To ask out the headmaster?

[brotown]

Ds has a week left in the school.
No idea if he's got a girlfriend
I dreamt about him and can't stop thinking about him.

Seriously some people are jealous as fuck for some reason

Strange assumption. What are people jealous of exactly?

wrt my son... it’s just a prospective date! I’m not marrying him just yet!
If things did progress, I honestly think that someone he already knows, trusts and likes could be better than having to build that up with someone else. The thought of introducing my son to someone new makes me feel a bit sick tbh.
My husbands been gone for 4 years. Our lives are back on track and we are a good solid unit of two.

Wow you're getting a hard time here. I really don't get why is wrong to casually ask him. If he's not allowed, he can just say so, no harm, no misconduct!

If you don't mind taking a small risk of there being minor gossip, then why not? Good on you for having the balls to do this.

Ffs really?

I'll tell you what. My aunt is a teacher, I'm sure her policies are very similar. I'll even ask her for "evidence".

@stilldontgiveaf 'don't make me look stupid'

You're managing that all by yourself.

Well no not really.

It really doesn’t matter if it’s against the rules. A pp said at their school it would be, it’s a county wide rule. It might be different for every school, but I can’t really find out for certain unless I ask them.
If it’s against the rules, he’d just say no and that’s that
If he has a girlfriend, he just says no and that’s that.
If he thinks I’m minging, he just says no and that’s that. 😆

Well, are you going to ask him?

I’m going to write something in the card yes

I’d go for it OP. My DSD is dating her sons headteacher. That said she teaches in the same school too lol.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Right Ok. What are you going to say to him?

Don't be ridiculous it isn't a rule. I'm a teacher and union rep and we can date whoever we want. Yes teacher/parent relationships aren't ideal as it can cause issues so schools discourage but NO school can tell you that you aren't allowed to date a parent and if they are please contact you NEU rep and inform them as this is 100% not allowed. Also your son is leaving and will no longer be a pupil. Even doctors are allowed to date patients once they are no longer treating them. Go for it absolutely no reason why you shouldn't!

Go for it OP.

(and ignore some of the bizarre responses on this thread)

Go for it absolutely no reason why you shouldn't!

What even the fact it might put the headteacher in a really awkward and embarrassing position?

Tell me why exactly it would be so embarrassing for him.
No-one would have to know and he’d just say no

I agree with you op. Great idea to put a note in the card. If he's 'mortified' as some pps have suggested then he can just bin it.
Wishing you lots of luck.

@brotown just ignore the people being dicks. Some people just don't want others to be happy.

If you give him a card, as you say no one else will know, and if he chucks it you don't ever have to see him again.

Or it could all go right (I fancy the postie!) who knows until you try??

Best of luck with it, so many of us are rooting for you!!

Find out if he has a wife/girlfriend FIRST. You don’t want to write a card and her to find it/him show it to her. That could be awkward and she may not take to kindly to that 😂 Just drop it into casual conversation, ask if he has kids that go to the school... if he is single then ask him out face to face.

It’s putting him in a position where if he chooses to decline your offer of feeling awkward and probably a bit mortified. He could ignore your card altogether I guess but again that would probably leave him feeling odd about the whole thing.

If there’s been no flirting, lengthy personal chatting etc I would imagine your proposal would come out of the blue and in his shoes I would feel uncomfortable.

Some people just don't want others to be happy

Strange comment. You’re insinuating this headteacher is going to take the OP up on her offer and is going to whisk her off her feet!

I know of a parent/teacher relationship, they met at parents night and got married last weekend. I say go for it, a note sounds perfect. You never regret what you do, only what you dont! Good Luck!

Go for it OP - put your phone number in the card and if he fancies a drink he can get in touch.

And I hope he says yes. Best of luck to you!

Sorry you’ve had some shitty comments on this thread. Wishing you well op good luck :)

I fancy my DD's headteacher! No idea why as he seems quite ineffectual and all his mailings etc. are dull. But when I see him i passing we lock eyes and it's super-hot chemistry for a couple of seconds But he's married and DD's not leaving anytime soon so he remains a fantasy!

I think you need to be clear whether or not it's something he would be able to do professionally, as there are differing opinions here (not by asking him that, but from research online or something). If it is OK, I don't see why you shouldn't give it ago. Invested, moi?

Sorry about your DH OP and feeling the lack of support

Nosauce- if everyone worried about feeling embarrassed or the recipient feeling mortified, no one would ever ask anyone out
Surely it’s the same for every profession, people get asked out every day and say no.
I once had my old manager phone me and ask me out, that came out of the blue, I was about 21, he was about 50, that was weird! I just said no thanks.
I’m sure he’d get over it in an hour or two!