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Original poster

About being told to grow up

149 replies

Stripyseagulls · 04/07/2019 07:07

I went to Glastonbury at the weekend! It was brilliant and I had a great time. I was fortunate enough to ‘glamp’ in a bell tent so it was lovely.
I am in my 40’s with 2 kids and a demanding full time career. I haven’t been away from my kids at all in over 3 years and only maybe 4 times for a couple days since they were born- they are 8 and 12.
I really needed a break actually and to have a bit of fun- I needed to feel myself for a few days & its done me the world of good- life had really got on top of me.

I got told yesterday I needed to grow up by a close friend & it’s really upset me. That it’s not adult appropriate behaviour to go to Glastonbury. It’s made me feel shit and guilty for leaving my kids now.

Aibu to be upset by it? I feel like telling them to fuck right off

OP posts:
Femaleassassin · 04/07/2019 07:09

Do it. Your 'friend' is a cock. Live your life the way you want to live it.

MrsGrannyWeatherwax · 04/07/2019 07:09

What does it matter to them? You had fun, as long as you didn’t abandon your children and ensured they were cared for.

I’d tell your friend to fuck off and stop being so judgemental

Original poster
Stripyseagulls · 04/07/2019 07:10

My kids were with their dad so were fine

OP posts:
Foslady · 04/07/2019 07:11

And when you are both old and in a nursing home who will have the best memories to look back on?

Alsohuman · 04/07/2019 07:12

I’m 20 years older than you and deeply envious. I suspect your friend is too.

cheesenpickles · 04/07/2019 07:12

Someone is jealous! In the words of the youth "fuck the haterz". I hope you had a fab time and I plan to be going to festivals for many many years to come.

MrsGrannyWeatherwax · 04/07/2019 07:12

Hope you enjoyed yourself!

I’d like to go mid 40’s when I have enough money to do it the fun way like you

RedSheep73 · 04/07/2019 07:12

Tell your friend to fuck right off (or less sweary equivalent). How is it any of their business? I bet nobody told Jo Whiley she needed to grow up.

TheSandgroper · 04/07/2019 07:12

If you are told in your forties to grow up, just imagine her opinion of the Rolling Stones, Elton John, Fleetwood Mac, Barry Manilow,Neil Diamond and I don’t know who all else. They must all be getting their money from someone.

Does she not class herself as a grumpy old man yet?

LuckyAmy1986 · 04/07/2019 07:13

YANBU. What did you say?

WizzyBee · 04/07/2019 07:14

If they are a proper friend they should know how your life is and that you are not a feckless gadabout and that you deserved a bit of fun. They are clearly not a true friend so can fuck right off.

They are probably jealous...

MsCupcake · 04/07/2019 07:14

YWNBU to tell them to fuck right off.

But before you do, would you mind asking them for all the other life rules we need to be considering, as they are ‘in charge’ of appropriate behaviour..... then tell them to swivel 🤬

Original poster
Stripyseagulls · 04/07/2019 07:15

@LuckyAmy1986 I didn’t say anything as was just really upset! It made me feel stupid & irresponsible (and ruined my glasto high actually)

OP posts:
HenSolo · 04/07/2019 07:15

I would find the most immature way possible to tell her to fuck off. Maybe blow a raspberry at her or moon her or something.
Weird how doing something fun means you have to grow up??

Tigger001 · 04/07/2019 07:15

They are being so ridiculous. Your kids were cared for, and you had the chance to have a great time. Go for it I say !!!

Pearlfish · 04/07/2019 07:18

Glad you had a great time OP! You've done nothing wrong at all, don't let this person spoil it for you.

Neolara · 04/07/2019 07:18

As I say to my kids "Who made her the boss of you?". I'm 50. I quite fancy going to Glastonbury. I'm a proper grown up.

Suspect she was a little bit jealous. I'd ignore her.

Also, it's just a weird thing for someone to say aloud, even if they think it. It seems a deliberate attempt to make you feel bad. Do you really need people like that in your life? Or do they just have terrible social skills?

MaryPopppins · 04/07/2019 07:18

Sounds like jealousy to me.

But then I go to theme parks on my own during school days and Disney every year without my DC (they come other times too) so people think that's REALLY weird.

We only get one life. Don't we deserve to do what we love during it?

My DH desperately wants to go to Glasto but it's my idea of hell. Think he's going with friends next year and I'm excited to him. DC and I will have a lovely weekend while he's away. Win/win.

GingerRogers84 · 04/07/2019 07:19

Your friend is a boring stick of wood. I imagine there were people at Glasto twice your age having fun. I hope you enjoyed yourself and don't listen to that dry old square you call a friend.

LindaLa · 04/07/2019 07:23

What did she do at the weekend?

She just sounds envious.

Must be awful to be the person who has to bring people down.

Just feel sorry for her.

fedup21 · 04/07/2019 07:24

I have say, I think I’d have just laughed! Loudly.

cantfindname · 04/07/2019 07:27

I am 66 and never been to a festival :( I would love love love to go to Glastonbury and sod anyone who says I am 'too old'

SamanthaJayne4 · 04/07/2019 07:32

Don't let her ruin your memories of a good time OP. You are definitely not too old. I don't think anyone is, health permitting.

LuckyAmy1986 · 04/07/2019 07:32

Well you don’t sound stupid or irresponsible at all. Everyone needs a break now and then. I think she must be jealous? I hope you had a great time!

AppleTartlet · 04/07/2019 07:35

My bil and his wife are in their 60s and have been every year it's been on since they met. I think people living within a certain proximity are guaranteed a ticket. Me, I'd rather stick pins in my eyes, but if that's what blows your skirt up it doesn't matter what your age is.