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To ask out the headmaster?

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brotown · 10/07/2019 12:53

Ds has a week left in the school.
No idea if he's got a girlfriend
I dreamt about him and can't stop thinking about him.

OP posts:
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm · 19/07/2019 00:02

Ask him! He’s only a man after all. No problem if your son is leaving anyway.

Some nasty and unnecessary comments above. Do what you think is right.

Good luck!

OccidentalPurist · 19/07/2019 00:20

Gosh OP it's lovely that you've 'opened up' on this thread like you haven't before.

The first throes of love, whether reciprocated or not, are the things we take to our grave ffs. Just go for it, if it's positive or negative you'll have some great memories Thanks

goodfornothinggnome · 19/07/2019 00:25

Oh damn. I was hoping you were a mum from the school DD attends.
Theres a mum going through a divorce who the head teacher has a bit of a thing for, seems she also has a thing for him, theyd make a lovely couple (secretly rooting for them!) Its very sweet.

goodfornothinggnome · 19/07/2019 00:25

Good luck btw

HeadintheiClouds · 19/07/2019 00:27

How do you know your ht has a “bit of a thing” for your friend?!

goodfornothinggnome · 19/07/2019 00:33

Hes a bit like a puppy. The two of them are a bit sort of blushy around eachother. The way he talks to her is sort of different, hes usually quite confident and chatty, he seems sort of self aware and a bit bashful around her. I really hope something comes of it. They're both lovely.

HeadintheiClouds · 19/07/2019 09:23

Dear God. A HT bumbling round the school gates like a lovesick calf Hmm. He sounds like a complete tool.

Howmanysleepstilchristmas · 19/07/2019 09:54

@brotown I only just read the thread, and can see why you left. I hope it didn’t put you off putting a note in the card. You and the HM both sound absolutely lovely and I hope he calls! Good luck Flowers

dohraymefah · 19/07/2019 10:53

That's a sweet story @goodfornothinggnome , I hope they can make something of it!

JPduck · 19/07/2019 11:52

@brotown
Do it! You're no worse off to try and you never know! 💖 As you said it's your child's last day there today so no issue there 😊
Good luck 🤞🏻 from a romantic!

frogsoup · 19/07/2019 12:19

God forbid Headintheclouds that a headmaster experience normal human emotions. Our head is married to a fellow teacher and has four kids. So he must have...nooo, surely not. What a tool eh.

Hmm
HeadintheiClouds · 19/07/2019 12:23

You’ve completely misunderstood, frog. Don’t be facile when you’ve completely missed the point, it makes you look dim

cookiechomper · 19/07/2019 12:40

I'm not sure it's a good idea, if I had no reason to think the feeling was mutual then I personally wouldn't ask someone out. But you have nothing to lose by giving him a note in the card after your son's left the school, if you don't care about possible disappointment or a bit of embarrassment. At least then you'll know you tried and there's the possibility something good could come of it.

Supergirlthesecond · 19/07/2019 12:55

Let's talk more about Aidan Turner and Chris Hemsworth. Clearly, the OP is a woman of taste.

frogsoup · 19/07/2019 12:59

Enlighten me then. You don't like the head appearing flustered when he speaks to a parent he secretly quite likes. Why?

Aaarrgghhh · 19/07/2019 16:08

NoSauce But why does he have to be the one to make a move? Op knows she likes him and wants to somehow let him know that, why does she have to rely on the fact he might have approached her if he was interested? If no one tells anyone then it’s a shame.

Why is it less embarrassing for him to ask out op than the other way around? Sounds sexist to me. She will never see him again and neither will her son, what exactly has she got to lose? If he says no he says no, I’m sure she’s not going to jump off a cliff due to lack of a date that she already understands may never happen anyway. Do you think every woman that loses a partner should wait to be asked out and never do the asking?

msmith501 · 19/07/2019 16:31

Ask him out. Nothing to lose and potentially something to gain. Be prepared for a polite no but equally you may get a yes please.

CantspellWontspell · 19/07/2019 16:38

If it’s your number in a card then neither of you have to suffer the indignity of a no because all he has to do is simply never ring. Problem solved.

In these circumstances I say go for it although I’d never have the guts myself, what’s the worst that could happen?

Aprilsinparis · 19/07/2019 17:44

Could you let us know what happens, please OP.Flowers

DoulaDaisy · 19/07/2019 18:10

I hope you went for it OP.

Some of you are nasty so and so's.

Chunkers · 19/07/2019 18:25

What a shame your thread turned a bit loopy 😳
You sound lovely as does HM. I hope you bump into him in Tesco and bond over your mutual love of Mini Magnums 😍

urbanlife · 19/07/2019 18:27

Tell him your English could do with a little polishing, would he like to pop in for a few hours and help you with a it. Would love to see his face Grin

minmooch · 19/07/2019 18:27

Oh op if you are still reading then I'd like to say I very much hope you did write a note with the card.

Life is so very short and we only get one shot at it. Everyone deserves happiness and how we find it is different for everyone.

Wishing you every happiness in your life - no matter where, how or who it springs from.

MustShowDH · 19/07/2019 18:27

Placemarking and hoping to come back and see that everything worked out well (whichever way that is) for you OP.

Rache49 · 19/07/2019 18:28

Walk away from this! Him being friendly and chatty is part of his job, don't mistake it for anything else.hes probably charming
and friendly to others.if this got out,your child could be bullied. You are a grown up raising a child,not a silly Teenager

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