for England, Ireland, Scotland, Wales and Paraguay.

1. Moments after marrying her son, my new MIL told me how delighted she was I'd joined the family etc. When I went to hug her for her kind words, she placed her hand flat on my chest and pushed me firmly back, much as you would an overenthusiastic Golden Retriever. I felt crushed and embarrassed.
2. While on holiday in Greece with my then best friend some 30 years ago, she twice left me alone in a nightclub because she'd copped off with someone and wanted to go off with them. After standing around like a tit for a while, I would walk back alone to our extremely remote, local accommodation.
3. My SIL posted a size-est comment on a Facebook picture of me and my other SILs. At the time, I had relatively recently given birth after the full-term stillbirth of my previous baby. I've never challenged her on it, just expressed confusion over what she meant, when I really should have said: "Piss off you personal twat!" or similar. The worst bit is she's a heath-care professional!
4. And too many to mention regarding my DSC. For the sake of peace I've held my tongue for years. When things were really bad, I wish I'd had the nerve to follow my friend's advice: "You should just be yourself; they hate you anyway!"

I went to stay with a friend for a few days on a particularly hot weekend in 2008. He made me walk half an hour with a heavy bag and wheeled suitcase from the bus station and through Leeds City Centre just so he didn't have to pay for parking. To top it all, if I thought I could have had a shower when I got to his, nope. He had no shower, only a bath. It still annoys me thinking about it.
Nope we're not friends anymore!

When one of my best friends said she couldn’t go on my 40th birthday weekend away because she needed to get her hair coloured for a wedding the following week. There were only 3 of us going anyway. She backed down in the end when I told her she’d upset me, but the atmosphere was chilly all weekend and on top of that, I had a 14 hour round trip for that weekend away. She lived 90 mins away from the place we were staying! I’m still upset about it and we’re LC now. I can’t understand who would drop a friend on their special birthday for a friggin’ hair appointment?

My first proper job out of uni was at the local council in the what was then the children’s, schools and family department. I was an admin assistant with an exceptionally heavy workload as I had three managers, two of which were not based where I was and so were unaware of the volume of work.
I worked late a lot and through lunch etc, however when it came to my annual review the comments to improve on was listed as “ she doesn’t make enough tea or coffee for the team”
I was fuming as I didn’t have the bloody time and I didn’t drink tea or coffee, still annoyed now and it was 20 years ago!!

I will never forgive @Blueoasis because I haven't had chance to see the new Avengers movie and now I don't need to 😡🙄

Yeah me neither - dick thing to do, dick thing to find it funny because there's been enough time to see it. It was released this year, I've been deliberately avoiding spoilers.

So my petty grudge is that. You don't expect to read a thread about grudges and find spoilers for a current movie

My in laws the first time I had Christmas dinner with them. I was 20, MIL asked a few days before if I liked X or Y starter, I said neither sorry. She said She would make me something else. She didn't.
When I asked if they had any cranberry sauce they reacted as though I'd asked for roast swan and said they weren't posh.
Then I asked if I could get some more and MIL reacted like Mr Bumble all DH's siblings looked at me open mouthed. I was so embarrassed. I was brought up to take a little bit of food and get more if you wanted.

Years later when we invited them round MIL brought the same two starters I didn't like because that's what they always have.
Insisted we invited SIL her boyfriend and BIL because they couldn't contemplate Christmas without them.
Insisted we ate early to accommodate their family traditions and all of them went back for seconds and polished off everything even the plate of turkey and ham I'd reserved for Boxing Day.

So I was about 18 and met and fell in love with someone. My boss at the time told me that I’m better off ending the relationship, as he has nocturnal epilepsy. She told me he was never going to amount to any thing, I will spend my life being his carer living in a council house.

That was over ten years ago...he has just recently become an RICS chartered building surveyor, we are married with two wonderful kids and have just bought our first home.

I left the job due to bullying from that same boss, but I have heard that she’s now a single mum due to marrying an alcoholic.

I bought two almond croissants, still warm from the bakery. Made a pot of coffee when I got home put them on a plate, went to change DSs nappy, called to DH there was coffee and pastry in the kitchen. Came back five minutes later and he'd eaten them both!! This was weeks ago and I still get the urge to poke him in the eye sometimes.

