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AIBU?

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Original poster

..to wear the same outfit twice?

123 replies

DorisDances · 25/07/2019 18:34

DC are getting married 2 years apart - I have a lovely hat, dress and shoes combo. Can i wear to both as they are do you think or is it courtesy to change some aspect or replace all?

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Moominfan · 25/07/2019 18:36

I'd wear if twice, just mix it up with different accessories, shoes, hair ext.

Merryoldgoat · 25/07/2019 18:36

It depends on what it is - can you re-accessorise it so it looks different? I wouldn’t wear the exact same outfit to two family weddings esp not my children, and I wore the same one to three weddings in the same summer a few years ago.

altiara · 25/07/2019 18:36

I’d

Merryoldgoat · 25/07/2019 18:37

Great minds, Moominfan

TeenTimesTwo · 25/07/2019 18:38

No harm wearing twice, my DM wore the same to mine and DB's wedding. Mind you they were over 20 years apart!

HollowTalk · 25/07/2019 18:38

I wouldn't wear the same for both children's weddings. Think of the photos!

Knittedfairies · 25/07/2019 18:38

My SIL wore the same dress, bag and shoes to two of her DC weddings - she just hired a different hat. Go for it!

SeaViewBliss · 25/07/2019 18:39

For any other wedding I wouldn’t hesitate. For my DCs weddings I wouldn’t. I’m not sure why though?!

CMOTDibbler · 25/07/2019 18:40

No. For your own dc I think you can get a new outfit for the second childs wedding

Purplecatshopaholic · 25/07/2019 18:41

Be in two sets of photos in the same outfit? Err, no. Its different if it’s different groups of people who didn’t see the outfit the first time

Chartreuser · 25/07/2019 18:41

Good grief of you like it and want to wear it yes, but if you're bored about being exactly the same then you can switch up accessories.

I've got no idea if my mum wore the same outfit to mine and DBs wedding, I just don't notice things like that (but my wedding dress was only £90 so shoes how much I care about these things).

altiara · 25/07/2019 18:41

I’d wear something different. Maybe different dress but keep hat and shoes, or maybe not, hats are quite obvious. I wouldn’t want pics of my DCs wedding days with me wearing the same outfit.

TeenTimesTwo · 25/07/2019 18:42

Can you imagine the AIBU?

I recently got married. My DPs were really supportive of me, bought us a lovely wedding present and have welcomed my partner to the family. My DM looked lovely in an outfit that really suited her. However it was the same one she wore to my sisters wedding 2 years ago. AIBU to be upset that she didn't go out and spend loads of money on a new outfit for my wedding?

user1519475227 · 25/07/2019 18:42

No!!! Different please!!!

666onmyhead · 25/07/2019 18:42

Recycling is a good thing.

Shelby2010 · 25/07/2019 18:47

Tricky. I don’t think it matters except for the photos. No one will actually remember from one wedding to the next, but imagine if you put pictures of both your DC weddings on your wall. Will you be happy if you’re in the same outfit? It seems a bit of a silly reason to waste money, but I wore the same outfit to 2 weddings thinking it didn’t matter because there was no overlap in the guests. Forgot about the dreaded Facebook photos. It’s not the kind of thing that really bothers me but I did feel a bit caught out.

Maybe ask your DC what they think?

KurriKawari · 25/07/2019 18:51

Can I ask why? Is it because of cost or some other reason? Finances I can understand, any other reason is just odd.

mussolini9 · 25/07/2019 18:56

I wouldn't wear the same for both children's weddings. Think of the photos!

Why?
Will the pics spontaneously combust if the OP appears in the same frock in each of her kids' wedding photos?

OP - of course you can. If you like the outfit, wear it as much as you like!

Cornishmum00 · 25/07/2019 18:57

I would wear same dress but different hat/accessories

EdWinchester · 25/07/2019 18:57

Noooo! Wear something different.

Lazypuppy · 25/07/2019 18:57

Normally i'd say yes but not for both childrens weddings! Think of the photos!

mussolini9 · 25/07/2019 18:59

Be in two sets of photos in the same outfit? Err, no. Its different if it’s different groups of people who didn’t see the outfit the first time

FFS what is wrong with you people?
Do you think you are part of the royal family, or starring in a reality TV show?

I cannot think of a single situation where anybody with a functional brain would find anything remarkable in observing a human being wearing a piece of clothing more than once.

ForalltheSaints · 25/07/2019 19:00

Only twice? It should be much more often than that. No more fast fashion or outfits only worn once. For sustainability reasons.

Catalicious · 25/07/2019 19:00

Is there a risk that the second of the weddings will think you didn't put the same effort in?! I know that sounds trivial, but partly it's about getting excited about it, going outfit shopping together etc.

DameFanny · 25/07/2019 19:00

Yanbu to not want to waste money and wardrobe space on something you'll wear only once, or every few years.

There's wildfire in the Arctic circle - we need to get out of the mindset that other people's clothing choices are respectful or disrespectful, and just reuse the clothes we have while they're still good.

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