About being told to grow up

[Stripyseagulls]

I went to Glastonbury at the weekend! It was brilliant and I had a great time. I was fortunate enough to ‘glamp’ in a bell tent so it was lovely.
I am in my 40’s with 2 kids and a demanding full time career. I haven’t been away from my kids at all in over 3 years and only maybe 4 times for a couple days since they were born- they are 8 and 12.
I really needed a break actually and to have a bit of fun- I needed to feel myself for a few days & its done me the world of good- life had really got on top of me.

I got told yesterday I needed to grow up by a close friend & it’s really upset me. That it’s not adult appropriate behaviour to go to Glastonbury. It’s made me feel shit and guilty for leaving my kids now.

Aibu to be upset by it? I feel like telling them to fuck right off

I always think of Glastonbury as something older people do, as the people I know who go are all 45+.

Defo got an issue...

It was a spiteful comment designed to bring you down when she saw how happy you were. Says a lot about her and nothing about you and your choices. I am older than you and go to festivals regularly, and there are plenty of other people my age and older there. I haven´t been to Glastonbury, but didn't you notice people of your own age and older there? I bet you did. Just shows that you are absolutely allowed to be an adult and go!

Friend is jealous, I think. And not a friend.

I didn't go to music festivals until my early 50s when we moved to Australia. OMG, a whole new world, and no-one ever said "grow up". One only has to look at the line-up to see how long in the tooth the headline acts are:

Nick Cave, chap of my generation and cool as fuck.

Letting your “friend” tell you how to think is way more immature than going to Glastonbury 🙄.

Your children are 8 and 12 years ffs. They might have been a bit jealous themselves . Your pal should grow up. I'm 50+ with a 12 year old. You did good.

If you enjoyed it, why does her opinion matter so much to you - not everyone is going to like the same things anyway. Why would one remark alter how you felt about it? Just brush it off, you enjoyed it and that's all that matters.

Wow. I am similar age to you with same age kids and I get the same buzz from Disney World - what would your friend make of me?!

She’s not a friend. What a numpty.

From the TV, the vibe seemed extra special this year....but I know “from the tv” is not a valid argument 😂

Your friend is a twat. You are allowed to do what you want to do and what you enjoy!

Well you know who not to invite next year then. People like this who piss on your chips are just twats anyway.

I went out with work colleagues to a buffet place a while ago and came back with a few lot of the little taster puddings cakes (most were only 1" squares). Someone decided to loudly announce that my plateful was "disgusting, that's just disgusting"... I actually felt murderous that she had spoilt my treat

Just ignore the old boot

Her remark doesn't make sense.

I'm 52, are we not supposed to get excited about things? Or enjoy things?

I love camping and music. Glastonbury combines the two. The Ethos of it is to appeal to all age ranges and there's something for everyone.

I'd pity her outlook. She going to be a very bitter, no joy older person. Which is a shame, there's nothing better than older people with a zest for life.

You might find that as your children get older and you seek out new experiences, she'll pull you down more.

You need to challenge her. Ask her to explain why you need to grow up and she'll sound stupid.

She may need dropping in the future.

This is not the comment of a friend it is the coment of a jealous, spiteful person. Deeply envious of you, I'm in my sixties and never intend to be too old to go to festivals [until the zimmer frame gets stuck in the mud].

Since when has music been the sole province of younger people? This has nothing to do with you or Glastonbury but some issue your friend has with how she perceives herself and how she fits into the order of things. If, for example, a decent ABBA (insert own band name) came to your local to sing, would she go? Our local is full of people in the mid to late 50s listening to Pink Floyd, Led Zeppellin, Fleetwood MAC etc tribute bands most weeks - as bit like going to Glastonbury except that with the latter there are loads more bands to enjoy and the atmosphere and shared experiences are brilliant! Your friend sounds dried out emotionally, a bit like a winter leaf that withers until only the faint outline of its shape is left.

I'm 41 and went with my 20yr old son left the otherrs with my mum as I'm widowed
His mates got me to the front of the killers so I can lust after Brandon flowers best weekend I've had forever x

I have always thought 'grow up' is one of the most stupid expressions! Do what you enjoy when you want to!

I’m your 40s
Full time demanding career
Two children

And yet you’re floored by a daft ignorant comment by a friend.
You can’t open a weekend newspaper without articles on festivals for the middle classes at the moment

Seriously OP your problem isn’t going to Glastonbury and it isn’t your friend

It’s your thin skin

@Stripyseagulls

LOL your 'friend' is jealous. Sooooooo obvious. I mean, just how DARE a hard-working mother have a good time???

You sound like great fun, and a great mother. Your kids are lucky.

Ghost your toxic 'friend.'

Were you banging on and on at her about how ammazzing it was, what an ammazing time you had / what you got up to etc. Perhaps she had just had enough of your euphoria over attending a festival.

Ha when you’re 60 you’re going to be the fun one travelling and living each day to the full and she’s going to be stuck in her rocking chair slowly failing. Pity her and ignore her 😁

@YumyumAndyum I think I am probably feeling a bit sensitive as was quite surprised by her comment

@separatebeds honestly, I hadnt even mentioned it but had been tagged in lots of Facebook stuff

They don't sound like much of a friend but I doubt they're jealous. Was it the 'going to Glastonbury' they disapproved of or was it aspects of festival behaviour that they were concerned about?

@HollySimpson1

Post on twitter to advertise gofundme. I don't think you can do it on here.

@HollySimpson1

Sorry about your sister's baby.

@YumyumAndyum

I’m your 40s.

Full time demanding career. Two children

And yet you’re floored by a daft ignorant comment by a friend. You can’t open a weekend newspaper without articles on festivals for the middle classes at the moment .

Seriously OP your problem isn’t going to Glastonbury and it isn’t your friend - It’s your thin skin.

ODFOD.

I have read some tripe on here, but your comment takes the biscuit!

Bet you're one of these 'can't you take a joke' individuals aren't you, who think people are weak if they cry.

Someone can be a strong and independent person, and still be hurt by nasty comments hurled at her, by some jealous miserable, joy-sucker, who is meant to be a friend!

@MilkTrayLimeBarrel

I have always thought 'grow up' is one of the most stupid expressions.

This. ^ And it's the most 'stupid' people who say it.

@separatebeds

Were you banging on and on at her about how ammazzing it was, what an ammazing time you had / what you got up to etc. Perhaps she had just had enough of your euphoria over attending a festival.

Someone else sounds a bit jealous there... ^