Boyfriend went out yesterday and haven't heard from him since ...aibu to be annoyed?

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Yesterday my boyfriend went out at 9am for a "all day drinking session" for his friends birthday.
I got a Snapchat from him at 1pm saying "drunk"
I replied to it,he didn't open it for 5 hours,then he never replied.
Never heard a word since.
He was putting snaps on his story on snapchat but that was it.
He was last on WhatsApp at 9.30 pm
Aibu to be a bit pissed off that he couldn't even message to say "home safe"
Or even a "had a good day"

Get rid, he's a man child and you deserve to be more than a distraction when he's bored. Cut your losses now before you waste more time and energy concerned over someone showing no concern for you.

I think those who are saying end it now before you get any deeper are right.
It's going to drive me mental I know what I'm like.
He still hasn't text me.
I can't be bothered with the stress

Only time he really bothers with me is if his home alone or nothing else to do it feels like

This isn't a boyfriend, you are his booty call. Sorry. You're worth more than being whistled at.

Get out now. He sounds young, immature and an alcoholic. You've got a lot of trouble ahead if you stick with this one.

Alcoholic on well on his way.

Utterly miserable life ahead of you if this is all that you think you deserve.

Ugh. This will be your life if you stay with him. Imagine being at home alone with a month-old-baby, he goes out Saturday morning and rolls home stinking of booze on Sunday night, complaining that you're trying to control him with your many texts asking where he was. That's what life will be like for his future lucky partner.

He sounds like a catch. I'd marry him. NOT.
As soon as I'd got the message drunk I would have got on with my day and not thought about it anymore. However - that's what I'd do NOW. 30 years ago I was just like you - agonising over where 'he' was or what he was doing, or if he was ok. You'll grow out of it. (not patronising - you really will)
OP - he's wasting your time and your energy. Please move on.

I had one of those boyfriends for four years

Was an alcoholic

Caused me so much stress n heartbreak

Get out now

If he is going to Leeds festival aged 36 he is definitely an overgrown teenager. Leeds and reading are for 16 year olds.

OP please re-read and think deeply about these sentences of yours:

*I don't know how long it will last really.

Eventually I won't be able to hold in how pathetic I think it is and he will dump me anyway for being boring*

If you find his behaviour pathetic then 1) why would you hold it in? and 2) why would you be waiting for him to dump you, for your reaction to his behaviour? Why wouldn’t you end the relationship due to finding his behaviour pathetic? You have the leading role in this, your one and only life, why be so passive?

You’re not a tamagotchi, you don’t need constant attention. If my partner wouldn’t let me go out for the day without getting pissy because I didn’t feed him with texts then he wouldn’t be my partner for long. Grow up.

Get out now, before you end up pregnant or something. If he's not dependent on alcohol, it's still problematic. Drinking at 9am? I can only manage tea at that time. As too can the majority of the population (except that the tea might be coffee.)

Eek I thought you were going to say his was mid twenties at the oldest, but a guy pushing 40 is not really much of a catch if he regularly drinking himself into such a state. You deserve better OP!

I honestly thought that you were 16-18 and he was 20-24.

You think he’s your boyfriend, he think you are a handy hookup that’s there when he fancies a shag. Which would be fine if you were on the same page but you obviously aren’t.

Nothing has happened to him, he hasn’t fallen in the river or lost his phone or been run over by a bus; you just aren’t important enough to him.

I’m really glad you posted though, because now you’ve got lots of women who’ve wasted time and tears on twats like this supporting you as you kick his pathetic arse out of your life for good. Just think, no more nights like last night, ever again!

I went to Leeds festival four years ago at the age of 56. At 15 DD wasn't able to go on her own. There were loads of families there and people of all ages. It isn't just the preserve of 16 year olds. Although it is a rite of passage for many of them.

DD will be a steward there this year. I hope she doesn't have to deal with this arsehole.

OP you need to dump him.

Listen to @FineWordsForAPorcupine!

He’s 36? I thought he’s be 19.

Immature tosses. What do you like about him?

You shouldn’t be so invested 6 months in, either.

Cut your losses and get rid now. Otherwise you’re signing up for a life of misery.

I know I'm obviously more into him than him to me.
When I'm out with my friends I will reply to him when he texts me( god that sounds pathetic )
Surprisingly in general life I'm pretty normal /independent
Then it comes to men /dating and I'm a pathetic too attached idiot.

No not pathetic don’t beat yourself up. I’m glad you posted too. I really don’t think this is the right man for you

I'm going to join the chorus here OP. He's 36!!

So he regularly goes on benders that involve him getting ill / injured / separated from friends?

This causes you stress and anxiety?

Now imagine you are married, have young kids and he does this? Imagine how you stress and anxiety would increase?

Please don't marry / live with it have kids with this man.

36!!!!!

Fuck that shit.

Don't settle for this shit OP. You deserve better!!

Words like pathetic and boring pepper your posts while this guy gets a pass. His choice, he’s an adult (overgrown student), up to him. I think you should focus on your self-esteem. Google Melanie Fennell to get an idea, she has some workbooks, or better yet look into CBT. Whether you stay with him or not, if you don’t do something about this, this WILL become a path in life and you’ll substitute one uncertain relationship for another. Please get some help, your thoughts and beliefs are not facts, just deeply entrenched thoughts and beliefs.