To ask out the headmaster?

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Ds has a week left in the school.
No idea if he's got a girlfriend
I dreamt about him and can't stop thinking about him.

Please ask him. What’s the worst that can happen if he says no? Your child will have left the school. Nothing unprofessional or weird therefore.
Go on. You’ll always think ‘what if?’ if you don’t.
But promise you’ll tell us what happens.

I hope you went for it too OP. Certainly no harm in asking 🙂

Good luck OP, nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Life is short go for it

"MyRaGaiaStarFishPieA calm down and get back to your Take a Break."

Oh no, a big bully must be looking through my council house windows while im feeding my 11 kids pot noodles and letting them passive smoke my heroin. Loads of nosey dried-up busy bodies around here but glad to say I do not give a shiny shit

Please Op, let us know what you do, I am crossing my fingers for you.

Go for it.

Fortune favours the bold! Good luck!

Ok - ways to find out if he’s single/ has kids

“Which school do your kids go to? “
“ is Mrs headteacher a teacher too? “
“ how old are your kids?”
If no OH then have an invite ready that might be up his creek sports/ theatre tickets

Go for it life is too short and we regret the things we don’t do, your son needs to deal with you moving in at some point and at least you know he’s DBS checked !

I really can't believe how nasty some posters are being to you - I wish you well

In the school where I am a Governor, he would be unable to date a parent of/a student, or parent of/past student who left within the previous 5 years. It crosses professional boundaries and he would have to decline. This is a county wide safeguarding policy.

Ive seen a few comments along these lines. We have no less than 4 teachers at my dc school with dc at the school they work in. Each one of those therefore is in a relationship with a parent of a student... so how does that work

Brotown. He probably can spot you in a crowd but he probably could with other parents too. It doesn't mean he is going to sweep them off their feet. OK, HM is friendly and cheerful but that's his job or the public facing part of it anyway.
Even if you did date after your Son has left that school, its still recent in his life and he might be embarrassed that you are showing a more than professional interest in him.

Each one of those therefore is in a relationship with a parent of a student... so how does that work

Um, they met the parent of their child in some other circumstance . My cousin is a HM. He's been married to another teacher, they met at uni, for 18 years now and his sons go to their mother's school at present.

Booboo66. Those are already established relationships. OP is hoping to develope a new relationship with this HM.

Each one of those therefore is in a relationship with a parent of a student... so how does that work

They are a parent of those children so it’s not a safeguarding issue as they are not entering in to a personal relationship with a child they aren’t related to.

But telling someone to 'STFU', which is against Talk Guidelines, and also accusing them of trolling/lying, which is also against Talk Guidelines, is not uncalled for? Your nickname is quite apt there, fucking . I think it's cringeworthy, yes, and sad, yes, and comes across as desperate. Part of this person's job is 'friendly professionalism'. It's part of many jobs.

If OP goes to this event that has Alcohol and she feeling as strongly for this HM as she does, i can see an embarrassing situation on the horizon as the Alcohol loosens inhibitions and lips!

I've read through to the bits where you started getting a hard time after the leavers event. Hope I haven't missed anything huge!

I wanted to pop on to say that, as a solo/single/lone parent with no contact from dd's father, these events can feel so overwhelming. I totally get the feeling of being alone even when others offer to help (which is rare but I am told that is because I don't ask, which could be true).

My worry for you is that at this delicate and frankly emotional time of your son leaving Juniors you may have inadvertently found a man in a role that is caring and been taken up with the idea of stability? I don't want to put a huge downer or suggest you don't ask/try to date him, just that perhaps it is worth being aware that the timing may affect your judgement a little? I sometimes find myself gushing a bit about dd when anyone (mainly if they are male) compliments dd - it is a mixture of pride, wish for some male interaction on her behalf in a fatherly way and some weird confirmation that a man is saying we are doing OK. I'm aware that sounds a bit odd and not at all feminist but after 8 years of doing it alone you do wonder if they are balanced! I'm sure you're not as batty/insecure as I have been in the past but I did just want to drop in and say I get it. Not the headmaster bit per se . Good luck if you do decide to go for it - I think I would; just be sure to keep one eye on whether you really like him for him or the fact he likes/is complimentary about your son.

Can't believe some of the hysteria on this thread. Just wanted to say good luck OP, I hope you go for it, nothing ventured, nothing gained and all that

Yes but it still seems a bit of a one rule for one and one for another situation. Surely either you can or can’t have a relationship with a parent of a student. Seems unfair 💁🏼‍♀️

Go for it op.

Some people are being so horrible! A school friend of mine ended up with our old headmaster as her step dad, not long after we left that school - so it CAN work out!

The “nothing ventured nothing gained” is bollocks in this case. She “ventures” and she has a lot to lose. The Op really fancies this bloke.

If he fancied her he would ask her out. End of.

If he doesn’t he doesn’t feel it’s appropriate, he’s got his eye on someone else, he’s not wanting a relationship, then asking him out won’t change anything. He’s not invested...the Op is.