@ElizaPancakes and again, it's been released TWICE this year. It came out in April and then again a month or so ago. If you've failed to bother watching it despite being apparently so eager, that's your problem. You should stay away from the Internet as a whole to avoid spoilers of a film you want to see until you see it, everyone knows that. It could be spoiled anywhere. So yeah it's funny. 😂

Although he hasn't seen the avengers film yet, so I might've found my revenge!

TheHandsOfNeilBuchanan ooh cruel 😂 you'll get told off by Eliza and the other one though.

Similar to @Sparklingbrook I used to organise the annual NCT ball. At this time Jamie Oliver and wife had had a book published all about them becoming parents, including sections and pictures of them at their NCT classes... I wrote to ask for any donation for the auction or raffle, even a signed photo ( I know for a fact they have foot high stacks of these to send out) , mentioned how glad I was that he and fam had benefitted from the NCT. Got an actual letter back in the ACTUAL POST ( it’s annoying me again) saying Jamie’s gets far too many requests to send photos out to everyone who asks!! Written, no doubt, in the office NEXT TO the stack of photos!! Look - it’s STILL ANNOYING ME

Ooh just remembered another one.

Many years ago my (now very Ex) DP used to watch Antiques Roadshow together at home, every week. One evening I came in to settle down on the sofa for our telly fix ... to find him tucking into a Twix that he had bought at the paper shop on his way home ... for himself... nothing for me.

When I was about 5 we had some event at school where parents were invited to attend. One of the mum's brought a younger sibling who was in my way when I needed to go somewhere so I gently tapped them on the head to say excuse me. The mum went nuclear shouting "How DARE you wipe your hands on my child. You DIRTY DIRTY girl". I was doing nothing of the sort.

Also Sian who stole my curl up caterpillar that was given to me at school ( we all got different presents) and my useless mother who didn't stand up for me when we had both seen her with it.

Just remembered sending DH to the corner shop for my craving, Iron Bru when I was overdue with DS1. It was about 5 minutes before it closed on a Sunday.
He came back with Diet Coke.
I cried!

My in-laws have the same!!!! A photo of DH and his three brothers on our wedding day- it was actually ordered from the bloody photographer!!! Bride nowhere in sight! I can’t even look at it when I am at their house and the wedding was 20 years ago!!!!!!

@ithinkiammelting
My in-laws have the same!!!! A photo of DH and his three brothers on our wedding day- it was actually ordered from the bloody photographer!!! Bride nowhere in sight! I can’t even look at it when I am at their house and the wedding was 20 years ago!!!!!!

Today in a queue with my DD the line was near out the door and a young girl about 14 was in front and her nan was just outside the door waiting. The young girl got out of the queue and went to speak to her nan so I moved up to make space but knew if she was to come back I'd let her back in front of me as she only took 5 steps out the line. But her snotty miserable nan looked at me and then her GD and started saying to push back in front of me, she was here first , she didn't need to go to the back of the queue and kept telling her to push past me! I'm being petty but I was frigging furious I even told my daughter to never end up an old spiteful rude woman like her. She had a face like a smacked arse! I even said to the young to go back in front of me! Not even a thank you nothing!

Can I just say that a great many of these examples are not petty at all. They're making me and my non-admission to Blonde Club look even more daft niw!

23 years ago I lent my friend £120 - £80 was for a pair of jeans (blindingly expensive at the time) and I can't remember what the rest was for. But she never did pay me back and every so often it pops into my head - like it did immediately when I read this thread title.

Oh I’ve remembered one. A girl who lived near my grandparents was a horrid child. I never played out with her because she’d always be mean. One day she was throwing stones at a house and the man came out and told me off because I just happened to be sitting on my grandparents wall. She agreed that I’d done it and he said to her “of course, I know YOU would never have done it”.

She goes out with one of my friends from school now and doesn’t remember me. But I remember her, little ratbag.

When I was very small, probably under 2, my brother ‘persuaded ‘ me to swap my teddy ( which my granny had given me) for his, as mine was nicer. I would have been too young to understand.
Nearly 55 years on I am still cross with him for doing it, and my parents both for letting him do it and telling me about it afterwards!

I am also still cross with the midwife, ( nearly 19 years on), who, looking at my son, said, “He’s a beautiful baby, his father must be very good-looking.”
Firstly, it was less than a day after a quite complicated labour and my son looks like me!