To ask out the headmaster?

[brotown]

Ds has a week left in the school.
No idea if he's got a girlfriend
I dreamt about him and can't stop thinking about him.

@HeadintheiClouds 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

SagAloojah I find your stance on this thread odd. You have an opinion which is fine, but you’re spectacularly goady and antagonising yourself which is pretty ironic considering.

I’m not expecting everyone to agree with me, I’m saying enough to you lot arguing amongst yourselves!!

still you’ve gone from being unequivocal that’s gross misconducting because he’s in a position of trust and he can’t date a parent for x number or years to now saying ‘Oh I suggested that it maybe misconduct and oh it’s only if he’s in junior school’.

Basically you’re taking out of your arse and backtracking.

I actually think it’s a valid safeguarding issue, a teacher could target a parent in order to get closer to a child they have taught.
But if it is against the rules, he would just say no, sorry, I can’t. Job done

This was my original point. I purely stated if he were to go ahead with dating it could cause some issues/safe guarding concerns and accusations depending on the child's age. So he would have to say no.

@SagAloojah oh seriously get a grip. An opinion is an opinion. That's how I viewed it. Stop picking at little things. Fucking hell.

I find your stance on this thread odd. You have an opinion which is fine, but you’re spectacularly goady and antagonising yourself which is pretty ironic considering.

What is my stance NoSauce?

still just don’t present your opinions as fact next time. Job done.

I’m not the OP’s cheerleader Head, I just find you, NoSauce and still to be very odd characters determined that OP don’t ask this man out for fear embarrassing him. Very odd.

@SagAloojah never mentioned about it embarrassing him so you clearly don't listen to people.

And I said in my PP I'll ask who I need to just to find your "evidence".

To echo a PP this thread is bonkers!

Have we been so caught up in the world of apps and online dating that we've forgotten how people used to meet and ultimately date i.e. in real life?! They meet someone via some sort of interaction, like the look of them and crazily - ask them out!

there’s been some interaction, flirting, an inkling that they like each other. There hasn’t been anything like that here and I think that’s one of the things I find odd -

Eh yes there has! She has interacted with him in some capacity as her DS' headmaster. She likes the look of him, has got a good vibe from him (on her part), she is appropriately waiting until her DS leaves school for good.

Does everyone need to wait until it's 100% confirmed that the person reciprocates the feelings before asking someone out? That's madness. If anything he'll be flattered, and in the event that he's not interested he'll hopefully be decent enough to politely decline and everyone moves on with life.

Oh dear, posters here still having a massive freakout I see.
I hope you don't let the people who keep coming up with new ways to discourage you get to you @brotown

First the OP is oh so fragile and not in a good place to do this now the poor headteacher would obviously be mortified and might as well be forced to resign , pack up and leave the country immediately. FFS.

Good luck with whatever you decide @brotown !

this Is the issue with the internet, or maybe just AIBU.
Questions and responses(otherwise known as a discussion) are interpreted as arguing or disagreeing

Supercee- last time I went on a date, the internet wasn’t invented!!

I never said she may embarrass him??

The risk of embarrassment is to herself, because it’s not at all clear whether he could in fact pick op out of a crowd; seems to have responded negatively to requests for adding on social media, etc, (I’m not convinced the “multiple” mentions of not using social media came out of a clear blue sky), nothing whatsoever to indicate interest, but if she can handle the possible rejection let her go for it.
But she isn’t is she? The soul searching isn’t quite done yet.

Eh yes there has! She has interacted with him in some capacity as her DS' headmaster. She likes the look of him, has got a good vibe from him (on her part), she is appropriately waiting until her DS leaves school for good

The interaction from the head from what’s been said by the OP has been nothing but normal, professional behaviour that you would expect from any decent headteacher, there’s been no indication from him that he sees the OP other than that as any other parent.

SagAloojah your stance is one of one of being goady and intolerant to anyone that disagrees with you and your continuous pushing of the OP to ask the headteacher out even when you found out she’s in a vulnerable position is bizarre.

I still want to know how old the DS is. If I dated my sons head teacher when he leaves junior school next year he'd be mortified 😂

You still think there’s a sm conspiracy lie???!!!!

OP I feel so sorry for you that this thread has turned into something you never intended it to be!!!!
Honestly just ask him out, what's the worst that could happen he could say no but you'll never have to see him again anyway.
All of this other none sense just ignore it, be happy x

The safeguarding issue cracks me up.

The HM isn't seeking out the mother though, she is merely wanting to pursue a date (after her DS leaves the school for good). Are HM's not allowed to date? Are they not allowed to date single mothers with children? Mothers whose children were once a pupil at the school in question in case they might be seen to be a potential paedophile?

Bloody hell. There are some right posts on this... enough, indeed!

For what it's worth, I was a little sceptical about the thread title, but it all sounds rather straightforward. He sounds decent, and I think he'd take a card and note with phone number as a compliment at the very least. As a headteacher, you'd imagine he'll have enough social skills to either decline politely or follow up if he can see a future, even if only as friends. Good luck, @brotown!

When i worked in a bank someone slipped me their number on a back of a transaction slip. I couldn't tell you how long he had even been in the building it was so random. I had a little giggle and felt flattered but binned it (was with DP) job done.

My brother met his wife in a similar way and wrote his number down, she called him later that day and the rest is history, so it does happen. I don't think its this cringey awkward thing some posters are making it out to be. Especially if you/your child dont have to face him again he can easily ignore it.

@supercee no you're right, he isn't. All I was saying is because they are risks of potential accusations of these kinds (due to how the way things are this day and age) he would have to decline!

Maybe I haven’t described the situation very well. Of course he can pick me out a crowd, he knows my son very well, he’s a very hands on HT, he even teaches them occasionally, he goes on school trips, week long trips.
We’ve actually shared a few in jokes!
He’s 11, he won’t know if I go on a date with him, he wouldn’t know unless it got very very serious. And I’ve addressed how I feel about introducing him to someone new.

Headmaster is such a cringingly old fashioned term.

On that basis I would be out.