WIU? Male in Female Area - Child

[Dino1]

DD is 10 and does an activity which requires she gets changed on the premises. The activity is 9-18 years mixed sex. Yesterday DD and others were changing in designated female area and 17 year old male enters and stays. DD says she was in her knickers at the time as were others, they all tried to hide.
I complained to captain who apologised but said if it makes me feel better the male is gay. It doesn't make me feel better. DD was very upset by it and felt vulnerable.
DH says I was unreasonable to complain as these things happen and the boy was obviously not in there to perv but to be with his friends. DH says it's not right but that making a fuss is not going to help anyone.
I am fuming, with DH attitude, with a 17 year old boy/man thinking it's ok to go into female area where young girls are undressed, and with captain for thinking sexuality has any implication and not recognising how inappropriate this is.
I am not unreasonable am I? The captain has apologised and said it will never happen again. Am I overreacting here? I am still angry and feel this is serious and not just one of those things.

Sexuality has nothing to do with it.
Like others I’d have no qualms about getting changed infront of a gay woman but I would not want to get changed in front of a man of any sexuality.

A few years ago you wouldn't have had this, really. Male and female changing etc were sex divided and totally off limits, exact age was cause of much conversation but it was definitely younger than 17!

Fact that a17yo boy sees no issue, it's perfectly happy to / doesnt even think about going in girls changing rooms where girls age 10-18 are stripping to knickers is just bizarre when you think about it. A few years back any male would have just known that they weren't supposed to be in there.

I agree sarahtancredi

And if he is the only male using the male facilities then why can’t his friends who want to change with him change in the male changing area? (Until the point another man needs to use them obviously)

Could it possibly have anything to do with the fact that girls are manipulative little flirts who know exactly what they are doing and men just cant be expected to think fir themselves, they cant help it, lets not make a big deal about an accident...

I think the OP was absolutely right to make a big deal about it. I was simply pointing out that it’s more likely than not there was no ill intent. The effect on the other girls was still the same and I think the situation should have been dealt with much more firmly and explicitly. Both the girls and boy need reminding of boundaries.

I'm sorry but a person that old in a womens changing room is most often a huge sign of ill intent.

Even toddlers get upset going into the "wrong one"

Only just realised that despite young girls obviously being uncomfortable-he stayed!!!

@Dino1 op have you talked to your dh about this?

Could it possibly have anything to do with the fact that girls are manipulative little flirts who know exactly what they are doing and men just cant be expected to think fir themselves, they cant help it, lets not make a big deal about an accident...

What???

nanny
It was kind of a sarcastic response as to why the girls didnt go into the mens but the man came into the womens.

A young woman going into the mens would not have men defending them doing so. In fact they would have assumptions made about them if they did.

But people still find a way to justify men going into the ladies...