Summer holiday but now the in laws are coming, I really don't want to go

[Spanglyprincess1]

Just this really. In laws own a holiday home in Europe. We asked last year if we could have it for a week they said yes, we offered money they declined. All good. Booked travel etc and told kids (my 3 dsc, their grandchildren and one mine ds their grandchild also).
The house just sleeps everyone so fine.

They announced yesterday they are coming too holiday is in 4 weeks time. My dp and his parents don't really get on well, he does with his dad but not his mom. He's not happy and dreading it. Plus his mom n dad won't share a room not even a twin room. So now me, dp and very loud 12mth old will have to share a room and the other three mixed sex older children will have to share.

I'm dreading going now. The sleeping arrnagments are not great, dp and his mom will argue, his dad will try and take dp away for their joint hobby in the surrounding area and leave me with all the kids. Which isn't happening as its my holiday too.

I know it's their home plus free etc but it feels rude that they have done this esp when we asked well in advance and it's causes havoc with sleeping arrangments.

I know Iabu but I just don't want to go at all now as it will be very awkward. But the older kids are really looking forward to it.

But the OP doesn't seem to realise she has a DP problem. He will say what she wants to hear. Come the holiday his parents will be in separate rooms. DP will piss off with his DF. And the OP will be left cooking cleaning and looking after all the kids.
Shit like this destroys marriages.
Good luck OP.

@Spanglyprincess1 did you manage to resolve this issue?
I can understand why married people want to sleep in separate rooms by the way.
But they should not invade your holiday.

Oh god I can too, my dad has to have an oxygen thing to sleep so my own parents sleep apart sometime except on holidays when they then have a twin.

Nope not resolved. I'm still chasing a resolution with dp and getting irritated

Can you give your dp an end limit for sorting this. Ie no resolution by Sunday or I'm not going?

Yeah I have has to be sorted before he goes away Saturday for a week with work

Okay scratch all of that, there all being ridiculous. Me and bbay are going on a last minute deal to Bulgaria (random) as I found a very cheap decent offer. He and rest of fmaily/pil can do what they damn well. Choose.
I'm a bit cross but I have strong coffee and a buscuit

There we have it. Not sorted. Again. Didn't he promise to get it sorted yesterday? Over a week and a half since you posted originally and STILL not sorted.

Many of us have pointed out you have a DP problem but I just don't think it's sinking in.

Is your dp usually like this

Well done OP. I hope you and your little one have a great time.

I'm quite cross about it. He's promising me still hell sort it but I'm done, I don't belive him so I've sorted me and baby. I need a change of scenery. Harder with baby on my own but way less stressful than the alternative!

Good for you OP. DON'T BACK DOWN!! Your DP needs to experience some natural consequences for his attitude because this isn't one-off behaviour from him but part of a wider pattern.

At least you'll only be looking after baby and no one else, it's not like you'd have got help from anyone else anyway and you'd have had squabbling DSCs to contend with as well. Enjoy your holiday!

Wow have you booked it already ?

That's definitely making a statement. I think it's the right thing to do but it's quite out there as a solution.

Way to go op. You're definitely going to have a more relaxed break and your DP can enjoy quality time with his parents. Who hopefully will never want to do this again

Well done OP, focus on yourself! xx

Wow OP.
Your DP sounds utterly useless.
But I'm so pleased you have something else booked.
You can at least get away and relax.
Leave DP to sort out his parents and his kids.
Enjoy your holiday!

I was more than will to let him sort it, joys of online now you can do it in aroudn3 min with a credit card.
It's only around 600 quid as baby is under 2 so free!
I feel very let down tbh so I may have reacted a bit but I've been telling him for weeks that this needs sorting

Well done 👍🏻

Wow, well done! What pushed you over the edge?!

The fact he hasn't sorted it, bloody fil hasn't and he still won't just do it himself n speak to mil n insist they share. Ridddiculous. Whole holiday will be alone this theme, so not tenable

Wow, op. You’ve been really let down. Your dh has been very selfish. I’m so sorry for you.

I hope you enjoy your holiday with baby a much as you can. You’ve done the right thing there fwiw.

Wow - go you, OP! You have SO done the right thing. Hope you and DBaby have a lovely holiday together and DP has a really shitty one and returns with greater respect for your wishes and opinions.

I can't wait to hear how DP responds to this.

Well done. I hope you have a great time

Ooooo Bulgaria is on my list. Is it on the Black Sea? I want to come now, I'll baby-hold for drinks. Not at the same time obviously.

Also, way to grow some steel ovaries.

Nice user name BTW. Just re reading the long earth