To ask out the headmaster?

[brotown]

Ds has a week left in the school.
No idea if he's got a girlfriend
I dreamt about him and can't stop thinking about him.

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Ooh this is exciting!!!

Have you looked on good old Facebook to see for a hint of a girlfriend/wife.

How would it be easy to find out? I have no idea if any of my children’s teachers are in relationships unless they wear a ring and most won’t be searchable on Facebook for privacy reasons.

Facebook stalking is your friend

There’s definitely no wife or children. No sign of a girlfriend, but unless it’s a very serious one I don’t think she’d be at school events.
He definitely doesn’t do social media, he’s very anti
I can’t find anything except school articles when I google.
Ds has no information for me, useless.
I don’t really know any of the parents that well to ask anyone.

I wouldn't want to be propositioned at work directly.

If you can't get to a point where you can chat and subtly find out if hes single can you ask around. Surely others will know.

Maybe send a little card in with your ds leaving card. "Thanks for the support you and the school have provided to ds over his time here. There have been difficult times since his dad died and Ive been grateful to have you and your staff helping us. If you'd like to keep in touch my number is xxxxx and I'd be happy to join you for a drink sometime over the summer holidays. Kind regards..."

Your braver than most op

Haven’t done anything yet!!

How many more days does your DS have at school, @brotown?

Gift and thank you card on last day. Chicken out and ask son to drop it in to him.
Inside thank you card write...
Thank you so much for all the support you have given both (son) and myself this year, it really made the moving school experience much smoother. To say thank you, If you find yourself free over the summer holidays please let me know as I would love to get you a Thank you drink.
Yours and child's name and then under it your telephone number and email address. No embarrassing come back if anyone finds out as you could have just meant it as a thank you and nothing to loose. Go for it. Life is short.

Ooh you should go for it! Fingers crossed for you.

All the teachers I know don’t use their known name on social media for this very reason! Parents stalking them. So if they are known as Mr John Brown, they will use Mark Brown, Mark is their middle name.

Every school I know of does not allow parent teacher relations, up until the child has left for a certain amount of time, about 5/6 years if I remember correctly.

Come on, OP, ask him out!

I hope you ask him out

Do it...what's to lose?

Wow you're very confident. Maybe you're so completely stunning no man could resist. Or, you are a tad crazy!
The fact is he will be friendly to all parents and have you misinterpreted this as attraction op. It may be different if you were meeting him outside of work but it wouldn't reflect on him too well with the Governors if he starts dating parents of the kids. No professional would do that!

Blimey what a lot of cowards so many women are about this. A bit of embarrassment is nothing. Men risk rejection all the time and yet are expected to suck it up. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a casual invitiation somewhere to someone you are interested in . Obviously not it you know they are attached or if they have made it clear that they are not interested but otherwise.it is fine.

They can say no and you might feel a bit rejected of they do but that is life. To call it crimgeworthy or embarrassing says more about the person saying that than the one doing the asking.

Go.for.it op.

I’m a teacher, I would melt on the spot if a parent asked me out. My brother is too, and he’s a HT. He’s nice looking and kinda trendy (35) and even when he was single he’d never have gone out with a parent. Not sure it’s a good idea, although if you’ll never see him again it changes things a bit. 🍀

Go for it OP! But only because I want to read the update!

I do pickup once a week for my friend and their headmaster is leaving because a Mum hit on him. He was mortified! Not that I want to put you off though.

A headteacher is leaving because he was asked out?!

I’m guessing in small towns it’s hard for teachers not to have a relationship with somebody related to the school at some point? I’d just ask him and if he says no then nobody dies, somebody was probably flattered and you gave it a go!

Decormad, trust me I haven’t misinterpreted anything. I’m under no illusion that he’s even given me a second thought.
What I’d like to do is plant that thought, show him (somehow) that I am interested and give him a chance to think it over.

He finishes on Friday

I still wouldn’t say anything OP. You would be putting him in a potentially embarrassing situation and yourself in one that you could be left feeling rejected or hurt. If he was interested I’m pretty sure he would have let you know somehow.

Go for it! If you don't you'll wish you had