To ask out the headmaster?

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Ds has a week left in the school.
No idea if he's got a girlfriend
I dreamt about him and can't stop thinking about him.

The worst of MN on this thread, honestly this place is so full of good advice, excellent support and guidance and a flurry of bellends have totally derailed quite a sweet OP with bullshit infighting and nonsense.

OP, I wish you luck. Personally I fall into the “nothing ventured nothing gained” camp BUT you’ve been through a lot and have justifiably raw emotions. As a PP suggested, a note in the card with your number and “stay in touch” is a good mid-level approach, not too flirty, not weird and not so cool it comes over as detachment.

Go for it! Good luck. There are some real miseries on this thread.

As for professional boundaries, some people here would have a field day at our primary. Multiple teacher pairings, all with kids at the school, and webs of local connections with parents going back several generations. Amazingly, everyone manages to stay professional, and it's an amazing place, a school in a million.

Good luck with the card, OP.

It’s a painless way to do it and with any luck you’ll get a text over the summer holidays asking you out for a drink.

Then after you’ve snogged his face off you will think to yourself, imagine if I’d taken the advice of some stranger on the internet called NoSauce instead

You must be mad and delusional.

Go for it! As a widow too I don't need to tell you life is too short and if you don't follow your heart you may always regret not asking... pop a little note in a goodbye card and give it to him or ask a trusted teacher to do so the teachers will have many leaving cards etc.. so it won't seem odd. Please update us.

@Orangeballon well aren't you a delight

PaulHollywoodsSexGut
The worst of MN on this thread, honestly this place is so full of good advice, excellent support and guidance and a flurry of bellends have totally derailed quite a sweet OP with bullshit infighting and nonsense.

This ^

It's not a controversial thread, it's one human being's life that the vultures are picking at.

Although the visual image of 'a flurry of bellends' is slightly odd.

Then after you’ve snogged his face off you will think to yourself, imagine if I’d taken the advice of some stranger on the internet called NoSauce instead hmm

So you know for certain this is going to happen? I hope you’re right for the OP’s sake but it’s odd behaviour to be sure of something you have no clue will transpire.

I am stealing the phrase 'a flurry of bellends', it's inspired.

OP sorry this thread has got so heated. I don't see anything wrong with you asking him out.

I know a Head who got married to a parent while the kids were still at the school and therefore became their step parent. If everyone gets along I think it's fine. Good luck with whatever you choose to do

Not quite the same situation, but a friend was asked out by a pupil, after she had left school and gone to university. Nothing untoward had happened before she left. They have now been married for nearly twenty years. This was probably way more controversial at the time than a parent asking a teacher out. Good luck OP!

If you're still reading, op: go for it!

Ignore the goady dickheads on this thread.

If you’re never gonna see him again then I’d say risk it!

@NoSauce

My comments you quoted were not to the OP, one was in response to your comment below:

if he was already interested in the OP I guess he would have made this known to her.

And the other to a poster who said:

Besides, if he is so lovely, he might have a partner at home and kids.

The point of my posts was not to urge the OP to ask the HT out but to highlight the absurdity of you implying it’s fine for the HT to express an interest in OP but not vice versa and the poster saying OP shouldn’t bother because he may have a partner and kids.

Both were ridiculous comments. But well done for quoting out of context.

It’s interesting that you and Head have stopped even the pretence of supporting the OP now.

Go for it!!!!

Ur not doing anything wrong
Women can ask out men
He’ll be flattered either way
Worst he’ll do is say no
It’s an exercise in confidence for you
Life is short
You aren’t hurting anyone
You deserve to be happy as

End of - ignore the naysayers and go with your gut, that’s what it’s there for! Xxx

I still think it’s best to find out if he is in a relationship first, I posted earlier on about fancying my sons teacher, after some fb digging turns out he is in a relationship so that was a reality check (I was never going to act on it anyway) but I will be avoiding him as much as possible from now on! If you find out he is in a relationship then it might just be the wake up call you need.

NoSauce I haven’t called you a single thing. Care to quote any of the ‘pretty nasty names’ and ‘ridiculous comments’?

You’ve been antagonistic to me throughout this thread, just read through your posts. Others have been name calling too, bitches being one of them. For what? Because we didn’t agree with those saying it was a good idea?

I don’t think you actually care one way or another whether the OP gets with the Head, I think you just want an argument. Well I’m not arguing with you anymore.

OP best of luck if you decide to send a card. Wishing you well.

I’m out.

Go for it & good luck

Commenting just because I’m hoping for a happy ending!

Sorry your thread got derailed OP, good luck whatever you do FWIW I think you sound lovely

Definitely ask him out, in person if the opportunity presents itself. After your son has left the school he won't be The Headmaster to you any more, just an ordinary person you know and like. (I'm just making that point for the benefit of PPs who seem to think teachers are permanently off-limits for some reason.) And ignore those who say you should find out if he's got a girlfriend first, because most people are relatively discreet about such things, so you couldn't easily know in advance. Good luck!

Good luck OP 👍👍

Bunch of bitches on here..

You go for it OP....... I really think you should.