... to ask about three things you think about every day?

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I've NCed for this. For some context I'm in early 50s, nice DH & kids, good position financially (but big mortgage), jobs, health OK, etc. Lots of pluses, and the usual stresses of work, some family stuff, and so on.

I find there are things that I think about almost everyday.

• Parents: passed away over a year ago after long illnesses. I miss them so much, and think about them every day.

• DS: has friends, popular socially but struggles in school, not very motivated at all. He also has some manageable health issues. I worry about him.

• Sex (life passing me by?). My DH is great on so many levels, but his interested has decreased hugely in recent years. I just sense it feels like a chore for him, even when he makes the effort. I daydream a lot ...

Money worries
Maintaining positivity rather then slipping into negative thoughts and depression
My DS2 driving over the mountain to and from work, especially when theres a storm

Oh Yeahnah so sorry to hear that, thats so sad

Setting up my own business

Money (we are wealthy but I still worry about losing everything)

What I would do if I won the lottery. (my dream amount is usually around the £9m mark)

1. Psychiatric issues and related thoughts and treatment options

1. Whether I will meet someone to settle down with and whether I'll be too old by the time to have a baby. Plus whether it would even be a good idea given the above.

1. The future in general including education/career etc.

1. My son. He recently lost his Dad and I worry how happy he is and how much he keeps inside

1. My marriage - it's rocky at the best of times

1. My job and whether I'm good enough 'imposter syndrome'

Love this post OP, thanks

Thinking of you Silversurfer and Mitzi!

Food, exercise, sleep.

How many days until payday and what I'm going to buy when it comes

How on earth did my stomach get this big so quickly (apple shaped)

Shall there be wine tonight or shall I be good....

Worrying and depressing how many have cited their weight.

Those that are slim think about it regarding maintaining and those who are not think about it regarding losing it.

Either way a disproportionate amount of time spent dwelling on it.

I am one of those people BTW.

My baby son, who died in 2018, is in my thoughts every single day
My weight (need to lose some)
How relentless parenting young children is!

DS, looking at the state of this world, fakebook/fake media, how ignorant millennials are, trasgender this, pan sexual that..I genuinely worry every day what hell turn out like...and hes only 1!

Sex, sometimes with my DP or sometimes with Alexander Skarsgard

Money, what I need to buy, what Jobs we can do in future etc

-Ex husband - I know I still love him after all these years.
-Sex - as I get older I am becoming less and less interested
-Retirement - the earliest age i can retire on my pension and piss off in
my motorhome.

1. My daughter.

1. My babies that died. I lost 3 babies at 16, 18 and 23 weeks and I think of them every day. It hurts to type it down because it acknowledges the fact they’re in my head and not actually here. I wish dd had her siblings.

1. My grandad. He held my hand and my heart through all the losses of my babies, and died before I had dd. I’m still so angry about that.

1. Work- low level stress about what to do and how to do it.
2. Children- practical stuff like clubs/ schooling and how they are doing generally.
3. Stuff to do. General jobs list and what needs to be done/sorted.

1. My body and food and the relationship between the two (never a positive thought process)
2. Climate change and how the world is fucked
3. The mental load

What I’m having for my tea. (As I’m eating breakfast 🐷🤦🏻‍♀️)
What does ds need in his bag/where does he need taking.
When is the weather going to best to fit a dog walk in.

Love this thread!

money
money
money

(we don't have enough). To be fair, also weight!

Whether there's something wrong with my twins
Whether we're doing enough for our singleton son
Whether I am enough

@SleepingStandingUp you are enough. I promise you and I’ve never met you.

How does my body feel? (I’m autoimmune, so tend to analyze my fatigue and aching levels.)

What’s next on the to-do list?

Then a glut of thoughts about my immediate environment. Wow, the wind is high today. How have I never noticed that tree? Etc. etc.

1. Money. By any objective standard I am comfortable, but having grown up in a very low-income way, since my DH's death, I cack myself constantly.
2. Like stopgap I have an autoimmune condition so am always checking how I feel so I can adjust my medication. It's very wearing, as well as taxing on attention.
3. My garden. I wish it would rain.

My parents who have both died recently. Miss them a lot.

My dp who I love a lot and is going through ‘stuff’ - health and work stuff.

Brexit/Labour Party/Iran situation/trump/sex race social inequality etc. World chaos generally.

(4th is food - constantly thinking about next meal out - seem to have cravings)

My husband's cancer

Me or my husband dying and what our young daughters would do without us

Our IVF frozen embryos and whether we should go for third child

Money the lack of it.
My children and grandchildren if I didn’t have them I’d have nothing.
Choices I made when I was younger still feeling them now.