Friend called me a selfish idiot?

[PrincipalVernon]

Apparently it was a half joke so I can’t be offended but I’m still a bit wide eyed.
Long (possibly boring) story short: we have bought a new house, we currently live in a small 3 bedroom and have bought a 4 bedroom which does have larger rooms throughout.
My friend was round for coffee and asked how it was all going so I told her we actually had an offer accepted etc.
She then said because I only have 1 child we were being selfish for buying a house where all the bedrooms won’t be used, I don’t know why but I felt myself trying to justify partly by saying that I work from home so one of the rooms would be an office, she then pointed out that we’d still have a spare and this was idiotic and unfair.
Am I missing something and being unreasonable for wanting a bigger house even though we won’t be adding to our family?

She is jealous.

Well why do you want a bigger house? Be honest...

It could be the green eyed monster or she could be looking at it from an environmental pov?

She'd hate me then - I have no kids and 4 bedrooms.

Jealousy?

Fuck her, 4 bed houses are awesome, especially if they have a dining room that can be made into a playroom. No toys in bedrooms.

She's angling for a fight?

She'd hate my house choice then...

Jealous.

These are new rules about how many rooms you’re allowed!

Oooooooohhhhhh, she has a green eyed monster sat on her shoulder. You need to keep poking it to annoy her.

Ignore it, she's jealous. You're not an idiot.

You don't have to justify yourself to your friend, who was very rude btw.

It's nice having a house with extra space.

I don’t even know you and im jealous

(Don’t have much chance if any to get on the property ladder)

Your friend sounds jealous

I'd say she's jealous and to just ignore her. If you can afford it, it's your money, your choice. Plus it means you have room for a library 😍

I can understand people being irritated about single folk in large 4 bed council houses who won't downsize and therefore are taking up much sought after social housing but it's still the tenant's choice. If they can pay the rent it's their right.

But for bought houses? That's even less of anyone's business! If a large family wanted to buy one then surely they have every right to put an offer in just like you did.

Your friend is jealous and I would have told her so.

First of all, good for you buying a bigger house, hope you will be happy there.

Your friend sounds a bit jealous, how does it affect her what sort of housing you have? It's not selfish to want more room, I had one child; couldn't wait to get out of our two bed terraced and have been happy since we moved to something bigger, in a better area, when he was still under five.

Pay no attention, your friend will get used to it. It's none of her business anyway. Nice to have more space, perhaps she doesn't have much and resents those who do.

That's odd!! Does she think you're depriving the world of rooms by having two extra?

Come on. I live in a small semi but I would have a larger detached if I could afford it. Why not? If you friend won the lottery would she stay in the same house or would she buy a bigger/better/more stylish/better located one? Whether she needed the extra space or not? If she wouldn't she is very unusual. Don't we all buy what we can afford with the income we've earned. I am having a cheapie holiday this year. Do I need a more luxurious one? Well I can survive with it. Will I upgrade to a much better one if I find myself a millionaire tonight? You bet No need for anybody to be insensitive with those with less but good luck to anybody with more than me. Unless you've robbed a bank op or have stolen your grannie's savings enjoy your lovely new home and don't worry about those who can't be happy for you.

Sounds like jealousy. It's your money so your choice. There's only 3 of us (me, DH and DD) and we have a 3 bedroom which could be classed as a 4 but we use the 4th as an office/game space. Our 3rd bedroom is a toy room for DD ..so all rooms get used. No one has ever said anything like that to us before.

Agree she is jealous. What utter bollocks, if you can afford it, you enjoy it!

But who is it unfair to? Who's losing out? I know plenty of people who live in houses with much more room than they need (not social housing).

Ffs. Should we allocate all houses in the country based on who’s got the most kids?

OP go buy a 10 bedroom house. I would. Because I’m petty.

It could be the green eyed monster or she could be looking at it from an environmental pov?
Either way it's none of her business and certainly not her place to say it.
She is being very impertinant.

100% she is jealous. Enjoy your new home x

No need to justify to anyone how you choose to spend your own money. It's your business and nobody else's.

We have a four bedroom detached. There are only two of us. Our money (which we worked hard for by the way), our choice.

Your new house sounds perfect!

Not a friend. She needs to be told she was very rude.