To ask out the headmaster?

[brotown]

Ds has a week left in the school.
No idea if he's got a girlfriend
I dreamt about him and can't stop thinking about him.

He is not on social media as he is a Head Teacher, it would be unprofessional if he were.

Loads of heads are on social.media. often with altered names and very secure profiles. As are lots of professionals. It's how you use social media that matters.

Op, I think a little note in a card would be perfect. You'll probably never hear anything again but maybe... just maybe he'll text and if nothing else, you might make a lovely friend of your own.

Hi OP, I know this isn’t an answer to the question you asked but I do think you should start a new thread that’s about your wider circumstances.
Whatever the situation with this teacher, it sounds as though you could use some support in what sounds like a difficult and lonely time.
Wishing you all the best.

Aw op I've just rtft and you sound like a lovely person and the ht would be lucky to have you. Go for it. It's the first step back out there xx

I agree with the last post, good luck and go for it! X

I can’t believe how much hand wringing there is about this. OP, either speak to him on the last day of term if you can manage it or write him a thank you note and put your number in it.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying ‘hi, do you fancy a drink sometime?’ and leaving your phone number.

It’s ok to ask, in a polite and non creepy way! 😀 Just dont let it phase you if you don’t hear anything. Good luck!

You’re not seriously suggesting I’m making this up? For material for a novel?

I’ve never heard of this rule of not dating a parent within 5 years of the child leaving school. I’m certainly aware that you can’t date a student within those timescales because of the concern regarding “ Abuse of Trust” type offences but what’s the concern with a parent? ( I worked in child protection so I’m interested). What is the relevance of this so called boundary that exists once the child has left? I do in fact know a guy who dated the music teacher at his child’s school. She moved to a new job and they have subsequently married.

I’m talking about the death of my husband and you think I’m making it up? Fuck off

What an absolute bitch of a thing to say

This thread is bonkers.

Anyway OP. I like the suggestion of a card with your number in

Send the note with the present op. You've got nothing to loose. Good luck

@brotown I'm sorry for your loss.
How long ago was it?
I'd go with the gut instinct, it's very normal to miss your dh at significant moments in your life like that, no matter how long it's been.
It's absolutely fine to ask him out btw if you do decide you want to.
Oh and ignore the trolls on this thread!

Leave it until September, then drop him an email ...can't do any harm-if he's not interested he'll ignore you.

To the PP who said head teachers aren't on social media ...you have really made me laugh!!! You do know teachers are real people don't you!! They may be hidden, have odd names, no pictures etc but they're there (not all of them though...but a lot!!) 🤣🤣

...or pop back in in September for a lost item or a present you forgot to drop off ...

I think the pp means the novel where you ask out and then get together with the headteacher.

I'm pretty sure this would be gross misconduct on his part. His policies would state things like this.

Also, how mortifying would it be for your child 😂😂😂😂

Again. Her DS is leaning the school. RTFT

I have read the thread...

So hypothetically, if she dated the HM and it escalated, her DS would be ok with his ex HM being around?

Please 🤨

And it is gross misconduct... he is in a position of trust, and I guarantee you as part of the safeguarding policies he would not be able to date a previous students mother for a period of X years. Don't try and make me look stupid 😂

@stilldontgiveaf

Bullshit. Any evidence to back up that this would be gross misconduct?

Seriously some people are jealous as fuck for some reason.

I don’t think jealous is a particularly apt word, really. Most posters have no skin in the game?