To ask out the headmaster?

[brotown]

Ds has a week left in the school.
No idea if he's got a girlfriend
I dreamt about him and can't stop thinking about him.

Aw bless OP, you are getting a rough ride here. Put a note in the card with your telephone number (separate bit of paper) and then walk away and don’t look back. Neither of you need to explain anything that way, and you will never see him again if it doesn’t come off.

And if it does ..... come back and tell us x

Headmaster is such a cringingly old fashioned term

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On that basis I would be out
What?

I’ll leave you to argue amongst yourselves
I’ll come back if there’s anything to report
Thanks for all your input, good and bad !

@NoSauce Well of course there hasn't, he has been professional and appropriate as her DS was still a pupil in his school. Now that he isn't....

Noone knows if he knows the difference between her and wee Johnny's mum or indeed he knows her at all. That dynamic could now potentially change though by her putting out a wee feeler to say she's interested. Why in this day and age is that mortifying, wrong, not a good idea etc.

Plenty of people have surely been asked out by someone who has been crushing on them from afar and they didn't have a clue. I'm sure many, when they have realised and given the chance to entertain it, have thought, actually, you look alright, lets give a date a chance and see..

@brotown Okay, so let's say he takes you up on that. The dates go well and within months you are having him in your home.

Your son is 11... that is so so weird.

However, this sounds like my sons head teacher. SOOO many mums fancy him, you can tell. He is very hands on, all the kids love him. He's one of the best HT I've come across so far (my son has had to move schools a few times). I get where you're coming from on this post, I do. My sons HT would so be my ideal man 😂 he comes over and speaks to me every time I see him. But I could not ever ever ask him out on a date. No way.

Some cruel people on here.

Worst case scenario - you ask, he says no. You then never have to see him again.

Best case scenario - you ask, he says yes. It goes well. If it got to the time to let your son know, who on earth better than a kind man whom he knows, respects and trusts? If they have an existing positive relationship, this is a plus not a negative.

Good luck OP.

I hope you take the risk and stick your number in a card or similar. I say this as a true believer you regret the things you don’t do. Even if he never replies I’d find that easier to handle thank the ‘what ifs’.
You sound lovely by the way so I hope it works!!

Blindly people are giving the OP a terrible time here. Get a grip you horrible bitches! She isn't planning on riding him reverse cowboy into a full school assembly , she is thinking of giving him her number to call AFTER her son has left the school forever.

Good luck OP and ignore the pearl clutchers and doom mongering. Go for it.

MyRaGaiaStarFishPieA calm down and get back to your Take a Break.

Headmaster is such a cringingly old fashioned term.

I agree. Mentioned that earlier and got a predictable response.

@NoSauce If anyone needs a little 'calm down' and a flick through a Take a Break it's you.

Why supercee? I’m not the one calling people bitches and cruel. I’m just partaking in a thread in AIBU which on this occasion I haven’t agreed with the OP and many of the other posters, that doesn’t mean I’m not calm

ENOUGH

🤣

NoSauce

MyRaGaiaStarFishPieA calm down and get back to your Take a Break.

Ouch

Maybe op sees herself as an old fashioned romantic heroine, and has cast the unsuspecting headmaster as the male lead in her story.

Even if this story has a Mills & Boons’ ending, I would put money on the OP not returning. Most of the OPs of similar threads never do.

People really are over-invested, though.

Go for it OP. You are a grown up who is starting to think about dating again. Worst case scenario is that he knocks you back. The chances are you may never see him again, so it's not like you'll be cringing at every school event if he does.

Nothing ventured...

Good luck with this next part of your life.

I never understand the “ you’re over invested “ line. Nobody is over invested. It’s just the internet where people add their views and respond to questions and posts.

Usually, though, on Mumsnet people do not get shrill and irritable. As you say, it’s just the internet and an anonymous person in one of its cogs.

Well you’re still posting too, NoTheresa

NoSauce and yet you said I’m ‘fixated’ on the headteacher, Sauce. Your hypocrisy is astonishing.

Hardly getting heated, however. That’s my point. Lol

NoSauce you also had a go at me for keeping on posting when you keep posting yourself!

More hypocrisy!