when a rich person says 'money doesnt buy you happiness"

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aibu to feel like screaming ?

money does buy happiness otherwise they'd give it all away

If three of my four children died I would not care about debt or bankruptcy.

So you wouldnt care where the last one lived? Or about having to help that child?

You wouldnt care about living on the street. Having people evict you from your house.

Unfortunately, I have suffered several awful bereavement. Knowing you cant provide for your other kids is awful. Not having to worry or even think about money, is one less stressor and give people time.

Too many people return to work too soon after a trauma. Because they have to.

VERY true, Protein, spot on.

I live on a council estate and nobody here has that kind of money, I felt like I would be moving into another world from my comfort zone. I gave some close friends a bit of money and we had a holiday. Only one person knew exactly how much I got and they called me stupid for giving it away. But honestly no money did not make me happy.

If three of my four children died I would not care about debt or bankruptcy.
If that happened to me I could not afford a funeral for all three. So money would matter a great deal. I know from experience that being able to organise a funeral that you think is right really matters a lot.

Yes money won’t stop you dying, or your family dying but it does mean that you don’t have to worry about paying the bills when your DH dies. It means you can give your child the burial they deserve, not just the one you can afford.

No it doesn’t but happiness but neither does poverty.

And if anybody wants to give away their money, please DM me.

That's very charitable of you Jenny, do you think you'll be able to manage the burden?

But you might care about wanting to be able to provide and support your remaining child? That's true but all the money in the world wouldn't stop you falling into a pit of despair if it was too much for you

Money doesn't buy happiness, but you get a better class of misery!

That's true but all the money in the world wouldn't stop you falling into a pit of despair if it was too much for you

But then, no one said it would.

But it would be one huge pressure less than a person who suffered the same trauma, who didnt have 2 pennies to rub together.

@Baguetteaboutit I am all about giving. I am sure I can manage the burden.
I would love the security money would bring. Both DP and I have insecure jobs and I worry about our financial future. I would love to have money so I know that whatever happens our family would be fine.

Of course if 3 of your 4 children died you would be struggle majorly emotionally. But if that was me and I had money, it would mean I could give up work. When you are struggling majorly emotionally, sometimes holding down a job takes everything you have with no or very little left over. Much better to be able to afford to quit work and spend the emotional energy you have on your remaining child.
So no I would not be happy, but my child would be much better off if I had money than if I did not.

It doesn’t buy happiness. It makes unhappiness a bit more bearable though.

This^^ I have a friend who's wealthy, but went through a bitter divorce a few years ago. The whole family was fractured (older children took sides, one doesn't speak to her now) and she's not happy at all.

But, she's able to take a couple of exotic holidays a year and told me recently that travelling makes her feel better as everyday life is pretty miserable with all the animosity.

So, her money (which she's earned through her successful business, btw, not from her ex) has provided her with an escape hatch when life's miserable. I wouldn't want to be her though.

I’ve nc for this as I don’t want it linked to my previous threads.
I’ve got more money in the bank than I ever have ( not talking hundreds of thousands or millions btw) and I’ve never been more unhappy in my life.
I hate myself and the life Ive ended up living and sometimes when I go to bed at night I think it would be better for everyone if I didn’t wake up.
So no I for one don’t believe that money buys you happiness.

@Supermanfan yes you can be depressed and have money. But you dont have to worry about where you will get money to have electric for the week.

But you can also be depressed and piss poor and have the added stress of not paying bills.

Being poor brings stresses with it that people with money don’t have but that doesn’t mean you can’t be unhappy with money.
Rich people feel pain too when they lose a loved one or have their heart broken.
Money doesn’t protect you from non financial hardships.

Hmm, a lot of non financial problems are mitigated by money though. Health problems can be mitigated by access to better services, medicines and lifestyle changes that require a wedge of cash.

A broken marriage is easier to leave when the split won't thrust your children into poverty.

If having money doesn't matter because someone you love might still die, then why do we have such a thing as life insurance?

Because when a loved one dies, it's good to have money to help alleviate some of the misery.

Losing your husband is not as bad as losing your husband and your home!!!

Losing your husband is not as bad as losing your husband and your home!!

Of course not, but the original question was whether money can buy happiness - I think most posters are agreed that it can only do that if a person's problems are purely financial. It can mitigate other types of unhappiness (like emotional unhappiness, physical or MH issues) but it can't always make them go away completely.

Rich people often do give a lot of money away.

Money doesn't buy happiness. It means a rich person doesn't worry about finances but they are not exempt from other problems. They will still face illness (including depression which is no respecter of persons), accidents which could result in a long period of pain and rehabilitation, bereavement, betrayal, anxiety about family members, failure sometimes. Money cannot solve everything and it cannot buy love. I've known some very unhappy well off people.

£800 a week is definitely not rich!!

I work with people who are dealing with trauma.
Lots of them are super rich( think 3 days a week managing the family money as a job type rich).

All the usual problems are there.
Domestic violence, abuse, betrayal, massive lack of love, addictions of every kind, imposter syndrome, very low self esteem, Illness.

But not money worries, and they get to buy my services to sort them out.

I would say it’s more that money doesn’t protect you from things.

Money doesn't buy people happiness at all, what it does is offer someome financial security which is a weight off their shoulders and gives them someone more options and freedom.

I’d rather cry in my Mercedes than on the bus

YANBU. You can be miserable when you are rich, but at least you can do it in comfort with a full stomach, wearing great shoes with a wonderful penthouse view as a back drop to your misery. Not starving hungry, freezing your tits off and staring at abandoned mattresses and your mate who is passed out in an alcoholic stupor.

Who said that then? I bet it was a Kardashian. Fecking diddums.