To think that MIL crossed a line today and to have told her so.

[BenWillbondsPants]

It's DD's birthday today. MIL rang this morning to say that she would bring her present up today. I asked if she would mind leaving it until later in the week as a) DD is actually away on a residential and not here til Friday and b) I'm not well, feeling shit and wanted to go to back to bed.

She said she wanted to bring it today - I said, again, please can we leave it today. MIL says OK but I can tell not massively happy. She does like things her own way.

I go back to bed and fall asleep , I wake up to 7 missed calls from DH and call him straight back. He's walking out of work to come home as he's worried about me. I'm a bit confused and ask him why he's coming home and he tells he that his mum phoned him to say that she was outside our house and worried about me as she can't get a reply from the doorbell even though 'Ben is expecting me'. DH is worried that something has happened and gives her the code to the key safe so she can come in and check on me.

She then texts him a 'False alarm!' with a smiley face.

I go downstairs to find DDs birthday present sitting neatly on the kitchen table.

Who the fuck does that?

Change the code AND cancel the cheque!

Wow. She sounds completely self centred and rude. You were right to tell her off.

Sounds like your DH has her number as well. Glad he's already changed the lock code.

Cancel the cheque and change the key code ;)

Seriously though ffs what a shiity thing to do to you

You could literally be talking about my mil. This is exactly what she would do. Her manipulation to get what she wanted knew no boundaries. And when she couldn't get her own way, there were tears, and huffing and puffing and the 'I was only trying to help' sort of shite.
She could just never take no for an answer and would play my husband and I against each other to the point where we would never agree anything with her without talking to the other beforehand.
And since my husband died, I barely talk to her.
She was fucking exhausting and caused 90% of the arguments in my house.

Plus it is just plain selfish to chance ruining a good sleep!

After your chemo update I just wouldn’t bother seeing her ever again. Horrible woman. So sorry OP

Having seen your update that you are currently having chemo - this was a spectacularly cruel thing for her to do - your DH must have been so worried What a dreadful woman.

She wanted her own way so much that she made her own son think that his wife was in serious danger when you're already going through chemo... fuck me OP you poor love. Where do these awful people crop up from?! Ugh:

She sounds like a prize cunt and mean rather than batshit - you and your DH sound like a great team, she probably hates this as she can't understand seeing equality rather than manipulation.

Again you and DH sound lovely

Perhaps switch things up a bit, cancel the key-code and change the cheque?

She could have giving you a heart attack if you thought you were home alone. I would be furious and I'll find it hard to get over it as you told the inconsiderate cow that you were unwell. Jesus weep 🤬🤬🤬🤬

I was just about to suggest cancelling the cheque and changing the key code but 4under4our beat me to it.

Wow that is crazy. Its good your DH sees what she is like though and is with you on this! Love to you.

I would have to have the present delivered back to her just to deprive her of her perceived win. She might be in trouble but she's gotten her own way.

It broke my heart to know how though things have been for you. No surprise your husband was worried.
You needed to rest and recover not having the nasty woman round to potentially scare you. It could have been very serious. Poor you. I hope you feel better soon.

Slightly separately, Happy Birthday to your DD - it's my DD's birthday today too!!

That is creepy as fuck

Presents into the bin! Deny they were ever there.

Revolting behaviour - your poor husband must have been SO worried about you. How bloody DARE she worry him when you are in recovery from treatment? What a grade A absolute cunt.
I'd find it difficult to continue a relationship with her after such a stunt.

I've just had a thought Op-how about changing the key code?

She told your husband that you were expecting her?

Doesn't she think that you talk to each other & he would find out that she had lied?

It can't be about the present can it-if she really needed to leave it today thaere's maybe a safe place or leave it with a neighbour?

She won't ever have had a chance to have a key cut will she?

you and your DH sound like a great team, she probably hates this as she can't understand seeing equality rather than manipulation.

This is so true. She hates it. I noticed a couple of years ago that she would make little 'I'm only joking' digs about DH like she was trying to encourage me to bitch about him. No doubt so she had something over me. Now, DH drives me nuts sometimes (as I do him too!) but no way was I going to sit and badmouth him to his mum. I always thought that was odd.

I'm thinking that she must have looked in on you whilst you were asleep OP, in order to be able to send a 'false alarm' message. Because actually you could have been collapsed on your bedroom floor or something. I think your instinct on that is right if she has been trying to see you without your scarf. Good luck with your treatment, hope all goes well. Xx

Just move house. Then no need to change the code!

I’d make a little sign to hang on the keysafe that said “ Do Fuck off “Beryl” “

You will probably be able to tell if she poked her head around the bedroom door to "catch" you with your wig off, because she will stop asking you to show her. After all, there will be no need, as she will have seen it.

She's a bit much, ain't she?