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Period poverty

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ChocolateAndMoreChocolate · 23/07/2019 12:44

AIBU to remind you period poverty exists?

Came on this morning, did not have any sanitary items. Asked my DM to send me £5 until payday (Friday). She could only PayPal so I tried to withdraw the funds and I’m on a 72 hour wait!

So no view of having sanitary items for 3 days... and now I also hate pay pal Sad

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loveyou3000 · 24/07/2019 18:39

@Frequency
I have had a boots card for years. After Christmas sales I get loads of gift sets for so cheap, that I keep in a cupboard for presents all year round (i get bits I know people will like and use, not just for the sake of giving). They often always have a deal on the face wash I use and I get my acnecide there and their baby clothes sales were pretty good when my DD was little. Also bought my camera film there, and the drugstore makeup brands have comparable priced wherever you go. I earned enough points to buy some YSL setting powder as a nice treat after a while which was nice! Imo, it's one of the best reward schemes for that type of thing going.

june2007 · 24/07/2019 18:41

Make a a couple of pads out of rags. What do you think people do all around he world.

AddNameHere · 24/07/2019 18:48

ChocolateAndMoreChocolate would you use a Mooncup? I would gladly buy you one if you would.

x

AddNameHere · 24/07/2019 18:48

I've been broke, but I'm OK now..Its a horrible place to be

sparkles07 · 24/07/2019 19:16

Glad you’re sorted now OP. I work with refugees and we give them sanitary towels, when we don’t have them available I’ve been told a sock stuffed with tissue is their best alternative. Period poverty absolutely exists. Last week I had 60p to my name, clearing out the back of the cupboards trying to russle up a meal for my family. Thankfully I have the merena coil which has stopped my periods for the last few years.

Nurgleturtle · 24/07/2019 19:17

i might be the only one but thats not really period poverty i feel for you ive been in this situation you just didnt have any when you could have had a box stashed from your shopping list a week or two ago assuming you keep track of them, you can also buy a moon cup for 5 pounds from facebook www.facebook.com/talulacupuk/?tn=%2Cd%2CP-R&eid=ARCDknxPqeKYNF3ss96QVylCJTZ9nUlBrasJrsGiI9wx6V4y95ws-3dVuNBHb3uQljwDkF-DXIrzfN7E
link for use if your interested in one i bought two from this page theyre awesome i also use contraceptive which is free which allows me not to have my periods anymore

bellinisurge · 24/07/2019 19:23

My dd started a few months ago. We tried reusables; a combo of ones I bought from Precious Stars in advance and ones I had made. She prefers them and only used disposables in an emergency (which she is learning tactics to avoid).
"I hate disposables" she said. And if you knew my dd, you would know she doesn't say things people want to hear.
I've made reusables with all sorts of fabric. One of her faves includes one made with a Star Wars print T-shirt she has grown out of, some towelling for the core and some fleece from an old pair of fleece leggings.

Lepetitpiggy · 24/07/2019 19:29

Would the people on here berating period poverty and saying 'use cloths,our grandmother's did this that and the other and had threepence over for Scouse' actually have a clue what it's like to be so poor you actually have to do that? the attitudes suggest not.

jennymanara · 24/07/2019 19:46

I have used toilet paper in the past. People should not have to. But I would do that again before I came begging on here.

Fowles94 · 24/07/2019 19:50

Poverty is a thing not just period, I hate when people use it.
Not talking about OP in this unless it does apply to you however most women have a period every month so why do I always here they've got no money as they come on. I've had plenty of months where I've gone short but I always ensure my toiletries will last a few months to cover these times.

FelicisNox · 24/07/2019 20:29

Can you borrow 50p or have spare change?

Aldi sanitary towels are 49p and very good. X

FelicisNox · 24/07/2019 20:31

P.s

Some of the comments on here are a f*g disgrace. Snotty b*s.

🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬

Snoopdogsbitch · 24/07/2019 20:34

Sorry not been around to answer your points hashtag. The sanpro is provided by Heygirls but the toiletries will be provided voluntarily by all staff ( support staff too). There will simply be a large basket in one of our support rooms ( out of the way so pupils won't be seen popping in or out) where staff can donate anonymously and pupils can chose anonymously.

This will be mentioned at personal support lessons by our pastoral care teachers- no big fanfare, just that it's there.

You can pick up toiletries for £1 and lots of staff decided they would like to do this once a month or so. We have around 80 staff so it won't take much to start off.

