to expect DP NOT to invite friends over on a sat night without consulting me first

[lucyellensmum]

I havent even met these people, and the woman sounds like someone i have nothing in common with whatsoever. But never mind my general antisocialness. The house is a bloody absolute, consumate, bastarding pigsty and this woman is so houseproud she rang her DP at work once to bollock him for leaving his cup of tea outon the side when he went to work. IF he had told me sooner i would have spent less time putting the world to rights on here and actually got off my arse and done some cleaning. (i really am not very big on domesticity but i do like to at least make the place look like it is suitable for human habitation if we are to have visitors)Now something i was looking forward to doing with DP and DD tomorrow night has turned into something i am dreading and am already feeling uptight about. gggrrrrrrr bloody man well if he thinks...........oops, TMI we wont go there

nooo cd, don't back out now. Sounds like a great plan - surprise dinner etc. Go for it. Will you still make the booking?

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yes is not til 9
but it takes him an hour to get home and not left yet, then he will wnat to change and shower etc so leaves not a lot of time
i should maybe call him and inform him of reservation?

hark at the social divas.

lucy, if you are an anti-social person you will probably hate Sat evening.

From time to time I have lulled dh into thinking he will enjoy a soailc occasion with new people. He never bloody does, mind you.

cod look at top tip thread there si one you would like

perhaps you should cd - and then go round maes and telll hoim to meet you there

but we are going out on our own
so mates may be put out
I barge in and demand alcohol while they are chilliong out after hard week
then dh turns up
then we bugger off

SO LEM
what are you going to do??

god if i wore monsoon i would feel like dick emery in drag

CD - they are matesw would be fine

LEM- i'm one of those annoying people who is naturally anti-social but i keep up this pretence that i'm not.

And no matter how many social niceties i come out with, no matter how charming i am (i AM goddammit), i cant help having a running commentary going on in my head, asassinating the characters of those i'm with.
(you're a dick, you're desperate for attention, you spank the labradoodle while the wifes at Waitrose - that sort of thing)

They can see it in your eyes - you cant hide it.

Therefore i find you're honesty re your unsociability rather refreshing.

oh JV
i jsut say those things out loud

CD - me too -

CD - me too -

Beety - again lol

JV - it is my computer - I need to do something but it means doing something else and I cannot be bothered

yes, jv, dh felt so much better when he accepted his anti social nature.

CD, you might still make 9

yes, might be worth calling him and telling him about it. Is he pissed off with work still?

when will you accept yourself
I am sick and I am dull and I am plaaaiiiinn
how dearly I'd love to get carried awaaaaayyy

I want to come to London and get away form here for a while

I really want to go abroad and gt away form the rain

never again

Its only my innate fabulousness that allows me to be so very discerning

So LEM are you frantically tidying & cleaning?

My house is probably in a similar state but I have stopped worrying, it hasn't reached a Kim & Aggie type intervention scenario, but I have been known to invite people round just to make myself sort it out ...

PMSL @ this thread

"oi, you bloody lot - this is my rant! where does the fecking monsoon sale come into things"

lucyellensmum,

Well I think he should be able to invite people over but I think he should help clean up, too.

When you say "consulting," I am kinda hearing "asking permission." He is a grown man and if he wants company, then he should be allowed to invite them.

What he shouldn't do is expect you to take care of everything. If he wanted your help he should have asked for it before he invited people over.

You can always get your hair done while they are visiting

you could greet them in your nightie, they might get the hint then