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To ask out the headmaster?

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brotown · 10/07/2019 12:53

Ds has a week left in the school.
No idea if he's got a girlfriend
I dreamt about him and can't stop thinking about him.

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Hanab · 10/07/2019 14:02

Lifes short nothing ventured nothing gained!

Your son won’t be there if things don’t work out so it won’t be uncomfortable.
Who knows he could be your dream guy!

Please do let us know how it goes if you go ahead .. I personally love a good romance story 🌷

Cookit · 10/07/2019 14:07

I wouldn’t. I think the ground would swallow me up whilst doing it. But if you think you can do it then I guess why not.

TeenTimesTwo · 10/07/2019 14:09

Ask him about plans for the summer - are you and your other half going away?
If he says yes, we are off trekking in the Himalayas you have your answer.
If he says no, sadly I'm single, you can ask him if he'd like to meet for coffee.

Deadpoet · 10/07/2019 14:09

Nothing ventured Grin

sadkoala · 10/07/2019 14:13

I would! Nothing ventured nothing gained. And as you said you won't see him after this week as your DS is leaving!
I wouldn't do it if DS was still going to go to the school but you've seriously got nothing to loose.

He might say yes in which case lucky you!
He might say no or that he has a partner in which case it's literally no skin of your back, at least you gave it a shot and can move on and never have to see him again!
And it's not embarrassing either IMO.

Women expect to be approached by men yet they often don't have the guts to do it themselves incase of embarrassing themselves which I find silly. Go for it !

sadkoala · 10/07/2019 14:14

Also I would probably do what @teentimestwo said.

KitKat1985 · 10/07/2019 14:15

In my head I'm just imagining how your son would react if you actually did date his headmaster (even after he has left school)? Surely he would find it incredibly odd?!

Pinktinker · 10/07/2019 14:18

This is so cringe, sorry OP. I see some of the Mum’s at my DC’s school flocking around the headteacher when he stands on the gate and it’s just so desperate and embarrassing. He’s the only male member of staff and they cling to him like he’s the only man they get to interact with. He’s not even that attractive and he’s definitely married.

You have no idea if this guy has a partner, is married, gay or otherwise. I really would not do this. Your relationship has purely been a professional one, it sounds as though he has done nothing to suggest anything else either.

Gillian1980 · 10/07/2019 14:18

I would!
Worst that can happen is he may say no and you may both be a little embarrassed.
But he may say yes!

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brotown · 10/07/2019 14:21

I can't visualise a time when I would be alone with him to do Teentimes suggestion.
There's always lots of parents around.

My son would be a whole other story. My husband died and I haven't dated anyone.
It would be weird but at least they know and like each other. But I think we're getting ahead of ourselves now!

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brotown · 10/07/2019 14:26

That does sound v cringey Pink

Honestly, I think I'll just do a bit of digging and maybe find a way to chat in a more social setting.
I'm not rushing in.

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W0rriedMum · 10/07/2019 14:27

I would have your son send a thank you card. You can then pop in a note saying

Thanks for helping DS since he has been at X school. You have been a great help to him and me. Stay in touch. Brotown. 07777 777777

W0rriedMum · 10/07/2019 14:28

Ball in his court then.

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brotown · 10/07/2019 14:33

Ooh, we do have a present for him Worried. Ds got this before I fancied him!

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DinosaursWouldEatYou · 10/07/2019 14:39

Is there anyway you could use social media to keep in touch with him once DS has left school, or perhaps ask a teacher you see more regularly about the head teacher (subtly of course)

LaurieFairyCake · 10/07/2019 14:42

Of course you should ask him out!

If it's accidentally my DH he would be so chuffed !

Hopefully this guy is single and up for it. Life is too short not to snog all the men you want Wink

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brotown · 10/07/2019 14:43

I know, if I get ds to just ask him outright if he has a girlfriend, that's a big hint!!
My mum told me to ask you if you have a girlfriend 🤣🤣

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NoSauce · 10/07/2019 14:44

If it's accidentally my DH he would be so chuffed!

You wouldn’t be if he said yes why not to the OP!

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brotown · 10/07/2019 14:44

He doesn't do any social media, he's old school

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ZigZagIntoTheBlue · 10/07/2019 14:47

Go for it brotown, nothing worse than what ifs! If he says no then 🤷‍♀️ you won't have to see him again!

Bumper1969 · 10/07/2019 14:48

Go for it. Nothing ventured...

HairyFloppins · 10/07/2019 14:49

I don't see any problem with asking him out OP. Just need to find out first if there is a significant other somehow. Does he have child car seats in his car maybe?

Good luck and keep us updated!

LaurieFairyCake · 10/07/2019 14:50

Dh is very unlikely to say yes but he would grin from ear to ear all summer

Fluffybread · 10/07/2019 14:53

@brotown I think you should follow @W0rriedMum 's suggestion of send a thank you card / note... but be blatantly obvious & say you'd love to have a drink outside of school, here's my personal number!

Frownette · 10/07/2019 14:58

@LaurieFairyCake that's really sweet :)

It's sort of meant as a clumsy shy compliment even if it's not going to go anywhere. We all like to be flattered, even if attached!

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