To tell young male work colleague...

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To stop with the sexual innuendos as they're making me uncomfortable. I don't know how is best to handle this situation, small office, no hr based on site and line manager is a bit wank in all honesty and never around to hear anything.

He is 20 and has an awful professional manner, which I think is why I guess I'm holding back because a part of me keeps telling myself it's his first proper job, he's young don't be too harsh etc.

But the other part of me thinks fuck him, he shouldn't be in a professional environment if he can't behave accordingly. Few examples...

Mentions his "large" penis several times in a serious way
Shut the door on the small storage room I was in and blocked my exit saying "you're mine hahaha". I actually panicked and felt fucking terrified for a split second.
I was mumbling to myself about something that had gone wrong and when he asked me I said "oh nothing I'm just moaning"....his response was oh you're moaning, well don't let me stop you followed with actual sex noises and well I don't mind hearing that.

It's making me so fucking uncomfortable, I have to refrain from throwing the printer in his fucking face every time I see the creep.

It's hard to explain but the lingering smirks and looks are just fucking odd. He stands in my personal space at every opportunity.

God reading that back, why the fuck haven't I said something.

He needs to be told. I'd go to your offsite HR dept. He sounds vile.

How do you normally react when he does these things?

To be honest I think I’d talk to a manager to address it. It sounds more than sexual innuendos to me and more like sexual harassment. I used to work with someone like this when I was younger and I wished I’d reported it as someone else ended up leaving due to how uncomfortable and triggered they felt

Oh next time tell him to shut the fuck up. When he’s bragging again agree and say ‘yep you ARE a massive dick’

Hate people like this

At first I sort of awkwardly laughed, which is why I'm hesitant to go straight down the formal complaint route because he could say oh I thought it was banter, but I wasn't belly laughing it was more of an awkward oh ha ha because I was so shocked but now I just sort of freeze. I know it sounds pathetic but he was so close to me the other day and internally I was screaming get the fuck out of my personal space but I just stood there like a lemon. I'm in my 30s, don't usually take any shit and I just did nothing!

Keep a log with timings and descriptions, including how it made you feel at the time. After a week or two (or however long you need to build up a record) forward it in an email to your manager, cc-ing in HR. This is for them to handle, not you.

Please do report him.

Men (and I use the word ‘men’ very loosely indeed) need to learn this behaviour is not acceptable. I spent years of my life when I was younger putting up with inappropriate behaviour and felt too awkward to say or do anything (why????).

It turns my stomach now.

You don’t have to take this from anyone, let alone a jumped-up little shit like that.

Next time he says something/blocks you, give him a short and sharp response along the lines of “I do not appreciate how you speak to me and I’m not willing to let it go unreported. Move”.

Report it to your boss. You’re not asking him to do something, you’re TELLING him you’re being harassed. Put it in writing. He’s on notice that there’s an issue.

Speak to HR too. Doesn’t matter that they’re off-site.

Report him. If this is his first proper job and he gets away with behaving like that now, imagine what he'll be like in ten years time. He's a pig and needs to be reprimanded.

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Imo when men, and it's usually men say aw, it was only banter is when they're being sleazy.
Beckymakes a good point, if he's only 20 now and his behaviour isn't checked just imagine what he'll be like in 10 years time.
I also agree with TalkAbout no need to ask him to change his behaviour just tell him in short sharp words that you don't like it and that you will report him.
As women we get socialised into being nice, and you're thinking he's just a young man and it's his first job.
He's sexually harassing you, and he needs to learn and learn fast that this is completely unacceptable.
Think about it you'll be doing him a favour.

Good grief, what a jumped-up little shit. Only 20 and he's somehow got the nerve to be sexually predatory in the workplace.

Please report him.

Ffs if his behaviour isn't checked

I'm relatively relaxed with office banter but this really is nasty harassment. He's even gone beyond words when he trapped you in a confined space and you were scared. I think it's telling that you seem to have a strong gut feeling that you wouldn't want to be alone with him. His age is no excuse. In fact it seems particularly strange as it tends to be the older generation type of man who finds this stuff funny or claims to be unaware times have moved on. Report him. Behind that bravado will be a silly young boy who has probably never been told no, and it should hopefully give him a wake-up call. Even if he is harmless and childish now, unchecked this behaviour runs the risk of escalating over the years.

Holy fuck, OP, please don’t tolerate this a SECOND longer. He’s a vile sexist pig who is deliberately intimidating you and getting in your face. Sounds like you have enough evidence to already make a HUGE complaint.

Ew what an arse. I'd find it difficult to think of something to say on the spot too, hope you get some inspiration here!

Definitely report to HR, everyone has the right to dignity at work and this behaviour is disgusting. It's not like it's mutual or light hearted banter and it worries me what he would be like on a night out with his mates after a few drinks, very disturbing.

Frankly, quite apart from you not having to put up with this shit in the workplace, you’ll be doing him a favour by taking it up with his line manager. If he wants to ever have any form of job that involves colleagues or clients, he needs a basic grasp of professional behaviour.

I'm pleased the consensus so far is that I'm not BU.

I can't put my finger on it but he sets off my spidey senses and I've never been made to feel this uncomfortable before.

I've logged all recent events that I can remember and the next time he inevitably does, I will firmly tell him that will be the end of it, to cut the creepy sexual comments. If it then continues I'll email hr and managers immediately.

I can put my finger on it! He's a creep and makes unwanted sexual comments.

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He's definitely a creep, but without sounding like a drama llama it's his mannerisms that freak me out. The lingering stares and grins for a ridiculously abnormal length of time. Even when I look away, he still keeps staring. Calm as anything as he does. Just bizarre.

He was clearly one of those types of bellends at school and still thinks hes there

Jesus is he Jay from The Inbetweeners? Report OP - he's only going to get worse.