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Sex or no sex

141 replies

WhateverName2 · 25/07/2019 19:26

Am i the only person in the world who is slowly dying in this fucking heat? We havent had sex in 9 - nine - days and have children free oppertunity today. But it is so hot!!! I know my dh is looking forward to kids free night- but it is so hot! I cant be bothered...

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WhateverName2 · 25/07/2019 19:54

"Its just because he loves me so much" and "he needs me".. its just 9 days, usually its once or twice a week. Im sahm for 2 teenagers - one with really huge needs. Today we have the chance to have the house for ourselves, really rare oppertunity- but it is too fucking hot!!!

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gamerchick · 25/07/2019 19:57

A shower will cool you down.

But if you don't want to have sex then don't.

EdWinchester · 25/07/2019 19:59

He sounds like a massive twat.

willloman · 25/07/2019 20:01

Yeah, Cole Porter had it right, It's too Damn Hot!
But there is always shower sex.
failing that watch Body Heat, they managed some stuff didn't they? Mind you it did not end well.

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WhateverName2 · 25/07/2019 20:04

I love him. Nut he has a much higher need than me. Now we have the chance, we are all alone - usually im up for it, when we are alone - but not in this heat. And if i say no, it will Change his mood.. i might as well just do it - it is only 10 minuts 🤣

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SuzieQ10 · 25/07/2019 20:04

Can't think of anything worse. It's baking! 32 degrees inside my house right now.

iolaus · 25/07/2019 20:08

It's cooler in the mornings

Knackeredmommy · 25/07/2019 20:11

Not until it's dark and cooler! I've been showering then going to bed about 1am.

urbanlife · 25/07/2019 20:11

Not pleasant in this heat. Cold shower and an early night

CrackOn · 25/07/2019 20:11

Order in, op. Like, a lot of food. Too much food. Enough that he's feeling all bloated and unbothered. Then fall asleep really quickly.

RagingWhoreBag · 25/07/2019 20:14

But he will be disappointed- possible being huuuuuuuurrrrrt - and that makes me think "ok just get it over with" - and that is wrong.. right??

I know this thread is supposed to be light hearted, but FFS what is with all these men who think sex is a basic human right?! He needs to grow the fuck up.

Its one thing to be enthusiastic and up for it every night, but quite another for your partner to make you feel bad if you don't, or for you to do it when you don't really want to just to avoid a scene.

My DP is permanently up for it, but if I'm not he will happily have a cuddle and settle for a back tickle instead. If you don't want to do it, for any reason, hot weather or not, please just don't do it!

AllTheWhoresOfMalta · 25/07/2019 20:14

Jesus, couldn’t think of anything worse. Our upstairs loft room is 41 degrees according to the thermometer. Not even if Colin Firth himself begged for it.

RagingWhoreBag · 25/07/2019 20:14

And if i say no, it will Change his mood.. i might as well just do it - it is only 10 minuts Sad

That's not worthy of a laughing face, sorry.

CurlsandCurves · 25/07/2019 20:16

Nope. We are both up for it, but not in this heat. I can think of nothing worse right now. It’s going to get cooler after tonight so saving ourselves.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder, it’ll be worth the wait....

oreo81648 · 25/07/2019 20:17

We did today, just have a shower after straight after and go chill by the fan with a cold drink 💦

oreo81648 · 25/07/2019 20:18

Oh yes if you really don't want too then don't. 9 days or not it's completely ur choice

S0CKS · 25/07/2019 20:20

No fucking way in this heat - i will give him a bj or something but no way is he having more!

Loulou0 · 25/07/2019 20:21

What am I reading?
What century is this??
Fucking hell. Say no and don't give it another thought.

FattyPeddledFuriously999 · 25/07/2019 20:21

Far too hot for sex... he is being ridiculous!

FilthyforFirth · 25/07/2019 20:22

I agree @AllTheWhoresOfMalta Smile

OrangeSlices998 · 25/07/2019 20:24

Meant to be light hearted but this thread makes me sad. If you don’t want sex you’re not obliged to do it to make someone happy, husband or not. If it changes his mood then he’s a dick and that’s not your responsibility.

Boysey45 · 25/07/2019 20:25

Just tell him to toss himself off in the garden instead.

BroomstickOfLove · 25/07/2019 20:29

It's meant to be a mutually pleasurable thing, not a chore. So suggest either not having sex because you don't want to and won't enjoy it, or that you have a cool shower and lounge around all damp and naked, eating an ice lolly in a sensual manner while he has a wank while enjoying your sexy yet cool fun.

CoffeenWalnut · 25/07/2019 20:30

It was too much when he put his arm round me in bed last night.... he has his own internal heating system.
Absolutely NO WAY we are DTD until tomorrow when the temperature is due to drop like a stone.

BroomstickOfLove · 25/07/2019 20:37

OP, if you disvovered a post by your husband in which he said that he really didn't want sex with you, and he'd love a decent excuse to get out of it, but he might as well get it over with and give you a quick fuck to keep you quiet, would you just get his cock out and get on with it without caring?

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