To ask out the headmaster?

[brotown]

Ds has a week left in the school.
No idea if he's got a girlfriend
I dreamt about him and can't stop thinking about him.

Just do it,I would

Go for it, OP! Let us know how you get on

So why don’t you just do it then, op? . You say there’s nothing to feel embarrassed about yet you’re still here, handwringing

Oh fgs
Continuing to discuss the issue is not handwringing
I think even you could agree that the thread went off on a bit of a tangent and I’m just responding to questions.
You’re welcome to just scroll on by if I’m boring you

In the normal sequence of events when someone is asking a person out, there’s been some interaction, flirting, an inkling that they like each other. There hasn’t been anything like that here and I think that’s one of the things I find odd. You think you like him but you have no clue if he feels the same. Like I’ve said if you’d been flirting and chatting, added him on SM etc then I could see why you might ask him. But you haven’t.

@NoSauce you really do have a bee in your bonnet about all this don't you? Perhaps you know something no one else does about the situation

Even doctors are allowed to date patients once they are no longer treating them.

I don't think that's true. There has to be a period of time lapsed after them becoming an ex-patient.

I'm not sure if OP mentioned the age of her DS? Only reason I question it was if it was say a junior school HM, that's where the issue would be with the "position of trust". That's was the only reason I suggested that it may he misconduct on his part.

Fair enough.But that’s not possible in this situation, any flirting by him would be unprofessional and any flirting by me could be mortifying for him.

It’s bizarre how Headintheclouds and NoSauce have gone from treating the OP like a vulnerable duckling to now being quite antagonistic to her.

Go for it, life is too short. Good luck!

cakesandphotos a bee in my bonnet? Why because I don’t think it’s a good idea?

@stilldontgiveaf

Find the evidence that this is gross misconduct yet still?

I see you conveniently ignored HiJenny the teacher’s post saying it’s fine.

No, it’s not true, stilldont. Otherwise a vulnerable patient could be groomed and then encouraged to dereg from the practice

Only reason I question it was if it was say a junior school HM, that's where the issue would be with the "position of trust". That's was the only reason I suggested that it may he misconduct on his part.

Please stop making crap up

SagAloojah please point out where I’ve antagonised the OP. I have answered her direct response to me honestly, that does not mean have antagonised her.

@SagAloojah Will you calm yourself? Seriously.

I was seeing it from a different perspective. If it was a primary school head teacher and they started dating the ex pupils mother straight after, that could be viewed as breaking a position of trust? What's so hard to understand about that? That head teacher could be accused of all sorts of things! It's simply a different perspective to what other posters have said. Stop bashing me for it.

NoSauce It’s the general tone of your posts since OP didn’t conform to your painting her as a concusses duckling. You’ve gone from saying she’s too vulnerable to now saying she would be embarrassing the man.

@stilldontgiveaf don’t worry, I’m pretty calm. You’re backtracking spectacularly now

No, it’s not true, stilldont. Otherwise a vulnerable patient could be groomed and then encouraged to dereg from the practice

@HeadintheiClouds no, I didn't think it was true. Purely because I was that vulnerable ex patient once. Safe to say that member of staff got sacked for gross misconduct, which led me to my original point that everyone is bashing me for 😂

@SagAloojah how on earth am I back tracking?

Read my first two posts on the thread again.

ENOUGH!!

@brotown you started it by posting this thread 😂 don't expect everyone to always be on board with what your OP says.

You, on the other hand seem to be op’s biggest cheerleader, Sag
If she really believed there was no issue she wouldn’t have started this thread in the first place and wouldn’t still be posting now.
Why ask for opinions just to tell people off for giving them? She doesn’t have to actually take any heed, but she did ask.

I actually think it’s a valid safeguarding issue, a teacher could target a parent in order to get closer to a child they have taught.
But if it is against the rules, he would just say no, sorry, I can’t. Job done