To ask if you would ever give the police a false alibi for your partner?

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Me and DH randomly got onto this today and he asked if I ever would, if asked. I said no, regardless of what the “crime” was. He said he would for me, but not for murder!
Wondered what the general consensus of Mumsnet was!

They’re in the public eye. Joe public...the police really do not have the resources to check who was actually driving.

I don’t condone it but it certainly isn’t unusual. There is usually an exchange of money too, think around £250 for 3 points!

Nope. I wouldn't risk going to jail for anyone except my kids.

Really? Even if they murdered someone, tortured someone? More fool you then. I wouldn't lie or go to jail for anyone, children or not. Do the crime, do the time.

We've had this conversation and I said I would give him an alibi for murder if it was "justified" I.e someone murdered a family member etc

No because I’m really, really shite at lying.

Yes, I would.

I can think of some extreme examples of where I would provide a fake alibi, but they involve scenarios of a dangerous, occupying government or force and being part of the resistance.

Yes. He would never do something wrong. So if he asked me or he needed me to then the world has gone very badly wrong.

No I wouldn't, if for whatever reason it ended up in court I would not commit perjury.

I'd never provide a false alibi for my kids - they're right stupid fuckers

Not a chance

Agree with VictoriaBun that if DH hurt/murdered someone who hurt our child I would possibly consider providing an alibi. But I think that would be the only circumstance.

These hypotheticals always annoy me. People always say “I wouldn’t ever do this” (last thread was about turning child in for a crime (in that case everyone would); however, I work in law and I would say the reality is so different. People make up alibis and don’t turn people in all the time - sometimes it’s because they genuinely believed partner/child did nothing wrong and want to protect them, but often its just a case of protecting their loved ones.

I’m not saying everyone does this, but more then would admit. Human nature is to protect your own family and self-interest.

No i dont think so-there was a p-oster on here not logn ago who got caught lying for an abusive partner and got a 3 month tag-i dont even think it was for anything that serious but she still got punished

Yes. He would never do something wrong. So if he asked me or he needed me to then the world has gone very badly wrong

This!!! X 100!! Can’t believe how many people are saying no. Right and wrong isn’t always aligned with the law.

I probably would depending on the circumstances.

I actually would I think unless it was for hurting someone/stealing from someone.

Doesn't make me sound like a good citizen to be honest!

Yes I would if someone abused one of our children and OH killed them then yes I would give him an alibi.

Nope. Perverting the course of justice is not something to be taken lightly! I would probably shop DH or DS for murder, never mind give them alibis!

I think this site is very skewed towards people who see the world in black and white, and feel that illegal = wrong without actually applying any critical thinking.

My DH is a good bloke, so if he needed an alibi I'd give him one. I would bet my life he was either innocent or had a damn good reason to commit a crime. I would be willing to stake my own freedom for that fact.

I’m single now, but my ex was a copper. We ended up having a really random conversation about what he would do if he caught me committing a crime. The verdict was, he would let me go unless I had hurt someone - and then he would get one of his copper mates to arrest me instead as he couldn’t bring himself to actually do the dead, and actually, he wouldn’t really be allowed to anyway incase it muddied the court case when it came out the arresting officer was my partner. We had a really random tangent about which of his copper friends we would most like to arrest me as he wanted someone lovely but that didn’t know me too well so it didn’t complicate things

wheresshegone which crimes don't fit into one of those two categories?

We dont know if Maxine Carr actually knew that she was giving an alibi for a child murderer. Originally they were just missing. So she may have thought she was just ruling him out of their enquiries.

You either have an innocent partner in whkch case they will be highky unlikely to be charged and found guilty or you have a guilty partner in which case if you lie you will be going down with them

I love DH more than anything in the world but I don’t think I could take the stress of lying to the police. But I have the mildest mannered husband in the world so I can’t really imagine a situation where I’d have to.

Don’t think I would under the current UK legal framework.

I might if the laws changed and my partner was accused of doing something morally right but legally wrong. For instance I would have happily given an alibi to people helping slaves escape.

Yes I would depending on the situation. I asked DH if he would for me. He said he would help me hide a body but would be a bit miffed with the situation

I really think it depends on the circumstances.
Nicked food from the shop because we were starving yes.
Became the next jack the ripper no.