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About being told to grow up

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Stripyseagulls · 04/07/2019 07:07

I went to Glastonbury at the weekend! It was brilliant and I had a great time. I was fortunate enough to ‘glamp’ in a bell tent so it was lovely.
I am in my 40’s with 2 kids and a demanding full time career. I haven’t been away from my kids at all in over 3 years and only maybe 4 times for a couple days since they were born- they are 8 and 12.
I really needed a break actually and to have a bit of fun- I needed to feel myself for a few days & its done me the world of good- life had really got on top of me.

I got told yesterday I needed to grow up by a close friend & it’s really upset me. That it’s not adult appropriate behaviour to go to Glastonbury. It’s made me feel shit and guilty for leaving my kids now.

Aibu to be upset by it? I feel like telling them to fuck right off

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GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 04/07/2019 10:04

Spiteful, jealous comment from a shit 'friend'.

Bollocks to them. Glad you had fun, keep on doing it.

Opossooom · 04/07/2019 10:05

I reckon she’s a jealous cow. Go you OP.

Justaboy · 04/07/2019 10:09

Simples! bet shes jealous cos she didnt get a ticket;|!..

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GabsAlot · 04/07/2019 10:11

Not a friend sounds like you had a great time-id glamp aswell not very good with camping

Bettyspants · 04/07/2019 10:16

I went too! Late 40s , it was fantastic although my stamina isn't what it was!!! That's not a real friend op , the comments here should reassure you that your 'friend ' is a dick. I should probably grow up and stop using such childish insults 😄

whothedaddy · 04/07/2019 10:18

when you stop doing the things you love you are already dead...just breathing.

A friend of mine and his wife go almost every year. both in their 60's.
I didn't know music had an age limit.

GreenGrowTheRushesOhh · 04/07/2019 10:19

I'm your age and have children about the same age as yours.

FWIW going to Glasto would be my nightmare, I'm a real homebody and more the 'yoga retreat' type (or a silent retreat run by nuns would be my ideal I suppose Grin)

I have acquaintances my age who enjoy music festivals, it's never occurred to me that this was not an age-appropriate activity. In fact I've never thought about it at all except that how nice that they are spending time doing something they enjoy!

Your 'friend' sounds horrible. As many PPs have said, it sounds like she's so jealous she can't see straight. Perhaps she's the one who needs to "grow up"?

bee222 · 04/07/2019 10:33

Your friend sounds really boring. She's probably a bit jealous.

Halloumimuffin · 04/07/2019 10:40

I read that the average age of a Glastonbury attendee is 41 - so it's actually a very common thing for someone your age to do, and your friend is joyless ass!

NoSauce · 04/07/2019 10:43

Lovely friend, not. Is she usually so mean?

TheDogsMother · 04/07/2019 10:52

I'm a lot older than you and I'd like to go. Your friend is being ridiculous and assuming she's never been what does she actually know ? Kylie and many of the other performers are older than you and it's good enough for them. Or what about Tammy Wynette last year ? It's an inclusive festival !

trackingmedown · 04/07/2019 10:58

Your friend needs to grow up and realise that not everyone shares her interests, values and opinions.

I only went to one festival and left on the Friday night in a state of shock over the lavatory facilities and total horror about having to queue for the horrible and expensive food. I was with DH and we were in absolute agreement that we would willingly sacrifice the price of our weekend tickets to get the hell out of there and depend the weekend at home. The rest of our group stayed on and had a great time - it’s all about personal preferences not maturity.

officepolitics · 04/07/2019 11:48

Your "friend" needs to bore off

PinkGlitter123 · 04/07/2019 12:23

Probably jealous.

I am glad to hear you had a good time. Try not to let her ruin it for you x

WhereYouLeftIt · 04/07/2019 12:54

"Aibu to be upset by it? I feel like telling them to fuck right off'"
Nope, YANBU. You have every right to be upset by your 'friend' (frenemy?), does she always have a stick this far up her arse? 'Fuck right off' is an adult appropriate response.

"That it’s not adult appropriate behaviour to go to Glastonbury."
She has a very narrow idea of what constitutes an adult. All those twentysomethings are adults. And frankly, when you've got The Cure performing I'd say Glastonbury are trying to attract an older crowd. You might very well be younger than their target demographic.

Just tell her to fuck off. It's such a nasty thing for her to say to you, I'd not really count her as a friend any more.

Thurmanmurman · 04/07/2019 12:59

There is no age limit to having fun, she sounds boring AF and probably jealous.

Afairopinion · 04/07/2019 13:01

Ditch the friend.

Busybusybust · 04/07/2019 13:05

I’m envious! (And so is she)

AtrociousCircumstance · 04/07/2019 13:07

Yeah that's no friend. Has she ever been this unpleasant before?

I guess the upside is you have learned that this person is not worth your time. Someone who judges you harshly over harmless, joyful, life-affirming things is someone to eject from your life forcibly!

Overmaars · 04/07/2019 17:58

I'm in my fifties and went to my first festival last year. She's either jealous or deadly dull. Keep on rocking.

Overmaars · 04/07/2019 18:00

And I'm as far as u can get to a 'paaarty'' person! But blimey what's wrong with having fun or doing something different.

IncandescentShadow · 04/07/2019 18:22

Why does no-one seem capable of a quick retort, putting the rude friend in her place?

RosaWaiting · 04/07/2019 18:28

Incandescent sometimes it’s shock, sometimes it’s just being human.

Sometimes I can think of one but it might not be wise to say it.

PlinkPlink · 04/07/2019 18:29

Tell them to fuck right off.

Like others I suspect it comes from a place of jealousy.

I desperately want to go to Glasto and Boomtown. I don't think there's an age limit on festivals so your friend can jog on.

Festivals are amazing. You're free to listen to music and dance and act like a twonk if you feel its necessary. Some people hate the idea of someone else being so free.

I'm 31 (today) and plan to check a few festivals off my list before i reach 50 but I suspect I will keep going well past then.