to expect DP NOT to invite friends over on a sat night without consulting me first

[lucyellensmum]

I havent even met these people, and the woman sounds like someone i have nothing in common with whatsoever. But never mind my general antisocialness. The house is a bloody absolute, consumate, bastarding pigsty and this woman is so houseproud she rang her DP at work once to bollock him for leaving his cup of tea outon the side when he went to work. IF he had told me sooner i would have spent less time putting the world to rights on here and actually got off my arse and done some cleaning. (i really am not very big on domesticity but i do like to at least make the place look like it is suitable for human habitation if we are to have visitors)Now something i was looking forward to doing with DP and DD tomorrow night has turned into something i am dreading and am already feeling uptight about. gggrrrrrrr bloody man well if he thinks...........oops, TMI we wont go there

they are not apparently coming now - phew. the thing is DP is as antisocial as i am so i was quite stunned when he said he asked people over. Actually he is worse than me.It isnt so much the cleaning, cos actually that really needs doing but the fact that i have to make an effort for people who i dont know and the woman would hate me, she is really house proud and into shopping in a big way (i hate both in a bigger way i suspect). but it matters not cos they are not coming and probably never were - so i can revel in my social pariah(ness).

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lol LEM, you hermits . At least you and dh are of a similar nature.

By iCod on Sat 28-Jul-07 11:19:48
weirdo yep, that'l be right - like i said, you and me will get along fine

Communal eating of nice foods, fine wine (any wine!) a chat and a laugh, is my idea of a perfect evening. With my Friends who i chose to spend time with. Not with someone i have never met, it is too much effort and i find that being plonked into that sort of situation with people i dont know uncomfortable. I would rather develop friendships with people i know i can have a laugh with, get pissed and make an arse of myself with without having to worry what they are thinking. Otherwise it is all too false and pretentious. I have only ever been to one dinner party (my friend was trying to show off) her husband got me and DP pissed on contraband brandy and i puked on her doorstep. They didnt invite me again .

DP and i are generally very anti social, him especially and it took me ages to get him to come out with my friends. I tend to prefer male company and my circle of friends are mixed, but thankfully they don't do dinner parties and are happy to turn up in he pub wearing what they have worn all day at work and just be comfortable with each other. DP now likes to come out with us, although of course that doesnt happen much since the birth of little lucy

With regards to the couple who may or may not have been coming down, i just dont think i would have hit it off with the woman, have spoken to the guy on the phone, he sounds like a really nice person, but i can imagine an evening of M&T type small talk and who wants that on a saturday night? I could of course always go down the pub with DD1 - now she knows how to socialise, she socialises like a fish. I'm rambling aren't i