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... to ask about three things you think about every day?

338 replies

onmydoorstep · 06/07/2019 09:45

I've NCed for this. For some context I'm in early 50s, nice DH & kids, good position financially (but big mortgage), jobs, health OK, etc. Lots of pluses, and the usual stresses of work, some family stuff, and so on.

I find there are things that I think about almost everyday.

  • Parents: passed away over a year ago after long illnesses. I miss them so much, and think about them every day.
  • DS: has friends, popular socially but struggles in school, not very motivated at all. He also has some manageable health issues. I worry about him.
  • Sex (life passing me by?). My DH is great on so many levels, but his interested has decreased hugely in recent years. I just sense it feels like a chore for him, even when he makes the effort. I daydream a lot ...
OP posts:
hazandduck · 10/07/2019 17:47

Sex

Food

My daughter

wineandsunshine · 10/07/2019 18:11

Oooh this is interesting!
1 - work
2 - food
3 - health

GnomeoNameo · 10/07/2019 18:34
  1. My mum died a few years ago - I miss her every day and think about how she would be so proud of how my family are doing, and feel sad about how she has missed seeing her grandchildren's successes and relationships.
  1. I worry about retirement that we will be able to afford to live close to where we are now, and still be close to family. There are lots of factors influencing this, most of which I can't control.
  1. Some time ago I hunted out my birth parents (adopted at 6 weeks) and it turned out my birth dad was famous. It also turned out I have a full sister - who doesn't know I exist. But neither my birth father or mother wanted to have any contact with me, and my birth father is now dead. I think about them both a lot and how one day when my birth mother has died I will try to get in touch with my birth sister.
Boneshere · 10/07/2019 19:15

My appearance. I've lost nearly 8 stone and still want to lose 4 stone more. I am scared of getting wrinkles, so I think of Botox and filler a lot. My hair is dry AF and I'm always thinking of how best to fix it. Want to lose as much weight asap before my holiday.

Money. We have a three week holiday in the U.S coming up and I'm trying to save as much as possible.

Health. I have chronic pain and I've just been diagnosed with ASD.

Blueandredandblue · 11/07/2019 19:26

My children, I have three with ASD, I worry constantly about their needs, my life is planned around them.
My NT ds and dd, worry about how much they miss out on due to having siblings with higher needs
My own future, how it is compromised by being the single parent that does all the care, the load on me, and how I don't want to end up being a burden on my NT children 🙁

BigVern1 · 11/07/2019 19:32

Sex or lack of it
Death - I don’t know why I think about this a lot. Maybe I am depressed.
Food

Bjhsum · 07/09/2019 14:25

I think about health, recipes for meals throughout the week and by enlarge sex. On a personal note I have been abstained from inserted sex for 9yrs. now

Highandlow · 07/09/2019 14:42
  1. the way I look-my weight ,skin, hair
    2)the face I am single
  2. my career (or lack of )
Pikapikachooo · 07/09/2019 15:39

Work . I have a very fixed rotation of
People that piss me off an an almost daily basis

Health , I procrastinate daily on exercise , calories and how I want to be healthier

Family . Always something to worry and feel guilty about

HauntedPinecone · 07/09/2019 15:43

What an interesting idea for a thread.

Going to go back and read the lot! Mine are:-

My dad. He died 2 years ago and I've never been the same since. I think about him every day.

Food. I'm obsessed!

Sex. See above. Grin

Frangipane · 07/09/2019 15:44

My health (on going issues)
My mother (currently existing in a care home with advanced dementia)
My children

Symptomless · 07/09/2019 15:44

Money, especially future planning.
Health, am a bit of a hypochondriac.
Sorting out the house as it's always full of clutter.

Tbh I'm a worrier so I'm always thinking about potential problems.

SmudgeButt · 07/09/2019 16:12

My cat
What's for dinner?
Is there any brandy in the house?

StanleySteamer · 22/09/2019 21:55

wow, as a bloke this is so frightening, so few posts mention OH!
As for me it is:
wife (and her health)
next DIY job I have to do
cars

Finnyhaddock · 08/01/2020 07:45

My belly
Mother and her assorted problems
The state of my marriage

Sipperskipper · 08/01/2020 07:47
  • My daughter - not worry just think about her all the time, even if I’m with her! (She’s 2.5)

-Being fat & needing to lose weight

-Dying

cushioncovers · 08/01/2020 07:49

Money. Lack of it.

My mum who has a horrible illness.

Life passing me by.

Ragwort · 08/01/2020 07:51

I often think how blessed I am, I am in good health, as are my immediate family, a job I love, lots of hobbies and interests, a comfortable lifestyle.

Food/diet/exercise - I am 4 stone over weight

Sex (opp problem to the OP, my DH is a lot more interested in sex than I am (despite my weight Grin), I would happily be celibate.

Spidey66 · 08/01/2020 07:54

My weight/food
How many days till the weekend/weeks till annual leave/years to retirement
Getting out of London

Shoxfordian · 08/01/2020 08:06

Buying our new house - just started looking
Food - on a diet...
Work

Glitterblue · 08/01/2020 08:13

My ex best friend who ended our friendship last summer because our children had an argument and I didn't deal with it in the way she wanted. I miss her desperately.

My daughter's wellbeing

My weight

dudsville · 08/01/2020 08:19

Retirement (the joy of stopping my stressful job, my pension, my savings capacity, thinking over my financial plan for anything I've missed, etc., )

My hobbies (when/how can I next sew/read/walk/ponder)

Fashion (I'm not into fashion but have recently drastically changed my style and completed a wardrobe overhaul so I'm constantly trying to work out how to wear a thing. Sounds boring but it's a nice light topic compared to the extreme heaviness of my job and therefore provides a mental break).

MrsToothyBitch · 08/01/2020 08:32

My weight
Whether or not I want DC
Death

There are others but those 3 stand out atm.

contentedsoul · 08/01/2020 08:51

Getting old - hating every second since I turned 50 last year

Parents and siblings - really want nothing to do with them ever again

Fed up of working - needs must but I’ve had enough

lisaevans · 08/01/2020 09:04

My ex- continuously. Try to talk to him when boyfriend isn't around. Toxic relationships, not good for me or children but as much as iv moved on, I love him unconditionally 😔

Work-am i doing a good enough job

Sex- just wanting it more and well just wanting it!!!