To ask out the headmaster?

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Ds has a week left in the school.
No idea if he's got a girlfriend
I dreamt about him and can't stop thinking about him.

You won’t let it drop.

And yes you’ve posted more than me and quite belligerently

I’m a bit lost now!
I’m not at all fixated on the HM. I had a dream about him which kind of made me realise that he was nice and when I reflected on our conversations I thought they were interesting and he could be someone I could like.

I have not been the vulnerable widow at all in any of my dealings with the school. I told the HM on our first meeting as it’s very relevant to DS and his support network at school, and we were moving so that was a big deal and it’s written in his school details. DS hasn’t mentioned it to his friends either. I have attended most of the big school events with my mum, except for the likes of parents evening and information presentations, but those aren’t an issue because a lot of the time there’s only one parent doing them.
Last night was different because DS was leaving primary, it was a big milestone. And I cried. Tbh a few other parents did too, but they weren’t by themselves.
A few teachers had tears in their eyes too!

I didn’t think it was appropriate last night to chat/flirt/get to know about Hm’s situation because I thought it was a bit more obvious that I was a widow. And I really didn’t feel up to it.

I’m not desperate for a man or new friends. I have some good friends in this area and I like a quiet life.

It wasn’t an appropriate time or place full stop, op. You don’t seem to get this?

OP, I think you sound amazing. I think it’s a really positive step that you’ve started allowing thoughts about non-Chris Hemsworths in and you’ll know better than anyone else on here what’s right for you and what isn’t, when it feels right for you x

Er, no last nights event was the perfect place for a friendly chat with the HM and the teachers. that’s what these things are designed for!

Hi.

How do you know he has no kids or is married?
How do you know he isn't on social media?

I'm just nosey that's all and wondered how you found out 😂🙈

Ok, op. You seem to have suddenly backtracked and are rebranding what you’d planned as a “friendly chat”. Fair enough. Lot of drama for a friendly chat.

You do realise that I was never actually going to ask him out at a school event at this point?!!
It was about finding out the lay of the land

If she puts a note in the card like suggested he can just bin it. No awkwardness needed.

Louise- he very against social media, work of the devil, etc he often says “I don’t do sm”
Similarly with wife and kids

Wife and kids?

Why does he often say this, do you think? Maybe he just doesn’t want to add all the mums on Facebook...

Yes of course, he could have constructed this anti sm persona, bringing in companies to teach children of the dangers, warning them that anything they post stays with them forever, having meetings with the parents to warn of the dangers, saying on more than one occasion that it is crazy to give 10/11 year olds smartphones at a time in their lives when they are at their most impulsive. Trying to get them to read books, rather than play games. Or he could just be avoiding the mums on Facebook
Again, he could have invented this persona with no wife and children, mentioning multiple times to parents that he has no kids, asking all the staff not to mention his wife and kids, being really open and talking about his ageing parents, his brother and sister and his nephews and nieces, to avoid the mums chatting him up?!

. Teaching 11 year old’s about the dangers of incorrectly using social media doesn’t necessarily equate with avoiding all forms of it yourself...
I’d also question why he’d mention to parents multiple times that he has no children, but you’ll only brass back with some defensive nonsense so I won’t bother

Omg- why are you so suspicious?
Head teachers don’t lie to cover up perfectly normal things

The question was why do I think he’s not on social media and why do I think he’s single.
The answer is because he’s mentioned these things, not because he’s in a conspiracy to cover these perfectly normal things up.

It’s just normal conversation
I haven’t got any kids, but my niece...

Do you actually think he’s made up a persona to avoid the flirty mums.
He’s been there 10 years

I'm a teacher and I say: ask him.

Fucks sake @HeadintheiClouds leave the OP alone.

Oh op. Sending lots of love. I hope you get the green light you want!

Send him a note with the gift

i have no idea why you are getting such a hard time from some people

Just ask him for a coffee or lunch, either in person and give him your phone number, to get in touch to arrange it.
I probably wouldn't email his work address, so you have to be brave and go for it.

Bonne Chance!

oh don't know where the either came from! Ignore it! :o