Unless you are living as or with a trans person I've found a majority of people are unwilling to accept the reality of the situation
I'm sure I've been speaking English, but perhaps not.
My experiences and the typical transman experiences are fundamentally the same. The early sexual traumas, the non-hetero orientation, the potential ASD, the inability to navigate the expectations of femininity, the escape into fanfiction, the obsession with slash fiction, the increasing disconnection between my body and my mind, the utter conviction that this social construction of woman, of femininity, was simply not me.
My partner's experiences and the precursory experiences of the typical late-transitioning male are fundamentally the same. The early association of sexual interest with women's underwear in mother's catalogue, the thrill of the taboo, the fondness for wearing lacy undergarments and imagining being dominated by a woman, the discovery of internet pornography involving forced feminisation, the creation of sexually submissive caricature of a woman as an alter ego, the identification with this creation.
The only difference between he and I, and a transwoman and transman couple, is that we do not believe in the Transgender Story, and so we do not perceive ourselves to be a trans couple. We perceive ourselves to be a man with a porn-fuelled fetish rooted in sexism and a woman who was been severely and repeatedly traumatised by the patriarchy.
Our experience is not irrelevant. We know what we are talking about.
And so does Red. By all the gods, Red knows what she's talking about on this one.