We work in a very deprived area and I've seen too many kids avoid school because of what they don't have. We also have a supply of school shirts/ trousers/ skirts/ knitwear/ coats/ bags tights donated by staff that their own kids have grown out of ( ironed and well presented) and a blazer scheme where kids hand back ones which are too small ( clean) for the next size up. Both of these work well. We find that kids who are in real need will use these.

We also have a small supply of new underwear ( bought with school fund - fundraised.)

Thanks to jelly shieldmaiden enclume jenny etc for your kind support. We are of the opinion that a little kindness goes a long way and if the odd parent becomes lacking due to it, so be it.

shieldmaidenofrohan · 24/07/2019 20:58

I'm amazed that people are quite happy to shell out large amounts on donations to things like tear fund, save the children, rspca etc when only a limited amount of your donation makes an actual tangible difference to anybody yet get sniffy about teachers donating a few sanitary products to people they see everyday and have first hand experience of how it helps them.

shieldmaidenofrohan · 24/07/2019 21:05

What do you think people do all around he world.

Women around the world have FGM, suffer horrific sexual violence as a routine of life, suffer birth injuries because of lack of medical provision, routinely die in childbirth with their babies. Shall we do that here too ?

Let's not hold the "rest of the world" as some sort of example. It's not a race to the bottom

Snoopdogsbitch · 24/07/2019 21:28

Absolutely shieldmaiden on both your point.

Snoopdogsbitch · 24/07/2019 21:29

Points

AMAM8916 · 24/07/2019 21:30

Pick an old towel you can do without and get a sharp pair of scissors. Cut the towel into foot long strips, fold in half and pop inside your knickers. Fill a bucket with cold water and some washing up liquid and each time you need to change, put the used one in the bucket to soak. At the end of the day or every 2 days, wring them out (wash your hands afterwards or wear gloves) and put them in the wash.

You should be able to get at least 8 pads out of a decent sized towel. Basically enough to last you a day and a half to 2 days if you aren't very heavy. Once you've got about 2 left, pop all the used soaking one's on a quick 60 degree wash then hang them up to dry or tumble dry.

I'm not much of a believer in period poverty. Disposable pads are available at all supermarkets for as low as 50p-75p. As someone who has endometriosis and used to bleed very heavily and now spots for weeks on end, I still only need to spend about £3 max a month on sanitary wear and if I didn't have the money, I would just cut up a towel like I said and plan better for the next time.

I only truly believe homeless women and for example refugees coming here with nothing would really struggle. You can also get free contraception that will stop periods altogether if you truly, truly can't afford sanitary wear or don't have an old spare towel!

We all need toilet roll or access to something to wash yourselves down there after the toilet but this isn't being given away or made a big deal of. Nappies aren't given away or being made a big deal of.

Period poverty was invented as another martyr for women to complain about. 'I didn't choose to be female so I shouldn't have to pay for something I can't help having'. There's lots of things human beings need to be hygienic that are not free. It's part of life!

It's the UK not Syria. There will be a supermarket within walking distance to buy a 50p packet of pads from and failing that, use the other tip I suggested

MrCouncilFlat · 24/07/2019 21:33

@MLMhun

I love it when people offer the practical help that surpasses expectations. Well done you for doing that good deed and helping someone in their time of difficulty.

May God bless you and provide for you in your time of need.

Lulu49 · 24/07/2019 22:07

I got a mooncup online possible amazon. Either way was considerably cheaper than £30 but wasn’t suitable for me but my 25 year old daughter swears by hers

shieldmaidenofrohan · 24/07/2019 22:25

You should be able to get at least 8 pads out of a decent sized towel. Basically enough to last you a day and a half to 2 days if you aren't very heavy. Once you've got about 2 left, pop all the used soaking one's on a quick 60 degree wash then hang them up to dry or tumble dry.

And if you're one of the many women whose accommodation/finances are too small for a washing machine have to use the laundrette. I doubt many laundrettes will let you wash heavily soiled sanitary towels

Miniloso · 24/07/2019 22:26

Aldi pads are 45p

Miniloso · 24/07/2019 22:28

They’re great pads, 49p actually. I never buy from anywhere else!

Nomorepies · 24/07/2019 22:35

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SuzieSunshine · 24/07/2019 22:43

Be Honest - has anyone heard back from the OP via PM with her bank details? I don't understand why her mum didn't send her the £5 directly to her bank a/c in the first place.